Rubinacci ties are not 3.5" as a rule. They vary between 8 ond 9 centimeters depending on the type of silk, the pattern and the construction. Personally, I like that range. Perhaps I like 9 cm more than 8 cm right now, but I go back and forth. Since you are a bespoke client, I defer to your superior experience, but on the Rubinacci webstore, the woven ties are 9cm/3.5 in, the knits 7cm/2.75 in.