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Proper Church wear?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by i10casual, Oct 5, 2009.

  1. Chiaroscuro

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    I'd say wear something that is respectful so no "graphic" graphic tees but at the same time you want to make sure you're dressed appropriately for the remainder of the day. Once church is finished you'll probably do something extra curricular so a respectable dress shirt and khakis should do the trick.
    Hope this helps!
     
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    I was raised in a household where we dressed for dinner, even at home, so suiting up for church wasn't any big deal. I married a Missouri Synod preacher's kid, and quickly was taught that God doesn't really much care what his flock is wearing.

    Dress to hit the high-middle of the anticipated congregation: don't stick out for your casualness nor for your stuffiness.
     
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    I was raised in a household where we dressed for dinner, even at home,
    That sounds so surreal, so everybody would go change when dinner is about to start, then 20 or so minutes later when the meal was done they'd change back into normal clothes? I've heard of that in movies, I just never visualized it.
     
  6. BB1

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    This really depends far more on where you live than the denomination of the church. On the West Coast of the US, everyone except the elderly tend to dress very casually when attending church. At most churches (including Lutheran) jeans will be the the most common thing to see people wearing. And about the most dressy you'll ever see is chinos + polo or casual button down (e.g. plaid). Wearing navy slacks + a white button down will make you look like an overdressed geek, especially if you're younger.

    But I get the impression that things are very different in South and some areas of the Midwest with people commonly wearing suits and dressing up in their "Sunday's Best" to attend church. You can see this in videos of many churches in the South.
     
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    I'd love to wear this tee this Sunday [​IMG]
     
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    I'm not even religious, but it seems to me if a suit is overdressed even for church, then when the hell is a suit appropriate?


    ...or maybe I answered my own question: [​IMG]
     
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    I'm not even religious, but it seems to me if a suit is overdressed even for church, then when the hell is a suit appropriate? ...or maybe I answered my own question: [​IMG]
    Most people I know on the West Coast only wear a suit for weddings and funerals-- nothing else. Since it has become a once a year outfit for many, it is hilarious to watch the badly dressed guests wearing their cheap ill fitting suits as they arrive at a wedding. Many of these people could afford far better, but they don't think it's worth the effort nor do they understand how badly they look. Since there are very few opportunities for them to wear one today in many communities, you can't entirely blame them.
     
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    i live in the midwest in a agricultural based town. the common thing for peeps around here, including the old folks, is to wear slacks with a button down. most people at churchs around here dont care what i wear. in the end, it revolves around being there in respect of god.
     
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    Here's a funny story illustrating how casual it has become even in some larger cities....

    My brother's in-laws have a son who's an attorney. Thinking their son was familiar with the best restaurants in town, they asked him to recommend the best steak restaurant in Vancouver (Canada). So they went to the restaurant recommended by their son with the man wearing dress slacks, a nice sweater, and a blazer. But when they got there much to their horror they saw women wearing short-shorts and t-shirts and none of the guys were even wearing a blazer. They said nearly everyone (both men and women) were wearing jeans. (Granted, it was summer though).

    The bill came to around $300 for the two of them for dinner-- hardily a low-end casual restaurant!
     
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    Why do so many people post on this board asking for advice and then just completely ignore it?
    Ok, I'll give you the attention you seem to want. Thanks for bringing up your irritation in this thread. How am I ignoring all this great and also humorous advice?
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    The south can go either way. It is very hot so the polo and jeans and white trainers get worn. But other places keep the tradition of your Sunday best. Yeah, I'll be watching what everyone else is wearing, but for the next couple Sundays I just didn't want to look too out of place.
     
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    Can a few of you please help me.?

    I am starting to go to Church (Lutheran) with my new wife. I'm pretty much a heathen and have not spent a lot of time in this type of atmosphere. What do you guys wear?

    I realise I'm a little late to the discussion but, amazingly, no one else has yet offered the simple, elegant solution to your problem:

    Convert your wife to heathenism.
     
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    I should take a picture of the dress code sign at my church. They have three pictures of inappropiate dress for females which consists of short shorts, miniskirts & bare midriffs. Inappropiate attire for a guy consists of swim trunks and not wearing a shirt.

    [​IMG]

    I like the "no cleavage" illustration at the Vatican.
     
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    I married a Missouri Synod preacher's kid, and quickly was taught that God doesn't really much care what his flock is wearing.

    most people at churchs around here dont care what i wear. in the end, it revolves around being there in respect of god.

    Exactly. He's only the Creator of the universe. Why would dressing with reverence have any relation to showing respect?

    But I get the impression that things are very different in South and some areas of the Midwest with people commonly wearing suits and dressing up in their "Sunday's Best" to attend church. You can see this in videos of many churches in the South.

    Yep, those Southerners are nuts like that in all the videos I see.
     
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    This really depends far more on where you live than the denomination of the church. On the West Coast of the US, everyone except the elderly tend to dress very casually when attending church.
    My observations are in a triangle extending from Seattle to Denver to Chicago. There is little pressure about dress in the church I go to, other then Krell-like rules. It is a wonderful place to experiment in dressing upwards. Another observation I am currently intrigued by is the difference between mainline denomination church interiors: Presbyterians interiors tend to the blue walls, white stage, well lit organ. Lutherans tend to dark wood everywhere and a organ half hidden in shadows. This is a concrete reflection of the theologies....
     
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    I attend a traditionally african-american (aka "black!) bapist church. There are few men there sadly, but to a man they wear black suits, white shirts and black ties. I am different in more ways than one.
     
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    Presbyterians interiors tend to the blue walls, white stage, well lit organ.

    I used to attend Fourth Pres on Michigan Avenue, which is an outlier - it's architecture is traditional cathedral style - soaring marble columns, stone walls, wooden roof, etc. The main morning services are highly liturgical least two-thirds of the men dress in suits or sport coats with ties...the congregation is among the most liberal/progessive in the denomination, FWIW.
     
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    I think you will be ok wearing something at the smarter but not too formal end of your wardrobe. Just dress your age. A church would not want to exclude any worshipper or make them unwelcome, but would expect that you have made some sort of effort.

    I would be far more concerned about all the committees and things people will try and rope you into as the new boy. Lot's of questions about your interests, what you do for a job etc. Haha good luck. My previous would not go to church with me, so it's nice you are doing this for her.
     
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    I used to attend Fourth Pres on Michigan Avenue, which is an outlier - it's architecture is traditional cathedral style

    Sweeping generalizations are always dangerous, yes. I started thinking about this again after going to a symphony at the Edman Chapel at Wheaton College. The chapel's blue walls, white stage, and highly visible organ is strikingly similar to the sanctuary of the Presbyterian Church of Barrington. God's sitting room, it struck me as. Very un-cathedral like.

    In our congregation it is more like one out of 5 men in suits or sport coats, exclusive of ushers. Highly correlated with age. Probably city versus country, because otherwise we are geographically very close.

    I saw a talk today by a guy wearing black chinos. The entire time I was thinking- Church Pants, hmm? Trying to show you are serious, are we? I took him less seriously than the chap wearing dark green chinos, green sweater, and blue oxford, though, alas, not because of what he was wearing.
     

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