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Spanking

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Douglas, May 4, 2010.

  1. Douglas

    Douglas Senior member

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    No, not that kind of spanking. Yeaahhh, uhh, no, not that one either.

    I'm curious to know about the prevalence and attitudes of those on the forum towards parents spanking their children. Specifically, do you/did you/will you spank your children as a form of discipline?

    For further clarification, the poll is not asking if you yourself were spanked - it is asking if you do/did/will spank your own children, though your own experiences as the spankee are certainly welcome topics of conversation.

    Poll options are pretty self-explanatory, though if you have very small children (as I do) who are still below the age at which spanking would be a reasonable measure, please vote with the "no children" blocks as appropriate.

    Poll is private. Discussion on this might be interesting.
     
  2. GusW

    GusW Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    it just seemed to me that when I was spanked growing up it was more out of anger or the emotions of my parents than for any good reason. I also had a few friends who never got spanked and they were good, happy people.
     
  3. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Senior member

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    I was spanked. When it was the appropriate response to my actions. Never out of my parents' irrational anger or outbursts. I think it was a good thing.
     
  4. darkdream

    darkdream Senior member

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    I am nowhere near to having children (just a college student). All the studies I have read showed negative results in children who were spanked vs those who were not. I do not believe in spanking. My folks believe in whipping, not spanking, which I think is worse. I believe you should try to reason with the child (my very young cousins I have babysat seem to respond well to lecturing them, but then again they are years ahead of other children their age in logic, academics, maturity, ect.)
     
  5. Blackhood

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    Interesting case study: I was spanked and my sister was not (I'm an oldest child by 2 years so by the time my sister came along they were too busy with me to discipline her as rigorously.)

    I've never been unemployed, work very hard and generally achieve highly. She has never held down a job for more than three months and generally appears to think the world was created simply to give her what she wants.

    I don't know if it is linked, but I certainly intend to spank my kids. I think its a good way of forcing kids to respect their elders, which is something thats missing from society on the whole.
     
  6. FidelCashflow

    FidelCashflow Senior member

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    I was spanked. When it was the appropriate response to my actions. Never out of my parents' irrational anger or outbursts. I think it was a good thing.

    +1
     
  7. uvmboi13

    uvmboi13 Senior member

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    For those of you who voted to spank, you are sick sick people. Please don't have children.
     
  8. darkdream

    darkdream Senior member

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    I really dislike when I see parents spank their children in public and worse of all if it is not the child's fault, but just the parents letting out their frustration on their child.
     
  9. Dragon

    Dragon Senior member

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    I was spanked. When it was the appropriate response to my actions. Never out of my parents' irrational anger or outbursts. I think it was a good thing.

    +1

    For those of you who voted to spank, you are sick sick people. Please don't have children.

    -100

    Whether you decide to reason with your children or spank them, all that matters is that you do it out of love (and not anger). I don't have children, but if I ever do, I will spank them when I think it's appropriate.
     
  10. ZhiMingBuFanDe

    ZhiMingBuFanDe Senior member

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    My father spanked me with his shoehorn, which hurt like a bitch. I learned some very valuable lessons through that shoehorn.
     
  11. jpeirpont

    jpeirpont Senior member

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    I strongly believe in spanking.
     
  12. Reggs

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    http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases...0924231749.htm

    There's also something very creepy about people who were spanked being so zealously insistent on how they deserved it.
     
  13. Eason

    Eason Senior member

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    Parents physically punishing children as a form of discipline (and never out of anger) when they deserve it, is sorely needed.
     
  14. crazyquik

    crazyquik Senior member

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    I was spanked, but probably only once or twice. It was more the threat, and knowing that it existed, than the actual act.
     
  15. ratboycom

    ratboycom Senior member

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    I was spanked, but probably only once or twice. It was more the threat, and knowing that it existed, than the actual act.

    This was the same for me. I think it worked pretty well.
     
  16. erdawe

    erdawe Senior member

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    Spanking is fine on say a continuum of the child's developmental state. As more complex reasoning comes into play (usually with age and maturity) it loses its effectiveness. Explanations for why the action is wrong should be in place as the kid gets older, and it should be done soon after the misbehavior takes place.

    Obviously, spanking needlessly or irrationally is dumb and somewhat cruel. Not a big fan of public spanking either.

    Yes, I was spanked as a child. Perhaps too late in the game than I should have been, but think I turned out fine.
     
  17. Big Pun

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    I was spanked. When it was the appropriate response to my actions. Never out of my parents' irrational anger or outbursts. I think it was a good thing.
    same here.
     
  18. DBoon

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    ... but then again they are years ahead of other children their age in logic, academics, maturity, ect.)
    I can't stand precocious children, but the adults who enable them are the worst [​IMG]
     
  19. Matt

    Matt Senior member

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    yup, I was spanked and I'm all for it. Similar to Kyle, I probly deserved every date with my dad's belt that I ever had.

    Kids today aren't scared of their parents....I think this is a bad thing. I was fucking petrified of my dad....I think this is a good thing. I watch my friends with their kids, who are running around like mewling squealing little pricks, and they're like 'Christopher...I'll put you In Time Out' - and little Chris is looking back up at them like 'so?'..."I'll lock you in your room!"...well the little fucker has an X Box in there, he doesn't give a shit.

    When I was a kid, my dad would just take his belt off, look at me, put it on the table with a look that said 'fucking try it, kid'...and I was smart enough to not try.
     
  20. uvmboi13

    uvmboi13 Senior member

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    ^ That is awful!

    Spanking has obviously made those who were spanked think it is "ok" now...
     

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