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Silently Judging Me - and my clothes!

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by Augusto86, Sep 13, 2006.

  1. Augusto86

    Augusto86 Sean Penn's Mexican love child

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    Has anybody on this forum ever experienced REVERSE discrimination because of their sartorial inclinations? I've heard through a number of friends and acquaintances that there are scattered individuals around the campus I live on that I'm arrogant, entitled, extremely wealthy, and snobbish. Clearly, only the first and last are true.

    The basis for their opinions is my habit of wearing good shoes, blazers, and tailored shirts. Now I'll admit that I stand out a lot, but I never expected people to judge me negatively based on what is really a fairly conservative style.

    Experiences?

    I also had an opposite experience, where a friend's girlfriend was convinced I was an arrogant musclehead because I like to sit in my OWN suite's living room, playing Halo 2 and wearing an A-shirt. Yeah, wife-beaters in public is pretty classless, but this is MY ROOM. Also, I'm not exactly 'dieseled' - BMI of 20.
     


  2. Get Smart

    Get Smart Don't Crink

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    Has anybody on this forum ever experienced REVERSE discrimination because of their sartorial inclinations? I've heard through a number of friends and acquaintances that there are scattered individuals around the campus I live on that I'm arrogant, entitled, extremely wealthy, and snobbish. Clearly, only the first and last are true.

    Too bad the middle 2 arent true, then all the ho's would wanna rock with you.

    Honestly, if I see a young man (under 25) dressed too much like an older man (OCBDs, blazers, think AAAC trad) , my first reaction is that he's "trying too hard" and "doesn't he know he has plenty of time to *grow up*". I'm not saying a younger man has to dress in ripped jeans and tshirts all the time, but a person can dress well and very nicely without looking like a Brooks Bros ad.

    But you gotta rock the way you need to, so if that's your thing then just do it and damn everyone else.
     


  3. Nantucket Red

    Nantucket Red "Mr. Fashionista"

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    Has anybody on this forum ever experienced REVERSE discrimination because of their sartorial inclinations? I've heard through a number of friends and acquaintances that there are scattered individuals around the campus I live on that I'm arrogant, entitled, extremely wealthy, and snobbish. Clearly, only the first and last are true.

    Milk it and make them believe the middle two are as well! [​IMG]
     


  4. DocHolliday

    DocHolliday Stylish Dinosaur Dubiously Honored

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    I do think it's possible to wear clothes too conspicuously. Examples: constantly wearing a suit, regardless of the event, like Nixon on the beach; wearing high-end bals polished a little too shiny with casual clothes that are a bit too well-pressed; spending so much time, effort and money on dressing that it's apparent to all how much time, effort and money has been spent on dressing.

    In short, always looking a bit too brand new and catalog perfect, and refusing to dress for the occasion. It's just trying too hard. The effect becomes "Look at the items I'm wearing." And it can be very alienating.

    I think this is much more of a problem for young guys than older ones. As an old man, I hope to wear nothing but three-piece suits and fedoras. But for now, I try to keep my style appropriate for the moment, if a bit on the dressy side. (Some people, I'm sure, would say I slip over the line. My girlfriend the other day declared: "You're not John Steed!" I took it as a compliment.)

    None of this, of course, is meant to imply that's what you're doing, Augusto. Some folks are just particularly sensitive to the matter. And like Get Smart said, different strokes for different folks.

    I'm just happy I made it to the end of this post without mentioning sprezzatura.
     


  5. drake

    drake Senior Member

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    I don't ever feel any reverse discrimination because I dress appropriately. I don't wear bespoke suits to class and I don't wear jeans to black tie affairs.
     


  6. Bergdorf Goodwill

    Bergdorf Goodwill Distinguished Member

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    I'm (recently) 22.

    I bought a bunch of polos from Hollister, A&F, et. al. at a thrift store for $1 apiece for the purpose of resale. I kept wearing them as a sort of personal joke, because looking like that particular brand of douchebag is something I've not done much of.

    Curiously enough, I got a lot of compliments. Not from the same sort of people I typically would, either, but it's certainly one way to expand your appeal...

    I accidentally ended up liking one of the A&F polos (white with stripes, I would guess it to be Lacoste were the moose absent) and ended up hanging onto it.
     


  7. josepidal

    josepidal Distinguished Member

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    I have realized that a blazer in many contexts can somehow convey the appearance of being overdressed, where a fine tailored shirt with no jacket would not.
     


  8. LabelKing

    LabelKing Stylish Dinosaur

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    Like Edith Sitwell said: "I am an unpopular electric eel in a pool of catfish".
     


  9. Dragon

    Dragon Distinguished Member

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    Anyone who stands out is going to be talked about or face discrimination. It`s nice to wear fine sheep, but not to be one of them.
     


  10. Jovan

    Jovan Banned for Good

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    I've learned recently that not giving a flying fuck what people think is a good attitude to have. It's served me pretty well.
     


  11. odoreater

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    I've learned recently that not giving a flying fuck what people think is a good attitude to have. It's served me pretty well.

    It's easy to have that attitude at your age.
     


  12. Jovan

    Jovan Banned for Good

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    And I'll continue having it until I die.
     


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    odoreater Distinguished Member

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    And I'll continue having it until I die.

    or at least until Uncle Sam says that he wants his money back.
     


  14. Nantucket Red

    Nantucket Red "Mr. Fashionista"

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    or at least until Uncle Sam says that he wants his money back.

    [​IMG]
     


  15. A Harris

    A Harris Distinguished Member Dubiously Honored

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    I've been told a number of times that the way I dress is intimidating, especially to women. Too bad [​IMG]
     


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