Some Common Decency, Anyone?

[Mr. Lee]

Having joined this site a few months ago and enjoyed the discussion and more than a few purchases, (all of which went great) I feel compelled to comment on what I regard as a rather pervasive level of rudeness in many of the responses to questions. Ballbusting in life every now and then is fine, (I count myself as a ballbuster) but when someone asks a question nicely (and the questions usually are nice), they don't deserve being dumped on, especially by third parties who are not part of the original exchange. Example: Q: "How does it fit?" A (from third party): "He posted the measurements!" None of your business. Here's a response I got: "Why don't you grown some and make your own decision?" Neither nice, nor even helpful. And if you want to read some real good ones, look at the exchange between me and this SoCal guy who thinks he is...well, I'm sure it has something to do with a personality disorder for which I honestly hope he is getting treatment.

As I mentioned in a previous reply, the cyberspace format is no excuse for saying things you wouldn't dare say to someone's face. This site should be about exchanging opinions, providing information and buying and selling clothes. And all of this should be done as gentleman should conduct themselves. A little sarcasm here and there is fine, I suppose, but this other **** has got to go.

Does anyone have a contrary view?l

 

[aj_del]

Originally Posted by Hehlol

It's rich watching a bunch of people who try so hard to be 'classy adults' on the Internet act exactly the way children would when criticized. A new poster said something about the community being tasteless and now the community's actions have basically proven him correct. It's amazing how you guys do it and still believe yourselves so refined. Styleforum is a great place to come to learn about brands and quality and options, but it isn't a place to come about actual style. Use the forum for what you can, for some people it's posting in threads about all the new stuff they bought on credit, for others, it's reading about what others bought, learning about these items and investigating based on their own taste.

Originally Posted by 19hundred

StyleForum, moreso than any other forum I frequent, is riddled with thread-***** and snark. Oh yeah, and telling people their question shouldn't be a new thread. Agree that it's addictive to make fun of people on the internet, but wow, that's all that's happening here lately. It seems the only utility this forum has anymore is for searching past posts. Even then you have to wade through nonsense to find the few honest answer to genuine questions. But it's the only option, because to go and post a new question and expect fresh and relevant dialogue, well, LOL, good luck. I will also say that there's a super clicky feel to this forum. There's a handful of members with >#k posts that scour every new post and use it as an opportunity to show how witty they are, they then jack off all over each other with inside jokes, and leave with a hint of feigning some supreme knowledge of style that you aren't cool enough to be bequeathed with.
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[Eustace Tilley]

^ That second guy misspelt cliquey in his post. That's all I really noticed.

 

[Miles Gloriosus]

Originally Posted by Mr. Lee

As I mentioned in a previous reply, the cyberspace format is no excuse for saying things you wouldn't dare say to someone's face.

What makes you think I wouldn't call you a jackass to your face?

 

[aj_del]

Originally Posted by Mr. Lee

A little sarcasm here and there is fine, I suppose, but this other **** has got to go.
BTW, where is Vox these days ? If he's gone, I feel we should hold a wake for him. If we can have one for Butter, surely Vox should have one ...

 

[Makoto Chan]

I've enjoyed the simultaneous processes of learning a lot from Styleforum, and getting to know Styleforum, over a few months. I don't think it's such a bad place. Maybe your expectations are a little too high: just because it's a site about being a gentleman, doesn't mean it's free from the usual problems on an internet message board.

It's unreasonable for a newcomer to do no research, to not use the Search button, or to ask an impossible or vague question and expect lots of good help. It's also unreasonable to be impatient or thin-skinned when he gets mocked. The good point is that even after a few dismissive (or derisive) posts, you pretty much always get a good answer or a helpful discussion here.

 

[Metlin]

Originally Posted by aj_del

BTW, where is Vox these days ? If he's gone, I feel we should hold a wake for him. If we can have one for Butter, surely Vox should have one ...
Where in the world is Señor F. Corbera, err, Voxsartoria?

 

[edinatlanta]

**** you noob

 

[rgoldstein]

End well, this will.

 

[Dakota rube]

Originally Posted by Mr. Lee

Does anyone have a contrary view?l

Yes.
I think I do.

 

[Archivist]

http://www.styleforum.net/showthread.php?t=80727

A disproportionate number of participants here are barley old enough to be out of short pants. It has something to do with the overall tone.

 

[Dakota rube]

^Well, maybe.
But I am one of the oldest here, and I'll kop to being an indecent prick most of the time...

 

[edinatlanta]

Originally Posted by Dakota rube

^Well, maybe.
But I am one of the oldest here, and I'll kop to being an indecent prick everytime...

ffy

 

[MetroStyles]

Oh STFU already. I've asked a bunch of newbish questions on the MC forum and have not been ridiculed about them. If you do your research first and post in an intelligent manner, usually people are civil. Clearly you are doing something wrong if you are consistently getting rude replies.

 

[Archivist]

Originally Posted by Dakota rube

^Well, maybe.
But I am one of the oldest here, and I'll kop to being an indecent prick most of the time...

Yeah, but you're amusing.