Sure, she gets a ring, but what do I get?

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  1. rdawson808

    rdawson808 Senior member

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    Question for you all: my gf says that she feels she should be me something for our engagement (hasn't happened yet so hold the applause that I am sure you are dying to give [​IMG] ). My first reaction was Shoes, of course. Then I thought that maybe a pocket watch would be nice.

    So if your fiancee were to buy you an egagement gift what would you like? My only guidelines are that it would be under $1000 (probably more like $500) and that it would be clothing, shoes, accessories, etc. (i.e. no booze or car stuff or electronics, etc.).

    Let 'er rip.

    bob
     


  2. aportnoy

    aportnoy Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Sixteen years ago I got a pair of Edward Green mink suede Malverns.[​IMG]
     


  3. AlanC

    AlanC Minister of Trad

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    I would suggest something more permanent as a remembrance of the event such as cufflinks. Tiffany has some appropriate options starting at around $100.
     


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    No gift for my engagement. Wedding gift was Breitling Wings Automatic. My advice, skip the engagement gift and hold out for a Patek.
     


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  6. chorse123

    chorse123 Senior member

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    I think an antique pocket watch would be a great gift. It's special, it's "jewelry," and it is far less likely to wear out than a suit or shoes. And it is less likely to be lost than cufflinks.

    I didn't get an engagement gift (other than my wife). But my father bought me a pocket watch for my 18th birthday. It gets infrequent use, but it's in fantastic shape, is beautiful, and cost somewhere in the neighborhood of what you're looking at. Mine is an Elgin opera watch, white gold, 17 Jewel, size 12, with art deco arabic numerals. A little like this, but different numbers:

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    topcatny Senior member

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    I would suggest something more permanent as a remembrance of the event such as cufflinks. Tiffany has some appropriate options starting at around $100.

    I agree with this advice, both that the gift should be more permanent and the cufflinks suggestion.

    I myself did not receive an engagement gift, but I did receive a wedding gift. An Omega Speedmaster Chronograph, which I will always have unless I choose to pass it on to my son, assuming I have one someday.
     


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    whoopee Senior member

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    Some consider the gifting of timepieces inappropriate for weddings as they imply impermanence.
     


  9. LA Guy

    LA Guy Opposite Santa Staff Member Admin Moderator

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    Some consider the gifting of timepieces inappropriate for weddings as they imply impermanence.

    In Chinese tradition, giving a timepiece as a gift is strictly verboten. It is seen as a sign of great disrespect, Patek or otherwise. Shoes are generally a no-no as well, although there are not the same connotations, just the typical Chinese (or maybe it's just Cantonese) superstitions vis a vis unfortunate puns. Seriously.
     


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    In Chinese tradition, giving a timepiece as a gift is strictly verboten. It is seen as a sign of great disrespect, Patek or otherwise.

    Interesting, given the fact that I recently witnessed an engagement ceremony in Taiwan, I believe it was a tea cake something or other (forgive my ignorance) where among the gifts given to the prospecitve groom by the bride's parents was a watch (brand un-important, but high end). Should we take that to mean that they harbor ill will toward the marriage? Seriously, no joke, I am curious. (One of the alternatives being, of course, that they pay less attention to Chinese symbolism than I do.)

    At any rate, it seems there are several of us whose wives meant us great disrespect on the day of our wedding. Or at least great Chinese disrespect. [​IMG]
     


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    Dakota rube Senior member

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    Might be the perfect occassion to break out the:

    MY G/F GOT
    A 5 CARAT RING
    AND ALL I GOT
    WAS THIS LOUSY
    T-SHIRT

    (Sorry guys, it is finally spring on the Plains and I'm celebratory.)
     


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    I hate it when my wife Chinese disrespects me.
     


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    I hate it when my wife Chinese disrespects me.
    I wish mine would start! My wife clearly is far too respectful. [​IMG]
     


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    Is anyone else having visions of Lucy Liu in Payback?[​IMG]
     


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    Interesting, given the fact that I recently witnessed an engagement ceremony in Taiwan, I believe it was a tea cake something or other (forgive my ignorance) where among the gifts given to the prospecitve groom by the bride's parents was a watch (brand un-important, but high end). Should we take that to mean that they harbor ill will toward the marriage? Seriously, no joke, I am curious. (One of the alternatives being, of course, that they pay less attention to Chinese symbolism than I do.)

    At any rate, it seems there are several of us whose wives meant us great disrespect on the day of our wedding. Or at least great Chinese disrespect. [​IMG]


    It's an old school thing, and maybe strictly limited to the Cantonese - I really don't know. I do know that the bride's parents are supposed to pack a bag for the prospecitve husband though, including a suit, in Taiwanese tradition. My brother's wife is Taiwanese, and asked him and his fiancee at the time to choose the suit with the instructions "just get something he likes", and I know that he toyed briefly with the idea of hitting them up with a big dollars item, but thought better of it - especially since their wedding gift from his in-laws was a condo in downtown Toronto.

    Edit: I think I gave them a book.
     


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