Sure, she gets a ring, but what do I get?

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  1. itsstillmatt

    itsstillmatt The Liberator Dubiously Honored

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    I got a platinum Jaeger le Coultre wristwatch.
     


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    It's an old school thing, and maybe strictly limited to the Cantonese - I really don't know. I do know that the bride's parents are supposed to pack a bag for the prospecitve husband though, including a suit, in Taiwanese tradition. My brother's wife is Taiwanese, and asked him and his fiancee at the time to choose the suit with the instructions "just get something he likes", and I know that he toyed briefly with the idea of hitting them up with a big dollars item, but thought better of it - especially since their wedding gift from his in-laws was a condo in downtown Toronto.

    Edit: I think I gave them a book.


    Apropos of nothing - In the interest of full disclosure, my witnessing of the previously mentioned ceremony was via DVD video of it, and came without commentary. One interesting thing I saw was a large exchange of gifts between several of the parties, all of which seemed to come in the same colored boxes, and included, for the prospective groom, the aforementioned watch, cufflinks, a tie, and other items. I had the impression that they had come from the same store, either a jewelry store (excluding the tie), or some sort of store that sell items specifically for this purpose. Perhaps this offering included a suit, I am not sure, but I doubt it, because the proportions necessary for a suit would have blown the mind of the average Taiwanese tailor, and I sincerely doubt they are stocked OTR. Think NFL offensive lineman, or small Sumo wrestler.

    -Sorry, didn't mean to hijack the thread!!
     


  3. rdawson808

    rdawson808 Senior member

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    I got a platinum Jaeger le Coultre wristwatch.

    While I appreciate the watch itself, note the "less than $1000" criterion I stated. Sorry Matt, I don't know you from Adam, but this strikes me as purely bragging. Can't you simply say "I received a very nice watch"?

    Thanks everyone for your comments. I think in the end I will go with the pocket watch. I have always liked them (and own two already) and it will be something I can wear often and always be reminded of her.

    bob
     


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    DocHolliday Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Is anyone else having visions of Lucy Liu in Payback?[​IMG]

    That movie is way underrated.
     


  5. itsstillmatt

    itsstillmatt The Liberator Dubiously Honored

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    While I appreciate the watch itself, note the "less than $1000" criterion I stated. Sorry Matt, I don't know you from Adam, but this strikes me as purely bragging. Can't you simply say "I received a very nice watch"?

    Thanks everyone for your comments. I think in the end I will go with the pocket watch. I have always liked them (and own two already) and it will be something I can wear often and always be reminded of her.

    bob



    Sorry, I didn't read the initial post, and it didn't cost her a thing as it was a family heirloom of hers.

    I personally think that the best gift that you get is a wife. Other than that, I wouldn't rally know what to ask for.

    I apologize if I offended you in any way.

    Matt
     


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    While I appreciate the watch itself, note the "less than $1000" criterion I stated. Sorry Matt, I don't know you from Adam, but this strikes me as purely bragging. Can't you simply say "I received a very nice watch"?

    Thanks everyone for your comments. I think in the end I will go with the pocket watch. I have always liked them (and own two already) and it will be something I can wear often and always be reminded of her.

    bob


    Good choice, I am sure you will be happy. Just make sure to have the back engraved with "I love you and mean you no Chinese disrespect."
     


  7. oscarthewild

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    From this take the bolded advice.
    Sorry, I didn't read the initial post, and it didn't cost her a thing as it was a family heirloom of hers.

    I personally think that the best gift that you get is a wife. Other than that, I wouldn't rally know what to ask for.

    I apologize if I offended you in any way.

    Matt


    and embelish it with the bolded advice from here:

    Good choice, I am sure you will be happy. Just make sure to have the back engraved with "I love you and mean you no Chinese disrespect."

    Maybe you want to wait after the wedding to suggest this brilliant idea! Please post feedback here. Those of us who are married may learn something. [​IMG]

    Don't mean to offend but its Friday and I feel frivolous. hey check it out Friday and Frivolous - could it be they have the same root?
     


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    I agree with this advice, both that the gift should be more permanent and the cufflinks suggestion.

    I myself did not receive an engagement gift, but I did receive a wedding gift. An Omega Speedmaster Chronograph, which I will always have unless I choose to pass it on to my son, assuming I have one someday.



    I got a Speedy for graduation, I'll never give it up.



    I vote for cufflinks.
     


  9. Ranjeev

    Ranjeev Senior member

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    I am getting married in the summer and my lady is getting me a watch (under a $1000-maybe an Oris). I really appreciate the gesture because I would never buy myself something so expensive even though I really want a nice watch.

    My in-laws are paying for my outfit to the reception. My family is paying for her outfit. Traditional Indian stuff. There's all sorts of other traditional Indian stuff that is passed between the families-jewelry, furniture, etc.. I really like hearing about these cultural traditions. Keep it coming guys.
     


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    In Chinese tradition, giving a timepiece as a gift is strictly verboten. It is seen as a sign of great disrespect, Patek or otherwise. Shoes are generally a no-no as well, although there are not the same connotations, just the typical Chinese (or maybe it's just Cantonese) superstitions vis a vis unfortunate puns. Seriously.


    I think a watch is OK, but a clock is forbidden, since the pronounciation of clock in Chinese is the same as "end". To "give clock" sounds the same as to "give end", which in Chinese means to send off the deceased. As for shoes, I think it's b/c the pronounciation is the same as "evil". In cantonese, I heard that the pronounciation for shoes is same as the sound of a sigh, so it also has bad connotations in that dialect.
     


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    I am getting married in the summer and my lady is getting me a watch (under a $1000-maybe an Oris). I really appreciate the gesture because I would never buy myself something so expensive even though I really want a nice watch.
    I've always thought that there were 2 kinds of perfect gift. The first is something that the recipient has always wanted but couldn't justify buying. The second is something the recipient didn't know they wanted but will absolutely love on reciept. It's tricky to find the right thing, but you'll know when you've found it.
     


  12. Ranjeev

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    Max, I could not agree more.

    Matt, the idea of passing a family heirloom from her family to you is very cool. Btw, nice watch.

    Bob, I have a bit of a bias but I agree with your choice of a watch. Are you looking at something new or an antique?
     


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    Agree with the links and belt buckle suggestions above, though I think these would make equally nice gifts for groomsmen.
     


  14. globetrotter

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    I actually got a nice watch from my in-laws as a wedding present, but it really wans't my taste, and I couldn't get rid of it, so it has been sitting in a drawer for 7 years.
     


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    My wife got me a necklace; a heavy box chain with an engraved disk. It cost much less than her ring (though, most cars cost much less than her ring...) but I never take it off.
     


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