Official Wedding Attire Question/Answer/Picture Thread

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by unbelragazzo, Dec 31, 2012.

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    I think either of fine, the top ones mitch be a little flashy but they are clear stones, so not so bad. Mop is more classic, and sedate. Do you have your shirt yet?
     
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    Not yet, I'm awaiting it's arrival. It's the Brooks Brothers slim fit ten pleat shirt. And the cummberbun from them as well.

    http://www.brooksbrothers.com/Slim-...dwvar_376Q_Color=WHIT&contentpos=19&cgid=0235

    http://www.brooksbrothers.com/Four-...dwvar_135I_Color=BLCK&contentpos=11&cgid=0235

    The slim fit brooks brothers shirt fit me very well, so that's why I went with that shirt, and I was given a black (bow)tie from BB that should look perfect with the cummberbun. Any thoughts?
     
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    Sounds good. Just thinking make sure you have enough studs that match. Some shirts these days need more than the traditional three. My shirt takes five, because the bib goes into the waistband, but only three show above my waistcoat, so only those three need to match, for me. I think it was finetuxedos.com, or myowntuxedo.com, where I saw some nice octagonal onyx ones for under $50. I almost bought them, but then find my vintage ones for $15, and the matching links were double sided, to boot, so I went with those. Clermontdirect.com also has some simple, acceptable ones, but they are pretty ho hum.

    Anyway, nothing wrong with the ones you posted, imo, just make sure you have the right number.

    We are taking about a self tie bow tie, right?
     
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    Where did you find your vintage studs?

    Yes, I am 90% certain I need 4 studs, not just 3, which is making my purchase of a vintage set of studs difficult. I saw those octagonal onyx ones, but I thought just a little flash wouldn't hurt at this particular occasion.

    And yes, a self tie bow tie. I'm not sure why anyone bothers with the pre tied version, it's so easy to tie. Last year I attended a wedding in Istanbul where I was the only person who knew how to tie a bow tie. Needless to say, I got a lot of practice that day.
     
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    I got them at a local consignment store. Only set they had, and she didn't know What they were.
     
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    What about the Kent Wang stud set? It looks like it comes with four, double sided with onyx on one side and mop on the other. They've also got lots of cufflink options.
     
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    Pretty nice, and at a decent price. Thanks!
     
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    getting overwhelmed and would love some input

    getting married in July
    not black tie
    I will be wearing a midnight blue tuxedo
    The fiancé's bridesmaids will be in a ballet pink (super light pink)

    I am extremely conflicted in terms of what the groomsmen should wear?
    would it be acceptable if they all wore their own black suits, white shirt and ill buy them each ballet pink ties (each tie slightly different)
    or
    all black suit, white shirt, black tie and boutonniere to match the bridal party?
    or
    have them rent a tux (i was thinking light grey or black tux)?

    thoughts/feedback?

    thanks
     
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    Don't match the ties to the bridesmaids. Blech. Do you expect many (or any) guests to attend in Black Tie? If so, I would lean toward Tuxedos, and allow them to rent/buy, as they choose. If you expect to be the only one in a Tuxedo, their own black suits sound fine. Charcoal, or navy, would be better, but if they own black, then they own black. You could do black, and/or grey ties. I probably wouldn't do silver with black, but a grey with very little sheen. Boutonierres in the wedding colour sound good, and, I assume, will keep the bride happy.

    If you do Tuxedos, Tuxedos are midnight blue, or black. If you want them in grey, ask them to wear grey suits. I'd let them get whatever suit they want, in the colour you choose.

    Personally, I'd also do your boutonniere in white, but pink would look good too.
     
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    Welcome!


    As you may have gleaned from the eleventy-hundred-plus posts in this thread: the statement above has little-to-no bearing on what a man or his friends should wear to his wedding.

    Important reading here. If you just want to do it, do whatever you like... but if you want to do it right, consider taking the advice therein.
     
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    Welcome. What the bridesmaids are wearing should not in any way determine what the groomsmen wear (unless there is no other way to keep the peace with your fiancée in which case do what you have to do). If you are wearing a midnight blue tuxedo, you can either have your groomsmen buy or rent tuxedos as well or have them wear a suit. Navy would be the best color for their suits, followed by grey. The only reason I can think of to have them wear black suits is because they all own black suits already and don't own anything else, but otherwise black should be at the bottom of the list for suits. Otherwise, navy or grey. A tie in the grey range is great if they are wearing navy suits (wedding ties work nicely here) and something in blue works well if they are wearing grey suits. Most ties are not going to look good up against a black suit and white shirt. Pink will look horrible IMO with a black suit and a white shirt.
     
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    Glad I am not in this wedding. I don't own a black suit.

    But PLEASE, follow the advice given above.
     
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    Hey all -- I would love some help with finding proper wedding dress for myself for my wedding coming up. So, to reiterate, I am the groom.

    When?
    Late May. The ceremony will be around 3-4pm and the reception will stretch to 11pm-12am.

    Where?
    Maryland, my parents' back yard. The entire wedding will be outdoors.

    Level of Dress
    Jacket & tie for guests. I am sure some will be in suits. We are not having a wedding party. My fiancee says her dress is "formal." I haven't seen my fiancee's dress, so I'm not positive how "formal" it is -- but she thinks it'll look best with a tux.

    My Concerns
    1. My #1 concern is heat. It'll likely be 75-80 and feel even hotter in the sun. It's a big priority for me not to overheat (and I know that I would in any of my standard charcoal/navy business suits). That said, searsucker is not my style and I don't think I could pull off linen.

    2. I don't want to feel like I'm in my business wear -- I wear a suit regularly for my job. I'm hoping that a light grey / blue-ish grey suit (or any tux) might help with that, especially if I wear a flower in my lapel.

    3. I want to look good -- good with my fiancee, but also just good. My fiancee is concerned that a light suit is too informal for her dress. But I'm concerned that I'll melt in a black tux, and don't want to commit the fashion faux-pas of wearing a daytime tux if I don't have to. I'd originally thought about wearing a bow tie with a suit but people on this board seem pretty anti-that. I don't want to wear morning dress, either.

    My Budget
    $1,000 for everything: suit, tie, shoes, belt, tailoring.

    My Questions
    1. Any advice on the suit/tux? I'm smaller and slender (36S) and don't look great in double-breasted stuff. I'm leaning towards Suit Supply -- I went there and really liked one of their light grey Washington fits (probably half-lined), as well as their La Spalla (but that'd blow my entire budget) and Sienna fits. I have a preference for softer shoulders, and have attached a pic of the general color that I was thinking. It's the La Spalla, which I like but probably cannot afford.


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    I also haven't ruled out getting their midnight blue tux -- they said because it was a mohair mix it wouldn't be too hot in the sun (but my fiancee isn't thrilled with non-black tuxes). I'm also considering Thick as Thieves as an option, and am open to other possibilities as well.

    2. Any advice on shoes? I own these (Santoni oxfords -- a nice reddish-brown), and was thinking about wearing them (to save myself the $200-400 new shoes will cost):

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    Think these would look nice with a lighter grey suit? I know they're not perfect, but the only other nice shoes I own are black AE Park Aves and it'd be nice to have more money to spend on my suit/shirt/tie/tailoring. For better pictures, see: http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/santoni...m_sp=personalizedsort-_-browseresults-_-1_4_B. Mine have gotten a bit darker with age.

    3. Any advice on a lapel flower/boutonnier? My preference is to get something I can stick through my lapel buttonhole. My fiancee was planning on carrying a light-pink peonies bouquet. (see image).[​IMG]

    So maybe I could stick a single small pink peony in my lapel? I generally prefer smaller clusters of flowers, and am worried a single pink girly flower is going to make me look like I'm a doll being dressed up by my fiancee. But I want to match her and am concerned that different flowers won't.

    Thanks so much!
     

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