Pocket Square and/or Lapel Flower... yay or nay?

[pickles11]

I didn't want to put this in the "wedding thread" as even though it's for my wedding, it's more about the accessories.

So, I'm wearing a black suit with the peaked lapels and this is my tie. I have decided to no wear a boutonnière and would really like to wear a lapel flower instead. I like the idea of black (more for a funeral..I know) because it's easy to miss and I like tone on tone. With this combo, would you wear a pocketsquare?

I'll also be wearing a double-breasted waistcoat.

Not sure if a simple white pocketsquare done in a straight fold would be too much? Can I wear both? Should I lose the lapel flower and stick with the pocketsquare only?

The lapel buttonhole is stitched in a dark grey, so there would be some contrast without the flower.

 

[ter1413]

-Lose the lapel flower.
-I would not wear a black suit to my wedding.
-Black suit with that tie says "drab" to me.
-Black suit with that tie and lapel flower says funeral director to me.

 

[pickles11]

Well, the wedding is at night, and the colors are basically black, white and silver. Blue would be out...and standing at 6'5" and 310lbs...I don't look good in grey. I also didn't want to wear a tux, so black suit was the logical choice for me.

 

[Joffrey]

I'd lose the flower and wear a simple flat pocket square

 

[mensimageconsultant]

To look slightly less large, wear a pocket square, preferably in cream or something else tasteful but not too formal .