Stuck in a rut... any advice?

[FidelCashflow]

I need some advice, I'm 24, and my life is stuck in a rut right now. Everyday I get up, go to work, come home, watch tv and surf the internet until it's time to go to sleep. My life has turned into that old Bill Murray movie groundhogs day.

I'm 24, and after I graduated from university 2 years ago, I've fallen out of touch with alot of friends who went into different faculties, who have their own careers, some have moved away. Since I started work about a year ago, I was in an very demanding professional program which killed any remnants of my personal life by requiring me to spend pretty much all my evenings and weekends studying. Recently I finished the program, and I have no idea what to do with my free time. On top of that, I have a friend who fell on some very hard times awhile back, and I helped him through it. He's probably the one person I actually hang around with, but in a way it's bad because I think that might have lead to the decay of other friendships over time.

I left my old job about a month back, where I was actually pretty close with everyone I worked with since we all started together and went through the program together. I'm at a new job where it's great, but i don't have the same level of closeness with everyone. It's not to say I don't get along with my co-workers, but they're work friends and nothing more.

What can I do to get myself out of this funk? Of course I go to social functions whenever possible, but I'm usually the quietest one in the room and more or less a fly on the wall.

 

[hossoso]

Originally Posted by FidelCashflow

I need some advice, I'm 24, and my life is stuck in a rut right now. Everyday I get up, go to work, come home, watch tv and surf the internet until it's time to go to sleep. My life has turned into that old Bill Murray movie groundhogs day.

I'm 27. My life has turned into that old Bill Murray movie Ghostbusters 2. Help.












I'm not joking.

 

[lmaligaya]

sounds like you have found alot of free time that you don't know what to do with? do you have a hobby? for me, working on cars is something that i can do to no end, it keeps me happy, and makes me happy when i am down.

try to find something to do by finding something new and interesting. spend some time wandering your local bookstore/magazines. i'm sure you will find something.

also, don't discredit your one friendship so fast, they are hard to come by. best of luck

 

[MCsommerreid]

Maybe partying will help.

Seriously. No more "functions", but the kind of crazy parties or concerts where you have no choice but to get active with people. Might not meet interesting people there worth keeping around, but being dragged into social interaction can jump start the ole self-assuredness which can lead to not being the quiet one at functions.

Plus, it's fun.

Also, drinking.

 

[MetroStyles]

Fidel,

I went through something similar, if not factually at least emotionally. Also while I was 23/24. I'm still 24 now.

For me though, I partied a lot when I was 22, 23. I had a great time when I first graduated. Big city, good job. Partying a lot, and lots of different girls. I felt like I was a pimp - like I had it all. Lots of friends and social circles. Then for some reason, I started hating it all. The job, the city, the dumb girls, the drinking. My whole life was pointless. I didn't do anything I was actually enjoying. My libido died and I stopped hooking up with girls. I thought I needed a girlfriend to cheer me up, but I realized that a domicile life wouldn't make me happy either. It was scary because I had no idea what went wrong. I was literally "in a rut" and had no way to get out. I thought I would have to move out and start over.

But then I visited a girl that is dear to me in another state. We had a really fun time together, I felt more emotionally connected to her and happier than I had been in months. I got back to NY, and I was happier than I had been for a long time. It wasn't infatuation or love - I was happier about everything! My job got better. My libido got a fresh boost. I was back to my old self and loved life.

I know this situation is a little different than yours. But we were both on paths that kind of killed our lust for life over the last couple of years. I think the trick is to rediscover the fact that there is so much excitement in life - and it all revolved around connections with great people you like and love.

If I were you, I would think about surrounding myself with people I really like. Develop some friendships. It's not hard if you go out of your way. You have to break out of your comfort zone and meet some new people, and have each other become a part of each others' lives, whether its dudes that become your wingman for epic nights or girls that you experience that spark with - platonic or sexual.

There are a lot of ****** people out there, but there are also a lot of amazing ones, and if you give them a chance and look at the world optimistically, you will find them. Believe me, as I felt like life was meaningless only a few months ago.

 

[Dakota rube]

Originally Posted by MetroStyles

///There are a lot of ****** people out there, but there are also a lot of amazing ones...
Nah. They're all ******.

 

[sho'nuff]

Originally Posted by FidelCashflow

I need some advice, I'm 24, and my life is stuck in a rut right now. Everyday I get up, go to work, come home, watch tv and surf the internet until it's time to go to sleep. My life has turned into that old Bill Murray movie groundhogs day.

I'm 24, and after I graduated from university 2 years ago, I've fallen out of touch with alot of friends who went into different faculties, who have their own careers, some have moved away. Since I started work about a year ago, I was in an very demanding professional program which killed any remnants of my personal life by requiring me to spend pretty much all my evenings and weekends studying. Recently I finished the program, and I have no idea what to do with my free time. On top of that, I have a friend who fell on some very hard times awhile back, and I helped him through it. He's probably the one person I actually hang around with, but in a way it's bad because I think that might have lead to the decay of other friendships over time.

I left my old job about a month back, where I was actually pretty close with everyone I worked with since we all started together and went through the program together. I'm at a new job where it's great, but i don't have the same level of closeness with everyone. It's not to say I don't get along with my co-workers, but they're work friends and nothing more.

What can I do to get myself out of this funk? Of course I go to social functions whenever possible, but I'm usually the quietest one in the room and more or less a fly on the wall.

You seem to have a good head on your shoulders at 24 that is a respectable accomplishment, helping out friends and succeeding yourself, heck when I was 24 I was still messing around playing video games and feigning sickness not to go to class.
I would have kicked his ass if I saw that me now.

For a person like you who may be going through a 'rut' or been detoured into unexpected routes that may not be the best for yourself per se but as a character and relational view you are investing, you have a directive I'm sure in life and just keep doing what you do faithfully, the purposes for your life will reveal themselves to you I'm sure.

 

[Eason]

Originally Posted by Dakota rube

Nah. They're all ******.



^^^ This way to the misanthropy thread -->>

Originally Posted by hossoso

I'm 27. My life has turned into that old Bill Murray movie Ghostbusters 2. Help.












I'm not joking.

Man, I ******* WISH my life was like Ghostbusters.

 

[Eason]

doubleretard

 

[FidelCashflow]

Originally Posted by sho'nuff

the purposes for your life will reveal themselves to you I'm sure.

I hope so.