Surrounded by idiots - Help!!

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by aspirant, May 3, 2011.

  1. LanceW

    LanceW Senior member

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    I will pay my own way and stand in for him. Please have my suit waiting for me when I arrive. PM for measurements!
     


  2. AncientSoul

    AncientSoul Well-Known Member

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    I will pay my own way and stand in for him. Please have my suit waiting for me when I arrive. PM for measurements!


    I was going to make the same generous offer but you beat me to it.

    OP, a solid wool suit will not wrinkle badly. If wrinkles are that much of a problem then may I suggest a 70/30 or 80/20 wool/mohair blend?

    Put your foot down firmly. I don't have any experience with marriages but I have a suspicion that the bride will be watching you very closely while you make this all important decision. If you give in, you may have to give in a lot throughout your marriage. [​IMG]
     


  3. in stitches

    in stitches Kung Joo Moderator

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    guy is being a total doucher. remind its your wedding, and he is being honored with the position of groomsman. the fact he is getting a free suit at all is more than generous. if he he doesnt want it all he has to do is wear it for one day and then give it back, or donate it or sell it on B&S. as a friend its the least, and i mean least he can do for you on your wedding day.
     


  4. Kurt N

    Kurt N Senior member

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    Just for the sake of variety, let me say two things on the groomsman's side:

    (1) I believe people have been getting away from having all groomsmen match perfectly, and that's one trend that's not so bad. To the extent that the conflict is driven by a requirement for perfect matchy-matchy, this was an argument that didn't need to happen.

    (2) The groomsman may (I am only speculating) not have deep pockets, so he sees this as his one chance to get a custom-tailored suit he's going to use a lot. In his mind he'll get better use out of the suit if it's a wool/poly. If this is his thinking, it's at least understandable.

    But I agree it's low-class for a groomsman getting a free suit to insist on his own preferences. The guy's being a jerk. And I agree he's nuts to want wool/poly.
     


  5. MyOtherLife

    MyOtherLife Senior member

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    Give that mate the back of your hand and suggest he stop adding to what is already a stressful enough event in your life. On the bright side of it, there could be some money in the name 'aspirant and the 3 shiny groomsmen'; perhaps a name for a band or possibly a childrens novel.
     


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    divitius Well-Known Member

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    Tell him if he doesn't straighten up you'll have them all wear morning coats and top hats! [​IMG]
     


  7. Bill Smith

    Bill Smith Senior member

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    This guy sounds like a tit. Lie to him. Tell him you spent a long time with your tailor finding a matching cloth with a bit of polyester. Emphasise how much hard work this was. How many hours you spent leafing through swatch catalogues to get just the right look. And how, finally, you managed to do it. Get the other groomsmen in on it, if you need to. When the suit starts to crease, tell him he's clearly completely fucking inexperienced with suits (which is obviously true) and that he has to learn to look after it properly, like a big man. This isn't just any old blend (remember how much work it was?). Lastly, it's your wedding. If he doesn't like it, find another groomsman.
    +1 Why are you being held hostage by this village idiot? Crap, he's getting a decent suit made for him, find a new groomsman. There's a reason why if I ever get married I'm not going through this BS, it will be a miniscule ceremony.
     


  8. intent

    intent Senior member

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    Why do they all have to match? Just tell them all to wear suits of similar colour.
     


  9. aspirant

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    Thanks for the replies guys =D

    Can't ditch him b/c he's a very good mate.

    The current Miss is buying dresses for all her bridesmaid so I don't want to look like a cheapass.

    It would be nice to be able use these suit at the next guy's wedding in 5-6 years. Tradition sounds good. Would the suits be able to last that long if it had a maximum of 20% polyester?

    We're blowing 60k AUD (more than USD hehehe...) on the damn wedding already so it might as well be good.
     


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    Let it be. He is your good mate anyway.
     


  11. BlackShoes

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    Thanks for the replies guys =D

    Can't ditch him b/c he's a very good mate.

    The current Miss is buying dresses for all her bridesmaid so I don't want to look like a cheapass.

    It would be nice to be able use these suit at the next guy's wedding in 5-6 years. Tradition sounds good. Would the suits be able to last that long if it had a maximum of 20% polyester?

    We're blowing 60k AUD (more than USD hehehe...) on the damn wedding already so it might as well be good.


    Why are you asking for advice if you are going to ignore it?
     


  12. viator

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    Have the guy's measurements taken. Then order his suit in the fabric you want.
     


  13. mktitsworth

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    I think the tradition angle is a great argument for why you shouldn't do it in a poly blend. Plus the "I'm paying for the whole thing, and it would really mean a lot to me if you weren't a tosser" argument. As a last resort, if he insists on a blend, I'm sure there are other blends which might suffice - wool/cashmere, wool/silk, etc...
     


  14. satorstyle

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    Have the guy's measurements taken. Then order his suit in the fabric you want.


    My thoughts exactly. Then take the tag out, what he doesn't know won't hurt him.
     


  15. Reevolving

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    First, tell him he knows nothing about suiting.
    Then, tell him to fuck off, shut up b/c you're paying, and appreciate the wool suit.
     


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