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Slight twist on "What to wear to a wedding"

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Fabienne, May 10, 2006.

  1. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    June Catholic wedding between a Colombian lady friend and an American man, both in their twenties. She'll be about 5 months pregnant at that point, so I'm not sure she'll wear white. The reception starts at 2pm.

    Question: Are there colors, outfits I should avoid? My most formal dress happens to be white linen, but I'll be delighted to find an excuse to go shopping.

    How about a 3 year old boy, how would you dress him for such a wedding?
     
  2. Luc-Emmanuel

    Luc-Emmanuel Senior member

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    I just love catholic weddings with 5 month pregnant bride. Not that it has anything to do with the topic...
     
  3. Fritz

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    Yes, you should avoid the color white. Wearing white is the bride's privilege, whether she choses to do so or not. You may go shopping now ;-)
     
  4. Bradford

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    Oh, I'll bet she still wears white [​IMG]

    You should wear any other summer color depending on the formality of the wedding.

    As for the 3-year-old, if he's anything like ours nothing will stay tucked in for long. I really like the dressy up look with a button-down shirt, pants and a vest. A tie doesn't stay on more than 10-minutes, so it's pretty much a waste of time.
     
  5. tiger02

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    I think there's a law somewhere that says 3-year-old boys have to wear white shirt, black clip on tie (can be bow), gray suit with shorts instead of pants, white socks to the knee, and black and white saddles. At least, that's what my parents told me [​IMG]
     
  6. DocHolliday

    DocHolliday Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    I think there's a law somewhere that says 3-year-old boys have to wear white shirt, black clip on tie (can be bow), gray suit with shorts instead of pants, white socks to the knee, and black and white saddles. At least, that's what my parents told me [​IMG]

    I'm pretty sure it has to be a bow.
     
  7. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    A doubt:
    Should I assume that, if the invitation is sent to Mr. and Mrs. So and so, then their child(ren) is/are not included?

    As to the tie on the child, as long as it's "comme papa", he'd wear it without protest.
     
  8. skalogre

    skalogre Senior member

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    A doubt: Should I assume that, if the invitation is sent to Mr. and Mrs. So and so, then their child(ren) is/are not included? As to the tie on the child, as long as it's "comme papa", he'd wear it without protest.
    It has been my experience so far that at least in this country, Fabienne, children are never named specifically in invitations of the sort, I think it is assumed that they would be present. I am sure one of the natives though may be able to shine some light on it for us. Edit: Lawyerdad is quick to the draw [​IMG]. Go with what he mentioned.
     
  9. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    Thanks, Lawyerdad. The mix of cultures makes it a little harder to determine etiquette, but yes, you are probably right. True, he wouldn't enjoy the long mass, but would however love the reception, as he's very social.

    I'm thinking about getting a suit (with a skirt, not pants) instead of a cocktail dress.
     
  10. LA Guy

    LA Guy Opposite Santa Staff Member Admin Moderator

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    If it is an afternoon wedding, Burning Torch and Gary Graham has some amazing pieces this summer. I think that for an informal, evening wedding, the "Argentine" dress by Alexia Admor (available at www.letrainbleu, use coupon "toutie" for free shipping is amazing, and and an amazing deal as well. Actually, you might like a lot of the stuff there. Use this Elm sheer duster as a cover up when it gets cooler in the evening (it will also soften the look with its loose shape and I think that you will be partial to the bohemian feeling):

    http://www.shopworthwhile.com/produc...tegory=jackets

    Good luck.
     
  11. acidboy

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    imo, and based on my observations and experience, if in doubt leave the children at home. besides, i don't think majority of kids really like going to these adult parties, anyways. leave them with their grandparents or somebody you can trust with and some money for movies or a nice place to eat.
     
  12. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    If it is an afternoon wedding, Burning Torch and Gary Graham has some amazing pieces this summer. I think that for an informal, evening wedding, the "Argentine" dress by Alexia Admor (available at www.letrainbleu, use coupon "toutie" for free shipping is amazing, and and an amazing deal as well. Actually, you might like a lot of the stuff there. Use this Elm sheer duster as a cover up when it gets cooler in the evening (it will also soften the look with its loose shape and I think that you will be partial to the bohemian feeling):

    http://www.shopworthwhile.com/produc...tegory=jackets

    Good luck.


    I love most of the pieces by Burning Torch (not for sale in my State, though). The "l'Argentine" dress(http://www.letrainbleu.com/shopdressesparty.html)
    is gorgeous indeed, that green would work with my complexion, and they have an extra small... Very affordable too. I have many shawls and pashminas, one of them would be likely to work. I'm just wondering about the decollete, which does not seem very flattering?
     
  13. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    My son will be staying with his grandma, on visit from Europe, and friends for the afternoon, I wouldn't want to make anyone feel uneasy.
     
  14. globetrotter

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    Fab,

    when we got married, the whole kid thing was very problematic. I think that we were paying about $50 a head per guest, with everything. so a couple bringing 3 kids would add a $150 tab to our bill. I remember the whole period up to the wedding as a great deal of tension about who to invite and who not to - what to have and what not, etc. at the time, I really hated the idea that people I knew slightly might bring their kids and end up costing me money that I could be spending on something that I really wanted.

    also - my best friend(who did bring his 3 year old, who was specifically invited)'s 3 year old, sat on the ground in front of the pulpit and played quietly, looking very cute and drawing alot of attention. if we didn't really love the kid and my friend, it would have been very annoying. not that he was doing anything bad, but that he was drawing attention.

    at my sisters wedding - when my son was 2, I spent the wedding ceromony in he lobby with my son, to aviod exactly that - my son can attact a lot of attention and I didn't want to take away from my sisters day.


    bty - my wife, a member of a very good bogata family, says that in bogata nobody (of her circle) would wear white to a wedding (except the bride), because there are no seasons in bogata.
     
  15. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    Globetrotter,

    She just told me they invited about 200 people and expect 170 or so to show up. I totally understand, about children at weddings, I have had similar experiences as you.

    My friend is, I believe, from a well-to-do family in Medellin.

    White: is a sequined off-white shawl acceptable over a dress of another color, such as the one recommended by LAGuy?
     
  16. Bradford

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    Fabienne -

    I would ask specifically if your son is invited. People (OK - my mother-in-law) told my wife and I that we shouldn't allow children at our wedding, but my I consider my friend's children to be a big part of who they are - and I insisted that the children be allowed to attend. Maybe it's just because I like kids, but I love it at weddings when the little kids are all out on the dance floor - and I've seen some really cute scenes where the bride and bridesmaids are dancing with multiple children.

    As to the shawl - I see no reason why white can't be used as an accent color. It just shouldn't be the main theme of your outfit.
     
  17. Mr. Checks

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    Easy: if the kids aren't invited specifically, don't bring them.

    My distant, distant, cousin showed up at my wedding, uninvited, with spouse and three kids.

    It was okay, though, because they did drop a $5 bill into a card for us, apparently to help defray the cost.
     
  18. globetrotter

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    Easy: if the kids aren't invited specifically, don't bring them.

    My distant, distant, cousin showed up at my wedding, uninvited, with spouse and three kids.

    It was okay, though, because they did drop a $5 bill into a card for us, apparently to help defray the cost.


    LOL - boy, Mr. Checks, I understand what you are saying completly. I am looking back a 7 years, I guess I will remember this with the same type of force when I have kids going off to college.


    of course, now I love kids, but the money issue made me so uptight at my wedding, that I really was concerned about unexpected numbers.



    about the shawl, Fab - here is what my wife said "a good family would consider it tacky to wear white in Bogata" - that doesn't mean that they would frown on your wearing a white shawl, just that they wouldn't do it themselves there. you can consider it sort of like a trad rule - nice to know about, but not something that you need to follow. and you can bet something valuable to you that a good famly in bogata and a good family in medillin probrably both look down at each others way of doing things - such is life.

    good luck
     
  19. Dakota rube

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    Easy: if the kids aren't invited specifically, don't bring them.

    My distant, distant, cousin showed up at my wedding, uninvited, with spouse and three kids.

    It was okay, though, because they did drop a $5 bill into a card for us, apparently to help defray the cost.

    Your cousin's not named Eddie by any chance, is he?
     
  20. Fabienne

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