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Random fashion thoughts

Discussion in 'Streetwear and Denim' started by thekunk07, Aug 1, 2009.

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  1. Bam!ChairDance

    Bam!ChairDance Senior member

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    have @zamb email her
     
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    Definitely get that scarf back.
     
  4. Superb0bo

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    got my article rejected by Science. Fuck science as a career. On the plus side, I got an OL coat for ridiculously cheap and goth out in all black from head to toe today.
     
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  5. e0d9n0b5

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    sorry 2 hear that bobo

    fuck science!!
     
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  6. iamacyborg

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    How old is she? That last sentence just makes it seem like she's completely out of touch with the real world.

    I had a chick break up with me a few months ago with similar reasons given, still not over it :(
     
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  7. ChetB

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  8. Distorbiant

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    The best part is that you know he totally would too.


    I love zam
     
  9. Hirsh

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    I lost my dream engagement ring when my last boyfriend scammed me....and a pile of credit card bills he'd taken his name off..still paying it off...

    Trying to buy a pretty diamond solitaire to take its place but could never afford a ring like the one I had :-(

    I feel for you too!
     
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  10. Find Finn

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    Being a dick works in situations like that. :fistbump:
     
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    Fawk bitches buy clothes
     
  12. Noctone

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    Damn dude, sorry to hear it. :(

    She just turned 30 and up until now had acted like it (was a not insignificant part of why I appreciated the relationship so much). Between her email and that text it sounds like she wants fairy tale bullshit which is pretty pathetic for a 30 year old (as is breaking up over email). And she should know better because in her email she listed the only three times in her life when she's had that "certain feeling of rightness" - one was meeting her cat (even as someone who loves his dog more than anything this is fucking lol), two was moving here (she was really close to giving up and moving back home right before she met me) and three was getting into nursing (a career which she's been having a serious existential crisis about over the last couple of weeks). I'm almost 30 myself so it's kind of heartbreaking to see someone my own age be so naive and unrealistic.

    Christ, that's awful dude. How do people do that cold-blooded shit?

    It would be so hilarious I almost want to do it.
     
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    Happens. To be fair, she did also say the single funniest thing I think I've ever heard a chick say during a breakup.

    "I don't know what song we'd play at our wedding"

    We'd only been going out for a few months and had a few diverging interests, music being one of them. It was such a preposterous statement I couldn't do anything but laugh, this is after telling me how happy I make her and how I'm everything she wants from a partner. Go figure.

    /edit:

    Is she maybe having some real issues with the nursing stuff and taking her frustrations out in completely the wrong way? Worth talking to her about things if you still have feelings for her, everyone fucks up every now and again and maybe she just needs some reassurance or something.
     
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  14. Teger

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    noctone: sounds like she got scared off and isn't ready to settle down. her switch probably flipped the same time yours did, abut it frightened so she had to bail out. tough. you'll probably hear from her again in a few weeks or months.
     
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    real talk you dodged a bullet there.

    also you live in Denver go smoke some legal weed.

    also don't think of things like relationships as "the final piece" of your life. Life isn't some to-do list.
     
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  16. Biggskip

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    Yeah, this is what I read into it as well. I'll be holding out hope for you that it's a things she's going through and that maybe in a few weeks she'll come back to her senses and know that she'll want to be Noctonal.
     
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  17. Hirsh

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    Just try to put it behind you and move on...easier said than done, I know..
     
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  18. cocostella

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    Noctone - Feel for you man. My $.02: Whatever happens, do not take her back. Of course, this might not even be an option, but just in case she "freaked out" and has a change of heart... She's already shown she's capable of flipping her switch either way and dropping a bomb on you without notice, via email no less. What would be next, a text several months down the line? You don't wanna' live with those doubts in the back of your mind. As I'm sure you know, it hurts for a while, but you'll be good. Maybe grab Unc. as a wingman and slay it!!!
     
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    I figure it has something to do with it, although to what extent I don't know. Nursing isn't at all what she intended to start a career in, but rather came to her as a calling after undergrad. She's been having a really difficult time reconciling her propensity to connect with her patients with the fact that a lot of them die (she works in a cardiothoracic ICU). It's one thing to have doubts about your job, but having doubts about what you feel is your calling is probably a major headfuck. I can only imagine it might make one question everything else in their life.

    Yeah this occurred to me too. She broke off an engagement for similar reasons a year or two ago, so I'm wondering if there isn't some commitment issue at play. I can't exactly blame her, I've also been in the situation of being super into a relationship until the true gravity of where it was going freaked me out.

    Yeah more or less. I'm not sure if I'm even inclined to ever talk to her again, let alone ever consider being friends or giving her another chance if she wants it. It's hard to say right now how I'd feel about it, but the how and why of the breakup has certainly damaged any benefit of the doubt I could've given her.


    Thanks for the kind words and advice y'all, I realize this isn't really the place for this but I really value the community here.
     
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  20. Noctone

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    Forgot to quote this. Don't misunderstand me, I don't view relationships as part of some checklist. I already have a great job and live in a city I love and generally have a pretty awesome life, and she complemented that.
     
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