Paid for an item with paypal, then changed my mind. Seller refusing to cancel, any advice?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by stylenewbie, Dec 3, 2013.

  1. scholseys

    scholseys Well-Known Member

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    Put it back on ebay, and hope someone like you buys it.
     
  2. RashedMohamed

    RashedMohamed Active Member

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  3. stylenewbie

    stylenewbie Senior member

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    Wow why are you getting your panties in such a bunch?

    It's very common to be able to return something. That's pretty basic american commerce. Not just the big box stores. The majority of individual sellers on ebay, small mom and pop stores. They have return policies.

    Normally what happens? Somebody buys something. You package it up, spend 30min on USPS printing a label, treck to the post office drop it off. Then he returns it, and you have to go to the trouble of getting the package back, and ripping off the return label. The buyer pays return shipping. That's accepted practice.

    In my case what kind of extra effort did I give this poor seller? He spent some time messaging me. That's pretty much it. Now compare that with being out $500 for something you don't want.

    On top of it, I didn't exactly like the fact that he slipped in a little note about no returns on the bottom of his invoice (it was a paragraph long). The no return policy had never been discussed before.
     
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  4. Dave510

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    The RedDevil is correct. You had agreed to buying the item, and did not check if return was accepted. Not buying it after committing is an asshole move. You argue being able to return is "basic American commerce", but don't you think knowing what you are buying and keeping your word are also basic American commerce? Besides, whether or not a seller accepts returns is a purely business decision, and has nothing to do with some American tradition or what not.
     
  5. jrd617

    jrd617 Senior member

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  6. GBR

    GBR Senior member

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    You are the fool. Buyer's remorse so just enjoy it, returning something is not your 'right' nor is it "pretty basic American commerce", that's just you trying to justify it.

    Give it a rest and don't make such a mistake again.
     
  7. gyasih

    gyasih Senior member

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    Do the right thing and just keep with your commitment.
     
  8. ChetB

    ChetB Senior member

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    +1
     
  9. jrd617

    jrd617 Senior member

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  10. size 38R

    size 38R Senior member

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    if you re-sold it, you might make a small profit. what is it exactly?
     
  11. stylenewbie

    stylenewbie Senior member

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    I'm not sure calling one an "asshole" and a "fool" and the myriad of other insults is necessary.Thanks everybody for making my day. Styleforum rocks.
     
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  12. Dave510

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    No one called you an asshole. Everyone simply said if you committed to buying then go back on that promise, then you're an asshole. See how that's a conditional if-then statement? And someone who doesn't keep his word is an asshole, I think that's not a hard premise to accept. By the way, you said RedDevil got his "panties up in a bunch", and now you're complaining about StyleForum's attitude?
     
  13. GothamRed

    GothamRed Senior member

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    The inherent danger in asking for advice is finding out you're wrong. At any rate, my "insult" (read: the crowdsourced truth you asked for) was and, for all I know still is, contingent.

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  14. stylenewbie

    stylenewbie Senior member

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    Yeah well eventually I let all the insults (and they were, come on guys no need to be snarky to try and justify it) get to me. Wish I had tougher skin, but I don't. Mother passed away a couple of months ago and still been dealing with it, so that may be a factor.
     
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  15. Ambulance Chaser

    Ambulance Chaser Senior member

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    Maybe it's the lawyer in me, but I think the OP has a colorable argument that a "return" implies that the goods have left the seller's control, which is distinguishable from a "cancelled order." If the seller meant to include the latter, he should have said "ALL SALES FINAL." I would point this out to the seller and offer to pay a restocking fee for his troubles. If he refuses, chalk it up to experience and pay up.
     

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