visionology
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I know it's probably not true all across the board, but I have some questions about marriage that people always joke about and I dunno if it's true or not.Originally Posted by vanity
Do women really stop giving oral sex after marriage?
Does their sex drive plummet like everyone says?
After she has a baby, will she ignore you?
Will her debt become my debt?
Take this for what you want as I am not married but have plenty of friends, coworkers, etc and you know how guys are. We talk about the nitty gritty and we keep it candid. Most I know are semi happy after marriage but agree that life before marriage was better and they miss the freedom they once had, the fun, and the friends that seem to disappear once married. Enjoy life while you can.
a) women still give some oral sex after marriage on average but it decreases over time as does the frequency of intercourse. Sex generally becomes more mundane as well, resulting in less experimentation and more missionary positions. Of course there are exceptions but this is the majority. Often the acts decrease with children as there is less time for one to one passion.
b) I think the sex drive can plummet for both and the sex drive can also plummet just due to being around each other for so long. I think so many people cheat because they crave the freshness of an encounter and long for the feelings when the relationship was new.
c) babies will decrease the time for the couple. They need constant care, wake up at crazy times, and as they get older everything is done with the child with very infrequent trips with just the couple. It becomes a family event. Also the monetary problems resulting from afford the child can decrease sex as the arguments increase and tempers flare. I wouldn't call it ignoring, I would call it spreading the time more thin as there are more people to give love to. Just imagine spreading the love over 7 kids...
d) her debt will become your debt only if you let it. You are married but are still two people with two social security numbers. The smart thing in my opinion to do is to keep separate accounts with your own debt/money and then have a joint account where you can pay for things you both can use such as groceries, bills, etc. Too many problems arise in a relationship from money. There is no problem helping your significant other with their debt but I wouldn't take it on as your own and personally I would only help my significant other with their debt if it was good debt (like student loans) not some rediculous shopping spree.