Sharing "the roster"

[merkur]

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[thekunk07]

never. my wife and i know each other for 18 years and know pretty much everyone each other's been with. i'd rather not.

 

[MetroStyles]

Roster as in introductions or simple information?

I only share if I'm cornered.

 

[GQgeek]

I don't. If pressed I'll bring-up two the two serious gfs that I actually liked and things didn't work out with, but that's about it. The truth of the matter is that I'd rather not know how many guys she's slept with either. Ignorance is bliss and all that.

 

[Johnny_5]

If you are forced to answer this question just mention serious girlfriends. The last person you want to impress with your "roster" is your significant other or her friends.

 

[thekunk07]

my friend's wife sprung on him that her number was not 8 as previously stated but 34, about 3 days before their wedding. she wore white. fail.

 

[MetroStyles]

Originally Posted by thekunk07

my friend's wife sprung on him that her number was not 8 as previously stated but 34, about 3 days before their wedding. she wore white. fail.
Oh god. 34?? I would never marry anyone with a number that high. "Try not to suck any dick on the way to the parking lot!"

 

[thekunk07]

^haha. a lot depends on age at the time. a 34 year old woman in nyc can easily experience 34 dicks.
say, 3-5 in high school, 5-7 in college, and a few every year there after.

 

[why]

Originally Posted by merkur

At what point in a relationship, should you share "the roster" (if at all) with your partner? Should you lie and should you expect to be lied to in return? Does the "rule of 3" really apply?

I never share unless they ask. Some partners ask, some don't. I think a lot know about my history or assume it (and they're probably pretty close) so they don't ask.

In my experience new partners who have just started getting to know me and want to know everything right away tend to ask. I have no qualms about telling them.

 

[MetroStyles]

Originally Posted by thekunk07

^haha. a lot depends on age at the time. a 34 year old woman in nyc can easily experience 34 dicks.
say, 3-5 in high school, 5-7 in college, and a few every year there after.

Oh it's totally reasonable. But it still is not cool with me. I'm not reasonable!

 

[thekunk07]

^ i agree. if i was single, anymore than 10-12 would be oft-putting.

 

[pscolari]

Originally Posted by thekunk07

my friend's wife sprung on him that her number was not 8 as previously stated but 34, about 3 days before their wedding. she wore white. fail.

Talk about cooking the books!

 

[thekunk07]

^haha. another friend tried on his tux weeks before the wedding and jokingly said to fiance, "once you go black..."

she replied, "i went back. i'm marrying you."

then told him about the string of wannabe rappers and thugs (her words) she dated before him.

times like these i'm glad to know my wife forever basically.

 

[edmorel]

Originally Posted by GQgeek

I don't. If pressed I'll bring-up two the two serious gfs that I actually liked and things didn't work out with, but that's about it. The truth of the matter is that I'd rather not know how many guys she's slept with either. Ignorance is bliss and all that.

"two serious girlfriends that I actually liked", how cute. Did that include the one that you took out to diner, she doggy bagged the leftovers for the dude she lived with, he proceeded to fill up on your food and then filled up her hole?

 

[GQgeek]

Originally Posted by edmorel

"two serious girlfriends that I actually liked", how cute. Did that include the one that you took out to diner, she doggy bagged the leftovers for the dude she lived with, he proceeded to fill up on your food and then filled up her hole?

No. These were girls I dated for over a year, that actually let me stick my penis in them, that weren't just using me for free food.