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Polygamy: Who's for it?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Brad, Aug 15, 2007.

  1. SamIam33

    SamIam33 Well-Known Member

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    I don't think polygamy is how it's meant to be personally. Humans are jealous creatures by nature and I don't think it can end well.
     
  2. hchamp

    hchamp Senior member

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    This thread made me wonder...

    I wonder if the high divorce rates in many societies now, is like a new form of polygamy (or a flawed attempt at it). Many people have multiple wives throughout their lives, and this results in sharing experiences with multiple women, resulting in more children.

    Seems very similar to polygamy.


    A kind of serial polygamy instead of the traditional parallel kind. The reason for polygamy was to allow successful men to have more kids. Modern remarriages are usually more about companionship.
     
  3. hchamp

    hchamp Senior member

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    Mark Twain's view:

    Our stay in Salt Lake City amounted to only two days, and therefore we had no time to make the customary inquisition into the workings of polygamy and get up the usual statistics and deductions preparatory to calling the attention of the nation at large once more to the matter. I had the will to do it. With the gushing self-sufficiency of youth I was feverish to plunge in headlong and achieve a great reform here - until I saw the Mormon women. Then I was touched. My heart was wiser than my head. It warmed toward these poor, ungainly and pathetically "homely" creatures, and as I turned to hide the generous moisture in my eyes, I said, "No - the man that marries one of them has done an act of Christian charity which entitles him to the kindly applause of mankind, not their harsh censure - and the man that marries sixty of them has done a deed of open-handed generosity so sublime that the nations should stand uncovered in his presence and worship in silence."


    Half of Utah is descended from Brigham Young. [​IMG]
     
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    RJman Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Anyone seriously suggesting there is an upside to polygamy has probably not been married.

    Experience, though noon auctoritee
    Were in this world, is right ynogh for me
    To speke of wo that is in mariage
    -- The Wife of Bath
     
  7. hchamp

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    And how do you all feel about polyandry?

    From the pov of making babies, it doesn't make sense since a single woman would have a hard time having the babies of many men. And it would prolly be harder for competing men to get along than women.

    By the way, the adultery rate for women is almost as high as it is for men (both >60%), so in practice women are engaging in polyandry just as much as men are in polygamy.
     
  8. hchamp

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    Some years back I was very active in a dog club. Most all the other leading figures were women. The bitchiness, intrigues and the desire of them to recruit me to their side would have been enough to turn me off the idea of polygamy then and there.

    My first two wives were absolute demons from hell. My present wife is a royal pain in the @$$ most of the time, although viewed objectively, she is really probably a pretty decent woman, as women go.

    That being bonded to a woman is a good thing is the underlying myth of heterosexualty--that woman is life's ultimate prize. With maturity and experience, I now realize what a specious mythology it all is!


    Maybe you just picked the wrong breed?
     
  9. hchamp

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    The amazing thing about polygamy is, it actually led the US government to threaten to wage a religious war. I think it deserves a nod just to show the whole "religious freedom" thing apparently does not cover some things.

    It was only seriously contemplated because the divisions between slave and non-slave states were growing deeper and the powers-that-be needed a diversion to unite a fractured nation and avert a civil war.
     
  10. JLibourel

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    Maybe you just picked the wrong breed?

    Are you talking about my women, the dogs or both?

    All dog clubs are just as bad.

    As to the women, there is one consistent ethnic thread:

    Wife #1: German and Irish
    Wife #2: Norwegian and Irish
    Wife #3: English and Irish

    I guess the Irish are stereotypically hot-tempered and pugnacious.

    Connemara, if you're following this thread, would you care to weigh in?

    Lest anyone accuse me of ethnic prejudice, I do have a dash of Irish blood, but not nearly as much as any of my wives.

    I always did like those fair Celtic types although wife #2 favored the Norwegian side much more--so much, she said, that people would sometimes come up to her in airports and start speaking Norwegian to her.
     
  11. GQgeek

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    Are you talking about my women, the dogs or both?

    All dog clubs are just as bad.

    As to the women, there is one consistent ethnic thread:

    Wife #1: German and Irish
    Wife #2: Norwegian and Irish
    Wife #3: English and Irish

    I guess the Irish are stereotypically hot-tempered and pugnacious.

    Connemara, if you're following this thread, would you care to weigh in?

    Lest anyone accuse me of ethnic prejudice, I do have a dash of Irish blood, but not nearly as much as any of my wives.

    I always did like those fair Celtic types although wife #2 favored the Norwegian side much more--so much, she said, that people would sometimes come up to her in airports and start speaking Norwegian to her.


    English and Irish don't mix. You should have known that #3 was doomed from the start. [​IMG]
     
  12. hchamp

    hchamp Senior member

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    Are you talking about my women, the dogs or both?

    All dog clubs are just as bad.

    As to the women, there is one consistent ethnic thread:

    Wife #1: German and Irish
    Wife #2: Norwegian and Irish
    Wife #3: English and Irish

    I guess the Irish are stereotypically hot-tempered and pugnacious.

    Connemara, if you're following this thread, would you care to weigh in?

    Lest anyone accuse me of ethnic prejudice, I do have a dash of Irish blood, but not nearly as much as any of my wives.

    I always did like those fair Celtic types although wife #2 favored the Norwegian side much more--so much, she said, that people would sometimes come up to her in airports and start speaking Norwegian to her.


    The women. Since I used a people analogy to describe dogs in another thread, I thought I'd turn it around for fun and use a dog analogy to describe people. All in fun, of course. No way impyling your wives bear any resemblance to man's best friend.
     
  13. Etienne

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    And how do you all feel about polyandry?
    I am not particularly in favour of institutionalized marriage. If there has to be one such institution, I have no qualms letting people engage in whatever form of polyamoric arrangement suits them, as long as it can be proven they are not pressured into it.
     
  14. JLibourel

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    No way impyling your wives bear any resemblance to man's best friend.

    It would have been a great improvement if they had temperamentally. As my friends and I like to say, "Women for sex, dogs for love."

    Aesthetically, well...I would have people say of both Zuma and Dempsey, "That's the most beautiful dog I've ever seen." Unfortunately, none of my girlfriends or wives was ever of a caliber that anyone would say, "That's the most beautiful woman I've ever seen!"
     
  15. redcaimen

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    My wife once killed and ate a Dalmation that had wandered into our yard. No, not as tough as an Akita but the damn thing put up what I thought was a courageous struggle and I was proud of her - My wife, not the Dalmation. When I walk through the neighborhood with her I don't worry at all that she will maim small children. She can be quite maternal (she has had four litters). I am concerned she may prove too dominant and aggressive if I bring home a smaller younger woman. She can be fiercely territorial. Anyone have any training tips to avoid this?
     
  16. LabelKing

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    My grandmother has friends who have maintained a menage a trois for about 30 years; I believe they are verging on 60 years old now.
     
  17. Edward Appleby

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    Shit like polygamy may have been cool way back when when we were first firguring out this whole civilization thing and resources were at a premium but nowadays all it does is sacrifice a woman's integrity and probably do a pretty fair job of fucking up her sense of self in exchange for a more efficient way of having children, which is rather superfluous in the modern world.

    As far as its legality, the libertarian in me wants to say it's none of the state's business how many people a man marries. But realistically, I think it has enough of a tendency to lead to the commoditization of women and to infringe upon young womens' right to control their own lives that it should be illegal.
     
  18. scarphe

    scarphe Senior member

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    if man want to have 5 or 12 wives, or a woman want tohave the same amount of husbands, why should they be stopped? marriage has become a civil contract should not conditions be changable in contracts?
     
  19. hchamp

    hchamp Senior member

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    It would have been a great improvement if they had temperamentally. As my friends and I like to say, "Women for sex, dogs for love."

    Aesthetically, well...I would have people say of both Zuma and Dempsey, "That's the most beautiful dog I've ever seen." Unfortunately, none of my girlfriends or wives was ever of a caliber that anyone would say, "That's the most beautiful woman I've ever seen!"


    I take it your wife doesn't know you're here? [​IMG]
     
  20. hchamp

    hchamp Senior member

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    My wife once killed and ate a Dalmation that had wandered into our yard. No, not as tough as an Akita but the damn thing put up what I thought was a courageous struggle and I was proud of her - My wife, not the Dalmation. When I walk through the neighborhood with her I don't worry at all that she will maim small children. She can be quite maternal (she has had four litters). I am concerned she may prove too dominant and aggressive if I bring home a smaller younger woman. She can be fiercely territorial. Anyone have any training tips to avoid this?

    I hear bondage works well with some bitches. With others, introducing a hot young stud helps warm them up to the idea of company around the house.
     

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