pickpackpockpuck
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that's cool that you know so much about your lineage, and I can understand how that creates a sense of being part of something larger than yourself. i guess that's one of the big drawbacks of diaspora, that sometimes that knowledge is lost. i can trace my family tree back like a hundred years and that's it.
I have a cultural memory that spans centuries, is my point. My family tree can be traced back before the founding of this country, and has survived multiple dynastic changes. Maybe you can honestly say that this means nothing to you, but it's clearly important to many people. Otherwise, adopted kids would not look for their biological parents, and people wouldn't spend time and money trying to trace their ancestry.
This is just not true if you look through a different lens. My achievements are not purely my own. That is one of the reasons that Chinese mother's don't ***** and moan about not having "something of their own", and invest so much in their children. My achievements are considered my parents achievements, and my failings, also theirs. And what I do or do not reflects on not just my parents and myself , but on my family name. I wouldn't expect a westerner to understand, however, nor anyone who embraces individualism, which I think is one of the most lonely, and at the same time, constricting, ideologies. Read the Analects, and not just to "understand them" on a superficial, intellectual level, and you'll get it.
that's cool that you know so much about your lineage, and I can understand how that creates a sense of being part of something larger than yourself. i guess that's one of the big drawbacks of diaspora, that sometimes that knowledge is lost. i can trace my family tree back like a hundred years and that's it.