Sedar dinner dress

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  1. cristobal

    cristobal Well-Known Member

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    I've been invited to a Sedar dinner tonight by a good friend of mine. The invite specifically said "no suits, no ties." This kind of thing drives me crazy, as I naturally feel more comfortable wearing a suit to a dinner party/event. I decided to go with a light blue Turnbull dress shirt with sleeves rolled up and top two buttons undone, black Ferragamo belt, charcoal Incotex trousers, black silk hose and black Gucci loafers. Will this be appropriate, given the "casual" emphasis? I don't want to look disrespectful. I'm a non-practising Muslim, and I'm not familiar with religious ceremonies of any kind, let alone Passover. Help.
     
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    Stu Senior member

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    I'm not Jewish so I can't help you there, but I think it's great when a Muslim gets invited to a Passover festival. That's what makes this nation so great.

    Your outfit sounds very elegant. I think you can't go wrong.
     
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    johnnynorman3 Senior member

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    You're fine. Though I don't know the socio-economic level of this family, mine's middle class and I can tell you right now that you'll be (1) dressed sufficiently casual, but (2) dressed in nicer clothes than everyone else.

    Sedar dinner is about family and friends. Though you will most likely say prayers and recite the story of the Exodus, it is a casual atmosphere of enjoying food and family. It is not a solemn occassion (unless they are SUPER religious).
     
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    johnnynorman3 Senior member

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    By the way DON'T wear a suit -- trust me.
     
  5. LA Guy

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    I'm curious why not. Is there a hazing for first time Sedar attendees?
     
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    cristobal Well-Known Member

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    Man, I'm nervous enough as it is, I don't need to hear that... [​IMG]
     
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    I always thought it was spelled "seder".
     
  8. cristobal

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    I think it can be spelled either way (my invite spelled it -ar, but it looks like the more common spelling is -er). Like I said, though, I'm clueless, so I just went with the spelling on the invitation...
     
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    rjsphd Senior member

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    Sedars celebrate the historid freeing of Jews from slavery. One aspect of the celebration is the freedom to eat "reclined", at ease as free men. Its that aspect of the dinner that is truly at odds with a suit and a tie. As far as your hosts are concerned, the most important aspect of your participation in this holiday is that you be comfortable. And bring an appetite.

    Sedar or Seder is a transliteration to English from Hebrew, so the spelling doesn't matter much.

    Rob
     
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    Actually, I think Cristobal lives in France. That right, Cristobal?
     
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    cristobal Well-Known Member

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    I've been in Chicago for the past 2 years. I loved it at first, but I'm now getting serious Chicago-fatigue. I've never really lived in France, unless a semester in Strasbourg counts...
     

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