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serious question - when did you become a man?

globetrotter

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I was thinking about Jekyll's idea of becoming a hobo. its pretty obvious that he is a boy (no offence meant). but everyone is refering to him as a boy, and I sort of picture him about as capable as my 7 year old. the same with a lot of the posters here who are in their teens or early twenties - I don't think that they see themselves as men.


from my perspective, I saw myself as a man from a bit younger than that - probrably 16 or 17. certainly at 19 I don't think that anybody would have been concerned about my safety if I had chosen to cross the US on railways as a hobo.

what age did you feel that you were an adult? just curious.
 

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I am getting there I think, but not there yet. I still rely on my parents heavily for advice and support both monetarily and mentally. I don't think that people mature as fast as they used to. I'll probably still call my parents home "home" until I'm in my mid twenties.
 

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"They say you come twice the first time - and now I understand. I came once inside of her, then I became a man"

-Murs
 

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Interesting question. I like to see myself as a rather independent kid, but I guess I see manhood as the ability to be totally self-sufficient (even if one chooses not to be so). Without college and whatnot, I'd be pretty fucked in the real world, although I hope I'd be smart enough to figure out how to get by.

FWIW, I'm 15.
 

Thomas

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I think I first thought of myself as an adult at 17 when I moved out of my parents' house.
Then I thought I was an adult, or at least further along the path, at 23 when my career started to blossom.
Further milestones and self-re-evaluations came when I got married, and again when I became responsible for my employees' welfare, and then again when fatherhood came into the picture.

Each time I look back and think...how little I knew back then.
 

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I guess I'd say 22 when I started paying my own way and living alone. By the time I was 24 I was supporting a family so I certainly felt like a man by then.
 

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Originally Posted by Thomas
I think I first thought of myself as an adult at 17 when I moved out of my parents' house.
Then I thought I was an adult, or at least further along the path, at 23 when my career started to blossom.
Further milestones and self-re-evaluations came when I got married, and again when I became responsible for my employees' welfare, and then again when fatherhood came into the picture.

Each time I look back and think...how little I knew back then.


actually, that's a very good answer.
 

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Depends on your definition of being a man. If someone is supporting themselves and living on their own, are they a man? Not sure...
 

globetrotter

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Originally Posted by MetroStyles
Depends on your definition of being a man. If someone is supporting themselves and living on their own, are they a man? Not sure...

I guess it comes down to your definition.

my difinition came down to self sufficiency - I don't think that that is the only, or the best. the idea of the discussion would be to look at others.
 

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Every boy becomes a man when he starts to solve more problems than he creates. For me, it happened at approx. age 30.
 

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I dunno, you're an adult when you're capable of reproduction and awarded the title by society but beside that the definition is rather nebulous, even to my mind. We've invented adolescence so is it time to fragment adulthood like those nice marketers do?
 

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Originally Posted by Vito
Every boy becomes a man when he starts to solve more problems than he creates. For me, it happened at approx. age 30.

good answer

Originally Posted by Thomas
I think I first thought of myself as an adult at 17 when I moved out of my parents' house.
Then I thought I was an adult, or at least further along the path, at 23 when my career started to blossom.
Further milestones and self-re-evaluations came when I got married, and again when I became responsible for my employees' welfare, and then again when fatherhood came into the picture.

Each time I look back and think...how little I knew back then.


sweet answer
 

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Never--I'm a little boy who never grew up who has made his living for the past 30 years putting out picture books for little boys who never grew up!
 

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When I lived on my own half-way around the globe for a rather long period of time.
 

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