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Should I get involved?


Jan 14, 2005
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Asia-expat perspective - yup Eric you should.

When you are an expat, your friends, colleagues and the boys around you are all you have. Yours may be the only ears within earshot.

I say do it. He needs it.


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Dec 30, 2008
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Originally Posted by Alter
One of my subordinates mentioned to me that he is going through a rough breakup with his wife. I like the guy and we have a lot in common (both expats in Japan, kids around same age, etc) so I sympathize with him.

My human instinct is to invite the guy out for some beers and lend him an ear for a night. He looks like he could use it and I could probably offer some solace as well as some practical advice about legalities and visa issues that he may face if he goes through a divorce here.

My business instinct tells me that I shouldn't get involved in his personal life so deeply. He is a direct report to me so I usually try to keep work relationships strictly professional as I am in a job position where favoritism and "buddying up to the boss" is problematic.

What do you guys think?

Engage in relations with his spouse or significant other.

Seriously though, whoever advised you to take him out and buy him a few beers with the understanding that he's not become irreplaceable or a favourite was correct. Mat also had a good point. As an expat he may have nowhere else to turn.

Alternatively you could sack him and then take him out for a few beers.

Originally Posted by Brutus
You people aren't very friendly.

Brutus was always known for being a good buddy in a time of need.


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Nov 18, 2008
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its a tough call but i would side with caution on this one. wait a bit if he isnt getting better talk to him take him to drink ect.

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