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Should I ditch my friend?

msza

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I have a friend who, once or twice a year, gets so wasted that he basically becomes an animal. I mean, he completely loses his ability to reason. When he does, he often makes a complete ass out of himself and me as a result. Once, he tried to grab my friend's boss's boobs and spilled wine on her. Another time, he accosted another woman until she left the party we were at. Both times, the people who hosted stopped hanging out with me since I brought my friend in question.

When he is sober, he is a great friend -- he has done some very nice things for me, but are these grievances enough for me to think about ditching him for good? I mean, I dont want to bring him around any new people I met because there is always the chance that he will get blackout drunk and assault someone. I have tried to address his drinking problem with him, but he doesnt seem to get it because he never remembers the stupid shit he does.

Should I ditch him? Yes or no, please.
 

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Its only once or twice a year. Most people get completely fucked more often then that. I'd say no.
 

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No, but don't bring him along to any important venues.
 

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He sounds pretty funny. I suggest getting him drunk more often and starting a blog chronicling his escapades ala Tucker Max
 

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No, and I can't help but think that it's a bit douchey for other people to stop hanging out with you based on stuff that your friend did. Oh well -- next time, record his antics and show them to him the next day, assuming he doesn't remember them.
 

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Only if it's inconvenient for the two of you to hang out without drinking. Or, you could stop bringing him along to private parties and only go drinking with him at dive bars and such. No need to give him the boot just yet.
 

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Interesting, I was expecting to see a lot of Yes's. Maybe I'm being too hard on him.

I've generally been trying to keep him away from people who dont already about his destructive/perverted side. But it gets annoying trying to do this covertly. I'm wondering if I should just tell him, "because you blatantly assault women from time to time, I dont let you hang out with my other friends."
 

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Everyone stops hanging around you for stuff *he* did? Tell them to go fuck themselves.

Tell your friend he embarrasses you when he's drunk and don't bring him to important events until he learns how to handle his booze.
 

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Once or twice a year of stupid drunken antics is actually pretty nice. Most people put up with much more. You could always clear it with him in advance, just ask him if he's going to go for his yearly binge. If it happens as rarely as you say that sort of question should make perfect sense to him.
 

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"Ditching" him is a bit childish, don't you think? Just don't hang out with him when he's drinking/drunk.

I have a friend who's an alcoholic and I simply treat him like the delinquent that he is; we only engage in constructive activities where there is no (or not much) alcohol. If I find myself in a situation where he IS drunk, I simply find something else to do.
 

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styleforum cannot suggest you ditching him when the majority insists saltricks maintain his friendship with his "wannabe baller" friend
 

msza

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Ha. Well, he's almost always drinking. If I stopped hanging out with him when he's drinking, I would barely hang out with him at all. He gets sloppy drunk frequently. It's just that he only happens to make an assault a couple times a year. Maybe that should have gone in the OP.
 

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sounds like he's an alcoholic or borderline alcoholic.

if you really don't care that much about him, ditch him
if you care about what happens to his life, then you can do the intervention-type stuff mentioned above. but if he doesn't listen to you i'd ditch him for sure.
 

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I think you shouldn't bring him along to private parties or to meet newish people. I have two friends like this and I remember to only go drinking with them, rather than bring them along with me.
 

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