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Official Wedding Attire Question/Answer/Picture Thread

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by unbelragazzo, Dec 31, 2012.

  1. unbelragazzo

    unbelragazzo Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Either 3-pc or odd vest are great. There's nothing too "businessy" about a 3-pc IMHO (they make 3-pces in tweed too ya know). What will everyone else wear? If it were me I'd love to wear a tux but I wouldn't want to be dressed too differently from everyone else.
     
  2. MrDaniels

    MrDaniels Senior member

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    I think I know the over-the-shoulder thing you are referring to. But I was thinking about having someone make a sash, maybe four inches wide for you to wear over the vest and under the coat, going diagonally from your right shoulder to your left hip.
     
  3. PiCcolocV

    PiCcolocV Senior member

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    Sorry for the delay - essentially here is the current reality that I have to work with:

    • This is the infamous "charcoal tuxedo" that was selected for the men in the wedding party, groom included
    • I have convinced everyone to wear their own black dress shoes instead of the rentals
    • The groomsmen will be in the standard charcoal waist-coat as seen in the picture on the website I linked to above
    • The groom will have a light lilac with very faint floral patterning waist coat instead of charcoal
    • Father of the groom will be in the same charcoal tuxedo, and wants to do a colored waistcoat as well
    • Groom is 6'8" and can't be more than 165 soaking wet - very tall and slender (he did get fitted for the tux/suit already and it fortunately looks good)
    • All will be wearing white tuxedo shirts, tie type/color/pattern TBD
    • The wedding is a mid-day wedding Memorial day weekend, with pictures happening outside and then the reception starting mid/late-afternoon going into the night. No opportunity to change in between wedding and reception, and couple of the groomsmen wouldn't want to even if we could

    So my questions are really:

    • How should we approach the ties - all long? all bow? Bow for groom only, or vice versa? Color/pattern considering the rest of the outfit and when it will be worn?
    • Is there a place to rent the ties you will recommend, or am I resigned to having to have the party purchase them?
    • This may sound silly, but is there a place to rent a standard black dress shoe? One of my friends does not own a pair, and refuses to buy his own, so I have to come up with a solution.
    • Any other guidance on ways to make the best out of what little I have to work with?

    Thanks again for the help.
     
  4. MrDaniels

    MrDaniels Senior member

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    If your friend is THAT destitute that he won't buy a pair of black shoes then get him a pair from Payless!

    I would go with long ties instead of bow ties...this way the grey tuxes can look like a Morning Suit hybrid. It's the best you can do with what you are working with.
     
  5. unbelragazzo

    unbelragazzo Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    You can't rent ties. If you want to spend little, try tie bar. Shoes - buy crappy ones new or try to buy something used. I'd go long ties. Just pretend the satin stripe doesn't exist. In that same spirit, wear regular white dress shirts, not tuxedo shirts.
     
  6. PiCcolocV

    PiCcolocV Senior member

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    Perfect, so my final questions would be since we are treating these like suits, does this open up the color range for the ties, or should I still stick with the traditional wedding tie look? Just worried that the typical gray on white shirt on charcoal suit might look a little bland.
     
  7. unbelragazzo

    unbelragazzo Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Stick with wedding ties.
     
  8. caxt

    caxt Well-Known Member

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    For what it's worth: the traditional practice was for the Groom to purchase the ties for his groomsmen as a gift.

    +1 on sticking with common wedding ties, even that will give you a good bit of wiggle room:

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  9. pasoguava

    pasoguava Active Member

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    This is potentially an issue. If the dress is black tie optional, we'll most likely have tops eight guys in tuxedos at the wedding, myself included, out of one hundred or so men attending. Do people feel that this is enough in itself not to go with a tux or that it doesn't matter much at all?



    I looked into this and, while it's a good idea, it's apparently a common tradition for the ladies. There won't be anyone traveling from Scotland for the wedding to bust me on it were I to do it but I think I'd prefer to observe the etiquette nonetheless. Thanks again for the original thought, though, MrDaniels.
     
  10. unbelragazzo

    unbelragazzo Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    I think as long as the invite says bto you're fine. That should eliminate the blazer and khakis combinations, and those wo a tux will wear a dark suit and necktie.
     
  11. archibaldleach

    archibaldleach Senior member

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    As long as the dress code is black tie optional, you should get an elegant mix of tuxes and suits. Suits will be in the majority but there will be nothing wrong with wearing a tuxedo.
     
  12. pasoguava

    pasoguava Active Member

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    Great, that clears that bit up, thank you. Still don't know which way to go but now it simply comes down to personal preference. Thanks to all who have been contributing, very much appreciated.
     
  13. pasoguava

    pasoguava Active Member

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    I understand that this horse is taking quite a beating from me but I thought of one final concern. Can anyone speak to the notion of wearing a piece of clothing to an event (in this case, a new MTM dinner jacket) that is worn almost never by the individual? Unwise or most likely wouldn't matter? Meaning, if I wear a dinner jacket once every five years, do I run the risk of letting the jacket wear me as opposed to vice versa?

    I'm no rube, I've just rarely had occasion to wear a dinner jacket given my profession and the company I keep (broke artists).

    As always, any input would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
     
  14. archibaldleach

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    The jacket will look like it is wearing you if you look uncomfortable or insecure in it. If you like the way you look and are confident, you will look fine. Plenty of people have limited occasion to wear black tie and yet look great when they do so.
     
  15. candyspan

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    I'm sorry in advance if someone finds my other post on this topic. I just realized that I should have asked the question here instead of starting a new thread.

    I'm currently deciding on whether to get a notch or shawl lapel on my vest/waistcoat, and if it should be double breasted. It's for my outside afternoon wedding in upstate NY at a BnB/Garden. I believe that I'm set on at DB shawl option, but I've been told that it's hard to get these to fit or look great unless I find a good tailor to do it for me. I live in NYC and am wondering if there is someone here that does these well, or if there are any online options I may be able to find. I'd also be willing to purchase one used, and get it altered a bit. Any and all advice is greatly appreciated.

    Thank you, and again I didn't mean to create a "double post" on this topic in case anyone has read the other.
     
  16. unbelragazzo

    unbelragazzo Senior member Dubiously Honored

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    Wear it at home a few nights if it will make you feel more comfortable in it.
     
  17. pasoguava

    pasoguava Active Member

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    Settled. Thanks to all for the help and especially to unbelragazzo and archibaldleach. The input's been invaluable.
     
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  18. eglbc

    eglbc Senior member

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    So im getting hitched in the desert and need a lightweight casual linen or seersucker suit. Preferably a unstructured blazer. Im 6'4 so having some trouble finding sizes.

    This ervell suit really caught my eye, but trousers are too short.

    Can you guys steer me towards a midrange suit that fits the bill? Wedding is around the corner and im starting to freak out a little.

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    Is this jcrew ludlow in linen going to be a shit quality?
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  19. mymil

    mymil Senior member

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    Kent Wang! You can get MTM to your specs within ~5 weeks of placing your order for the trial suit (including some back-and-forth between you and Kent to adjust the measurements).
     
  20. eglbc

    eglbc Senior member

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    I see your in portland, is there anywhere in town you'd recommend?
     

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