Relationships during your early 20s

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  1. YOLO EMSHI

    YOLO EMSHI Senior member

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    Is there really any point to this?

    At least in hetero relationships, It seems most women AND men around this age bracket are always only looking to be in a relationship for the following reasons
    1. for the sake of it
    2. fear of loneliness
    3. using someone as an emotional crutch
    4. to feel mature
    5. social status

    Has it been different for the other younger SFers? Is it more or less the same as one gets older?
     


  2. MarkI

    MarkI Senior member

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    this is an incredibly bleak and depressing point of view, almost seems like the way an autistic person would think.

    what if you just enjoy someone else's company, both physically and mentally?
     


  3. Brian SD

    Brian SD Moderator

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    Why do you need a purpose or end-goal? It could be that you like someone, want to be close to them and things naturally take their course, which leads into an exclusive relationship.

    It's not like you sit down over coffee with a notepad and weigh the pros and cons of officially considering yourself a couple. Or do you?
     


  4. YOLO EMSHI

    YOLO EMSHI Senior member

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    That's what I'm saying, all I'm looking for is for someone who I can hang out with and talk to sometimes, have sex with, and is capable of respecting my independence and solitude. Likewise I would do the same for them.

    However it seems that a lot of girls that I know have preconceived notions on what a relationship should be like, and expectations of what 'the man' should do and what 'the woman' should do.

    Maybe I should just hang out with different people...
     


  5. gort

    gort Senior member

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    If anything you need them to learn from them so when you are finally ready to settle down a few years later you aren't a completely inept partner and waste years learning with the opposite sex's quirks.
     


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    imunique Well-Known Member

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    People in their 20s are mostly immature and insecure, and self-centered, I guess this may be just the way it is, but not necessarily I reckon.
     


  7. gort

    gort Senior member

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    Pretty much. I don't think anyone can look back at every relationship they had in their early twenties and say they didn't act like immaturely at some point. Feelsbadman.jpg but as long as you learn from it and don't repeat the same mistakes it's worth it.
     


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    After 30 , you're too buzy to search for love combined with a serious drop in men's libido , you are ready to settle..

    That's the main difference..
     


  9. Harold falcon

    Harold falcon Senior member

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    6. Sex.
     


  10. Piobaire

    Piobaire Not left of center?

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    First, I want to tell you Mark I is a known relationship expert, so take his advice very seriously.

    Second, Harvey has given you a very valid sixth point. I would like to add a few more:

    7) If you talk nice to her, she'll buy you all kinds of shit, from drinks to paying your rent
    8) Make sure she has a nice car. Not only will she drive you places, she'll let you borrow it, and even pay for the gas
    9) Sex.
     


  11. reyesjanise

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    Haha as bleak as that may seem, being in your 20s you need to go out there and explore. There are 2 billion people on this earth. I feel like if you settled now who knows what you're missing out on. Although on the other side of things if you find a person you love and they love you equally stay in it! But you have to understand if you aren't happy and should leave.
     


  12. why

    why Senior member

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    There are even more than 2 billion people on this earth if you include the rest of the world outside of SE Asia as part of it.
     


  13. Piobaire

    Piobaire Not left of center?

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    Uh, you're missing out on the other five billion people. Duh.
     


  14. Gibonius

    Gibonius Senior member

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    Maybe he's a time traveler from 1927. Or he only counts white people or something.
     


  15. Neo_Version 7

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    +1

    Not everyone wants a reputation of being a slut.
     


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