Spanking

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  1. erdawe

    erdawe Senior member

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    Spanking is fine on say a continuum of the child's developmental state. As more complex reasoning comes into play (usually with age and maturity) it loses its effectiveness. Explanations for why the action is wrong should be in place as the kid gets older, and it should be done soon after the misbehavior takes place.

    Obviously, spanking needlessly or irrationally is dumb and somewhat cruel. Not a big fan of public spanking either.

    Yes, I was spanked as a child. Perhaps too late in the game than I should have been, but think I turned out fine.
     


  2. Big Pun

    Big Pun Senior member

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    I was spanked. When it was the appropriate response to my actions. Never out of my parents' irrational anger or outbursts. I think it was a good thing.
    same here.
     


  3. DBoon

    DBoon Senior member

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    ... but then again they are years ahead of other children their age in logic, academics, maturity, ect.)
    I can't stand precocious children, but the adults who enable them are the worst [​IMG]
     


  4. Matt

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    yup, I was spanked and I'm all for it. Similar to Kyle, I probly deserved every date with my dad's belt that I ever had.

    Kids today aren't scared of their parents....I think this is a bad thing. I was fucking petrified of my dad....I think this is a good thing. I watch my friends with their kids, who are running around like mewling squealing little pricks, and they're like 'Christopher...I'll put you In Time Out' - and little Chris is looking back up at them like 'so?'..."I'll lock you in your room!"...well the little fucker has an X Box in there, he doesn't give a shit.

    When I was a kid, my dad would just take his belt off, look at me, put it on the table with a look that said 'fucking try it, kid'...and I was smart enough to not try.
     


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    uvmboi13 Senior member

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    ^ That is awful!

    Spanking has obviously made those who were spanked think it is "ok" now...
     


  6. uvmboi13

    uvmboi13 Senior member

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    Whether you decide to reason with your children or spank them, all that matters is that you do it out of love (and not anger). I don't have children, but if I ever do, I will spank them when I think it's appropriate.


    You should be locked up. It is called abuse.
     


  7. Matt

    Matt [email protected]

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    Incorrect.

    There is a big difference between a quick whack and being abused. I was beaten exactly once by my uncle when I was 16 after my father had died and my mother was at her wit's end trying to deal with the evil little punk I had become.

    Looking back, I probably had that coming too, and I was a lot closer to adulthood by that time (not like I was 4 or 5, I was 16) but by any technical or legal definition, then that was abuse.
     


  8. holymadness

    holymadness Senior member

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    I was spanked, probably just like everyone else in my generation. I don't know whether I am any better or worse off for it. At the time it instilled little discipline in me, but I was a real hellion.

    I don't feel very comfortable physically disciplining children and I'm not sure how I'll react when I have my own kids.
     


  9. Mark from Plano

    Mark from Plano Lifestyle change - no homo

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    ^ That is awful!

    Spanking has obviously made those who were spanked think it is "ok" now...


    How old are your children?
     


  10. cross22

    cross22 Senior member

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    If you believe spanking is an appropriate form of punishment/discipline for children would you think it is also appropriate for adults? Why not tie someone to a pole and whip the shit out of them the 3rd time they get a speeding ticket? Viva Saudi Arabia.
     


  11. Thomas

    Thomas Senior member

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    I was spanked in my youth, but we do not spank ours for a variety of reasons.

    What has been challenging is that we really have to think our way around stopping a behavior and then bringing about the change we want. It's not as simple as a swat - like it was when I was his age - and then it forces us to follow through on our threats. If we take away a privelege for a week, it has to be a week and not 6 1/2 days.
     


  12. Mark from Plano

    Mark from Plano Lifestyle change - no homo

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    If you believe spanking is an appropriate form of punishment/discipline for children would you think it is also appropriate for adults? Why not tie someone to a pole and whip the shit out of them the 3rd time they get a speeding ticket? Viva Saudi Arabia.

    How old are your children?
     


  13. globetrotter

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    I voted "have children and spank" even though I really have only spanked once. I believe that spanking, and corporal punishment, is reasonable.

    my son is 8. when he was 3, he had a major tantrum in a mall at christmas time. I picked him up to carry him out, and he wacked me, hard. I tried to get him to calm down, and he basically was yelling and fighting. so I pinned him down on the floor, and said, very calmly "I am bigger and stronger than you, and if you try to use violence then you will always find somebody bigger and stronger than you, so it isn't a good idea". he kept fighting, so I poked him with my index finger on his forhead. I said "see, I can hurt you with just one finger, do you really want to keep fighting?" he said yes, so I poked him again, and then he gave in and I made him appologize. about 3 months later he started to have a tantrum, and I showed him my index finger, and he calmed down. that was the only violence I have had to use on my son. his normal punishment (again, not very common) is that I make him bring me a toy and I either break it or put it away for a period of time.


    one of my 3 year old girls had a tantrum a while back, and after trying to calm her down several times, I put her over my knee and slapped the top of her theigh a few times. that worked. I haven't had to do it again.

    my kids are very disciplined - I get compliments all the time from other parents on how polite and well behaved my kids are, and how disciplined. they stand up to speak to adults, for instance, and they say "please" "thank you" and "excuse me".
     


  14. Fuuma

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    How old are your children?

    Have you ever beaten a girlfriend? I mean sometimes there is just no other way to make them understand.
     


  15. holymadness

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    I voted "have children and spank" even though I really have only spanked once. I believe that spanking, and corporal punishment, is reasonable.

    my son is 8. when he was 3, he had a major tantrum in a mall at christmas time. I picked him up to carry him out, and he wacked me, hard. I tried to get him to calm down, and he basically was yelling and fighting. so I pinned him down on the floor, and said, very calmly "I am bigger and stronger than you, and if you try to use violence then you will always find somebody bigger and stronger than you, so it isn't a good idea". he kept fighting, so I poked him with my index finger on his forhead. I said "see, I can hurt you with just one finger, do you really want to keep fighting?" he said yes, so I poked him again, and then he gave in and I made him appologize. about 3 months later he started to have a tantrum, and I showed him my index finger, and he calmed down. that was the only violence I have had to use on my son. his normal punishment (again, not very common) is that I make him bring me a toy and I either break it or put it away for a period of time.

    Looool.
     


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