Benesyed
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I just want to add another perspective. In my heart of hearts I dont understand taking offense at a term when their is no intent to offend. I have heard a million and one arguments and I dont find them convincing. In my younger days I wanted to use these sorts of words, as I get older they seem less and less like something for me to use. Im still somewhat shocked that words like marsupialed get thrown around as frequetly as they do, or ****** for that matter.
The better argument for me has been a very utilitarian look at the discomfort it causes friends i care about that i fail to respect this limitation versus my desire to use the word. Isn't there some ethical value to trying to avoid causing suffering to someone when we can. Even if you get an additional instrumental enjoyment, perhaps its not worth the distress it causes another. After all, you cant be responsible for their reaction, but you can be for your actions in the first place
The better argument for me has been a very utilitarian look at the discomfort it causes friends i care about that i fail to respect this limitation versus my desire to use the word. Isn't there some ethical value to trying to avoid causing suffering to someone when we can. Even if you get an additional instrumental enjoyment, perhaps its not worth the distress it causes another. After all, you cant be responsible for their reaction, but you can be for your actions in the first place