Blackhood
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Firstly allow me to apologise for what is sure to be anything from a stream of consciousness, rant or bitching session to a cohesive discourse on our cultural cul-de-sac.
Recently, having been reading the forums for just over a year, I have begun to notice that although great value is put on style, fit and individuality there seems to be a gaping lack of pride in gentlemanly behaviour.
This thread has been inspired by the following thread Clicky.
In this instance of course the correct advice was given, plainly state the origin of the shoes in question but do everything in one's power not to embarrass the other party involved.
I sometimes wonder if, for all our nitpicking over sleeve length, surgeons cuffs and trouser break, we aren't beginning to miss the point of being men. I was once told by my father that to highlight the ignorance of another man is one of the worst crimes one can commit.
Of course this does not mean that one cannot comment on the alternative (and more proper) practices, simply that one should not ever seek to put another down based on their level of education.
I had even begun to allow SF groupthink colour my opinion of strangers based entirely on the sartorial choices. If I see a man wearing Armani jeans my initial reaction is not to assume that the man in question has bought the best he could afford, but that he deserves pity for not being as well versed in denim selection as those "in the know".
This trend is particularly obvious in the way in which new members of the SF community are treated. Obviously answering questions that have been discussed ad nauseam would be tedious a waste of time, but I can't hope to feel there must be some way to create a standardised response which is polite but also informative.
Something along these lines:
I for one am putting my search for the finest shoe/suit/tie on a firm hold until I can honestly say that I am fit to wear the finest clothing.
Recently, having been reading the forums for just over a year, I have begun to notice that although great value is put on style, fit and individuality there seems to be a gaping lack of pride in gentlemanly behaviour.
This thread has been inspired by the following thread Clicky.
In this instance of course the correct advice was given, plainly state the origin of the shoes in question but do everything in one's power not to embarrass the other party involved.
I sometimes wonder if, for all our nitpicking over sleeve length, surgeons cuffs and trouser break, we aren't beginning to miss the point of being men. I was once told by my father that to highlight the ignorance of another man is one of the worst crimes one can commit.
Of course this does not mean that one cannot comment on the alternative (and more proper) practices, simply that one should not ever seek to put another down based on their level of education.
I had even begun to allow SF groupthink colour my opinion of strangers based entirely on the sartorial choices. If I see a man wearing Armani jeans my initial reaction is not to assume that the man in question has bought the best he could afford, but that he deserves pity for not being as well versed in denim selection as those "in the know".
This trend is particularly obvious in the way in which new members of the SF community are treated. Obviously answering questions that have been discussed ad nauseam would be tedious a waste of time, but I can't hope to feel there must be some way to create a standardised response which is polite but also informative.
Something along these lines:
this clearly has become a rant. The point I am trying to make is that while many people here have style and fit absolutely nailed, most behave in a way that would make most of our grandfathers shudder with distaste.The question you have posed to the forum has been asked and discussed many times before.
By using the search function located in the upper right-hand corner of the screen you may well be able to find a great deal of useful information that will hopefully answer your question.
you should be advised that continuing to request information that is freely available may result in hostility from forum members. On the other hand if your question cannot be legitimately answered then feel free to state this and await (hopefully) helpful responses.
Welcome to the forums
I for one am putting my search for the finest shoe/suit/tie on a firm hold until I can honestly say that I am fit to wear the finest clothing.