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Some dude grabbed my wife's ass

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by distinctive, Oct 13, 2008.

  1. Hard2Fit

    Hard2Fit Senior member

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    As long as the perp had a chance to apologize you were more than justified.
    Good work and more power to you.
     
  2. Hard2Fit

    Hard2Fit Senior member

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    After we declined to buy, a teenager, selling candy bars for his basketball team, asked my wife if he could eat that. She asked, eat what. He said "dat strawberry shortcake".

    Those were his last words...


    that I remember hearing before departing the area with haste.


    LOL funny.
     
  3. VKK3450

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    The fact that his wife is a drama queen does not warrant her get her ass grabbed against her wishes. Saying shit is one thing, guys doing it to flirt with girls they know or who are obviously single is one thing, laying your hand on another man's wife like that is another thing entirely. That stuff might go on regularly, but so does people getting their ass kicked for touching the wrong guy's girl.

    I agree that it's more likely to occur in that environment and if he doesn't want to take the risk at all he should put him and his wife in that position, but that doesn't mean that he should let it pass without any consequences. If a guy's going to get drunk and grope a woman he doesn't know, he does so at his own risk.


    I would agree in most situations, but we dont know which bar these guys were in. Much of Athens can be a total meat market and if you want to hang out in these joints, you need to know that it comes with the territory. I dont know how old the OP or his wife is, but if they look young, then dudes might not even think to look for wedding rings in some bars. And sometimes it's not like anyone cares. I've been up for game days and been post partying and had married & single women grab my ass / crotch / lay a kiss on me. Its not even that they are always hitting on you, it just a rambunctious atmosphere.

    My point about her being a drama queen is that combined with alcohol (and the OP said that he also had a few beers in him), there is every possibility that the situation was perceived the wrong way / communicated in an exaggerated manner / overdramatized. Of course you have to back up your wife, but keeping in mind that this sort of activity is par for the course, you've been drinking, your wife is a bit of a drama queen, etc, etc...

    K
     
  4. DNW

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    No seriously, this isn't New York and for the most part...people are really cool here. I wouldn't expect anyone to carry a knife or gun. Call me naive if you will. No my wife didn't expect me to get in a fight and she probably stopped one by suggesting we leave. He crossed the line when he said "You liked it". How about an apology? Sure, it's a drunken college town and yes one might expect this to happen...but one should be held accountable for his actions.
    You were in Athens, right? I spent enough time there to know that, if you or your wife told one of the bouncers about what happened, that kid probably would've been bounced out in a NY minute. As you said--and I agree--the bartenders and bouncers are, for the most part, pretty cool people in that neck of the woods. Drunken assholes are never good for business, and the bouncers wouldn't hesitate tossing them out or banning the asses from the bar.
     
  5. VKK3450

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    Ohh, and I'm not saying that he shouldnt have said anything to him, any one of us would have. And an apology should have been in order, but this

    ... That really ticks me off and so I go into angry husband mode and start versing him on how he should learn to respect women. He tries to walk away and I grab his shoulder, he cusses me out and I throw him down in the bar...classy right?

    sounds more like the OP felt like the guy wasnt giving him enough respect, turning away, cussing at him, and thats why he got physical.

    K
     
  6. jpeirpont

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    You were absolutely restrained. Your reaction was competely correct.
     
  7. texas_jack

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    THat's good stuff. I would have just walked up and sucker punched him.
     
  8. johnapril

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    In Pakistan the guy would be dog food.
     
  9. VKK3450

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    In Pakistan the guy would be dog food.

    In Pakistan his wife would be home cooking dinner not hanging out in the bar drinking after the game.

    K
     
  10. sho'nuff

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    So my wife and I and several of her friends went out after the Ga/Tn game in Athens Sat. I'm watching the Fl/LSU game in another part of the bar when my wife comes up to me. She can be a drama queen sometimes but she tells me that some guy just grabbed her ass. Now I was ready to blow this off but she tells me it wasn't a tap but an actual grab and squeeze. Not only that, she confronted him and he says "You liked it." That was the final straw.

    I'm not normally a confrontational person but things like this really get me going (that and I've had a few beers to boot). I go up to him and he starts playing dumb like what are you talking about...who?...etc. Then I say "her"-referring to my wife behind me and quirks this little smile. That really ticks me off and so I go into angry husband mode and start versing him on how he should learn to respect women. He tries to walk away and I grab his shoulder, he cusses me out and I throw him down in the bar...classy right? So he gets up and starts like shaking his PBR at me like a drunken fool. A few final words and my wife forces me to leave the bar.

    I got some points with the wife but I wasn't really proud of my actions.

    How would you have handled the situation?


    i would have gotten really angry as well. i wouldnt stand for that crap if anyone pulled it on my wife.
     
  11. jaymovement

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    you did the right thing. anything short of murder is acceptable when it comes to dudes violating your wife.
     
  12. Mauby

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    So my wife and I and several of her friends went out after the Ga/Tn game in Athens Sat. I'm watching the Fl/LSU game in another part of the bar when my wife comes up to me. She can be a drama queen sometimes but she tells me that some guy just grabbed her ass. Now I was ready to blow this off but she tells me it wasn't a tap but an actual grab and squeeze. Not only that, she confronted him and he says "You liked it." That was the final straw.

    I'm not normally a confrontational person but things like this really get me going (that and I've had a few beers to boot). I go up to him and he starts playing dumb like what are you talking about...who?...etc. Then I say "her"-referring to my wife behind me and quirks this little smile. That really ticks me off and so I go into angry husband mode and start versing him on how he should learn to respect women. He tries to walk away and I grab his shoulder, he cusses me out and I throw him down in the bar...classy right? So he gets up and starts like shaking his PBR at me like a drunken fool. A few final words and my wife forces me to leave the bar.

    I got some points with the wife but I wasn't really proud of my actions.

    How would you have handled the situation?


    I'd say you handled yourself pretty honorably. I've always said: why hit someone when you can throw 'em instead? You definitely earned those points with the wife. In the end, you walked away...that does take class to do as our egos always want us to fight.
     
  13. Tarmac

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    She was asking for it. Just kidding
     
  14. matadorpoeta

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    why take your wife to a bar? and to a college bar at at that? you were asking for trouble.

    also, i have this long story i don't feel like typing out right now, but to make it short: you never know who is carrying a knife, and someone with a knife can kill you in an instant. avoid conflict with strangers as much as possible.

    edit: if your wife were so special as to merit violence because someone grabbed her, perhaps she would also be too special to hang out at some dive bar where people drink beer and watch football games.
     
  15. bmulford

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    Being protective of your wife is kinda expected. Most men know this instinctively and will apologize on the spot. That fact this guy mouthed off instead of saying, "Sorry, didn't mean any disrespect" validates an escalation. He didn't think you'd do anything, so he pushed it.

    You did him a favor in the long run. Next time he'll either A) not grab random ladies rear ends or B) realize there are consequences, and apologize instead of being a prick.


    I've had two instances with this. One where someone apologized, and one where they didn't. Both were at bars/clubs (don't frequent them much anymore).

    ....
     
  16. gdl203

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    Is this the ITG reunion party? The one were assault and battery are promoted widely? Great. Nice thread.

    There is something extraordinarily backwards, cro-magnonesque and mysoginistic about a man completely over-reacting about anything surrounding his female...

    (no please - don't break my knee caps)
     
  17. Gravitas

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    Shit is not cool even when it is ass-grabbing. But excusing it is even worse. So if you take a wrong turn and end up in the ghetto you deserve to be shot? Or if a girl wears a low-cut dress she is asking, nee begging, to get raped?

    Overall, teach him a lesson. Your reaction was warranted at the very least.
     
  18. Schnurretiger

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    From my clouded European point of view, don't the Americans have some pretty tough laws on sexual harassment? Call the cops (you don't know if this guy is armed and then who will protect your wife's rear end?) and have him taken away. Maybe a night in jail will be more helpful than your pushing him. What could he get for an offence like that? Would they cut his cock off or send him straight to the gas-chamber?
     
  19. matadorpoeta

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    Is this the ITG reunion party? The one were assault and battery are promoted widely? Great. Nice thread.
    i'm with you. perhaps i'm a bit jaded, but someone grabbing someone your wife's ass should not merit you losing your cool. violence can lead to you being harmed, which is not worth it, or the other guy calling the police on you, which again is not worth it.

    if anything, you should teach your wife to hit the guy herself.
     
  20. globetrotter

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    I would say that matodor and GD both have a good, strong point, but the OP was perfectly in his rights to do what he did.
     

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