Responding to Unsolicited Advice/Criticism

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  1. ProfessorShak

    ProfessorShak Senior member

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    So I come from a culture VERY unconcerned with style. From my father-in-law who thinks men should never wear cologne, to my uncle who wears oversized pants and jackets. At a recent dinner, my brother-in-law of 24, said how I dress looks "too gay". I asked why, and he couldn't really answer but he went on to say, that I shouldn't part my hair and that I should stick to black more often since "it goes with everything" and that I "shouldn't wear sport coats all the time". He doesn't wear loose fitting clothes but I think his clothes are too small for him, which he responds by saying he likes tight fitting clothing. He's mostly into Armani Exchange, ALDO, and Banana Republic.

    I didn't know what to say. I just shook my head in silence. By SF standards, I'm average, but how would one respond to something like that??
     


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    lee_44106 Senior member

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    So you've got a Boo-Boo because they hurt your feeling?

    do you need a hug?
     


  3. unjung

    unjung Senior member

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    To each their own. And you're boning their daughter/sister.
     


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    emmanuel Senior member

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    I need pictures![​IMG]
     


  5. Mr. Moo

    Mr. Moo Boxercise Toughguy

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    Snark back something along the lines of "your corrected grain leather is appalling, and your Armani Exchange shirt begs for me to slap you in the face with my butler's glove."
     


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    A Harris Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    You've got to work on your slightly contemptuous stare and dismissive look-away. Combine with a quick head-to-toe and slight eyebrow raise for extra effect. [​IMG]
     


  7. PandArts

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    You've got to work on your slightly contemptuous stare and dismissive look-away. Combine with a quick head-to-toe and slight eyebrow raise for extra effect. [​IMG]

    +1 [​IMG]
     


  8. ProfessorShak

    ProfessorShak Senior member

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    So you've got a Boo-Boo because they hurt your feeling?

    do you need a hug?


    Hurt my feelings?? Not at all. My response would be the same as if someone even lower than yourself would call you an overly fed dog. I can't imagine you'd keep shut either.
     


  9. TC (Houston)

    TC (Houston) Senior member

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    If those are the best insults your inlaws can come up with, consider yourself lucky. LOL
     


  10. Irond Will

    Irond Will Senior member

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    To each their own. And you're boning their daughter/sister.

    Or brother/ son. Which would explain the "too gay" thing.
     


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    zippyh Senior member

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    At a recent dinner, my brother-in-law of 24, said how I dress looks "too gay".

    Ask him what the right level of gay is.
     


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    nordicstyle Senior member

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    Why does he care if you "look gay"? Aren't you married to his sister?

    Just tell him it's not gay, it's European (aka style). He probably still won't understand, but he'll understand. You understand?

    Also, you could explain to him how it's not your fault gay people dress well.
     


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    PandArts Senior member

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    Or you could just divert attention away from yourself by saying in an overly excited yet obviously sarcastic tone of voice.: "Hey! Are those elf shoes by Aldo!?"
     


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    EasyGoing Senior member

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    This was addressed in Zoolander.
     


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    The silent, bemused, response can sometimes work the best.
     


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