she put out on the first date

[kwilkinson]

Originally Posted by edmorel

You sound like Dr. Ruth Westheimer. And you look like her too.

You know you like it.

 

[Thomas]

Originally Posted by kwilkinson

(...) Then a girl that likes sex comes along and gives you EXACTLY WHAT YOU'RE LOOKING FOR, and you call her a slut. Notice---- you don't say "no I won't sleep with you, you're a slut" but you instead **** her brains out, and THEN tell her that she's a slut. Of course, I mean why would you want to call her a slut before you got what you wanted out of her? It's not the 1950's man, get over yourself. If you want a girl to **** you on the first night, then more power to you and good luck, but don't call her a slut afterward.

Exactly. You're biting the hand that feeds you when: 1) you ask for something, 2) get what you're asking for, and then 3) disparage the person who gives you what you wanted in the first place.

Originally Posted by yachtie

You could do worse. You could have strings and no sex.

+1.

 

[grimslade]

Originally Posted by grundletaint

i'm definitely a slut. i'm just thrown by the fact that now a pseudo-dating situation has materialized. we already banged numerous times and that seems to have accelerated things....and i'm not sure i want to lock myself into anything at the moment.

normally when this kind of thing occurs, it's just for ***** and grins and there are no strings attached. this one has a couple of strings already.

Sounds ideal. You're in a pseudo-dating situation, with no uncertainty about whether there's a return on your investment. Roll with it, dude. Don't think less of her because she likes sex. Believe me, there will come a time where you will see the absurdity of this. And if you're not lucky, you'll end up marrying one of those "modest" girls you think better of, and wonder why you're not getting enough.

 

[yachtie]

Originally Posted by grimslade

Sounds ideal. You're in a pseudo-dating situation, with no uncertainty about whether there's a return on your investment. Roll with it, dude. Don't think less of her because she likes sex. Believe me, there will come a time where you will see the absurdity of this. And if you're not lucky, you'll end up marrying one of those "modest" girls you think better of, and wonder why you're not getting enough.


While "modesty" before marriage is not well correlated to the amount of sex after marriage- when it comes to the advantages of being with a woman who actually enjoys sex, Listen to this man^^^

 

[dtmt]

I knew a guy in college who had been living with his girlfriend for 5+ years, and they had been faithful to each other the entire time. They had met at a party; she went home with him that night. The next day he gave her a set of keys to his apartment, and that was about it.

I lost touch with him after graduation so I don't know if they ended up getting married or not, but the point is I don't really think it matters how soon you start sleeping together.

 

[cloudhands69]

I can sympathize with the original poster. If I hook up right away, I sometimes become less interested. I don't feel that I lose respect for her, but she seems like less of a mystery to me somehow. This doesn't happen all the time, but it has caused me to break it off early with a couple girls.

I don't think I'm being a dick about it, hating her for giving me what I asked for. Rather, I feel somehow instinctively that it is my job to chase the woman, and the woman's job to withold, until she has judged that I'm worth her time/energy. Rarely do women ask me out (though as I get older, I can tell when they want me to ask them out), I do that part. I feel driven to express the best parts of myself (no pun intended, ha!) to women that I am persuing. It makes sense that a woman, who can only be pregnant once a year (maybe), would be discriminating in the choice of her partners, while a man can impregnate many partners (oh yeah), and can be less choosy.

Maybe I am an overly sensitive guy. I do admit that I want her to think that I am special, and that she's chosen me after careful evaluation.

Still, sometimes you both just want to ****. We've all been there done that. Nothing at all wrong with it. But I think you might be foolish to expect that you could easily build a stable relationship with that as the foundation.

 

[samurai]

If you don't feel good about it stop doing it. Unless you don't ever want to be in a real relationship.

 

[cloudhands69]

Originally Posted by samurai

If you don't feel good about it stop doing it. Unless you don't ever want to be in a real relationship.

hah! That reminds me one time when I was a teenager. I tried to quit masturbating.

 

[mr.loverman]

we are animals and while we'd like to think that we're logical, we are just operating on instinct most of the time. don't waste your thoughts fretting and just enjoy the girl.