Official Wedding Attire Question/Answer/Picture Thread

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by unbelragazzo, Dec 31, 2012.

  1. ImTheGroom

    ImTheGroom Senior member

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    Well how formal are the wedding and reception? Our wedding was quite formal, and our reception fairly informal. My guys were in mid grey suits, with white shirts and grey ties, black shoes. The monochrome look if the suit and tie, plus the white shirt made the lighter grey suit look more formal. I had on mud grey pants and a dove grey vest, so the mid grey, arguably, even made us more formal as a group, in that we were dressed more alike (to a similar form). One of the guys our on a more fun tie for the evenin. One was planning to change into a tux, but lost his pants on the train (was annoying but pretty funny). Anyway I found the mid grey perfectly fine for the day time, plus my wife preferred it. But, if you want more formal, charcoal is more formal. Charcoal is more appropriate to after sunset, though I did not think the lighter suits felt inappropriate at our reception. There are lots of pics earlier in the thread if you want to look. Does anyone else have pics if groomsmen in chArcoal suits for comparison?
     


  2. Digmenow

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    And another out of state wedding looms on the horizon for me. Early May, 2014 in East Texas. Time of day for the ceremony is currently unknown.
    I'll likely be attending as one of the distant (literally) uncles so I'll dress within the bounds that are laid out but also to please my own sense of style.

    Of greater concern to me is that the Father of the Bride (FotB) has recently come to depend on my thrifting skillz to improve his wardrobe. I am now being asked to help him dress for his role in the impending nuptials. He's 42L, which I come across fairly regularly. At the wedding of his younger daughter a few years back, he wore black tie so my hopes were high for this time around as well!

    Earlier this week, I inquired via text as to what the men in the wedding party would be wearing and the response was, "very casual, white shirts and khaki pants".

    Oh well. :plain: So be it, then. Easy enough.

    Hours later, another text arrived with this picture attached. If you are unfamiliar, it is a scene from Reservoir Dogs (1992) - IMDb Yes. Black suits. White shirts. Skinny ties. Black shoes, Wayfarers (or inexpensive clones). It could be something entirely different in another month but somehow I sense this look is the vibe that the groom and his men want to project. I dunno.
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    Regardless, I persevere in my task. I recently provided the FotB with a minty, charcoal Brooks Brothers Fitzgerald suit that IMO would serve him quite well within the framework of the slim fitting, somewhat 'gangsterish' look that the young couple no doubt envisions. I'd insist that he wear a white shirt and would provide him with a wedding tie (albeit not skinny unless I get lucky at the Goodwill sometime in the next few months).

    In the event that his apparel is absolutely required to be included in the theme however, how best to make him look like Michael Madsen's "Mr. Blonde"? Fit, as always, will be paramount but beyond that, I'm not sure what else I can do.

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  3. Digmenow

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    Yikes! Sorry guys. Looks like I'm a ...

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  4. smoothmoose

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    Nah, just most of the activity was over the spring/summer due to the natural wedding season scheduling. What I think we need is more southern hemisphere members participating on this thread...
     


  5. Van Veen

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    Wedding attire finally obtained (if not completely settled):

    Suit - BB Fitzgerald Saxxon Herringbone self-stripe
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    Tie - Drake's
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    Tie clip (maybe, haven't decided yet) - Kent Wang
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    PS - Kent Wang white linen (no pic needed)

    Shirt - BB solid white semi-spread (no pic needed)

    anonymous 100% silk
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    Socks - Dapper Classics (if these wind up looking too bright/clownish/matchy, I'll wear something more conservative)
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    Shoes - AE Harrison in black calf
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    Groomsmen will wear their own charcoal suits, white shirts, black shoes, and these ties:
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    Changing up the suspenders. The dots are the exact same size as the weave in the tie. It clashes and annoys me. Everything else is a go.

    New suspenders, just obtained from the Bay....

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    These are Dunhill (by Thurston, according to the seller) and exactly what I had in mind, so I got lucky here.
     


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    Nice!
    Wanna ship the old ones? I need some for my rig.
     


  8. buchoelbrusco

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    Hello

    I just wanted to share a pic of my morning dress a few days ago it's the only one I have by now, thanks for all the advices, I know it's not perfect but I felt really nice on it I think I made the right choice

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  9. Alex C

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    Hello all,

    I don't have a date set for my wedding, but we're shooting sometime for the end of this year if at all possible, depending on venue availability.

    We'll be doing both service and reception in one venue, starting with the service around 5:30, leading straight into cocktails followed by dinner. We intend to send invitations as "Black Tie Preferred."

    A number of the groomsmen already own perfectly suitable tuxedos on their own. I see no reason to make them all rent things less nice than they already own just to match. I'd actually prefer they not match at all really. The idea of everyone showing up with their own tuxedo in whatever style they choose sounds classically elegant to me. We'll probably put matching white carnations on each of them, with a red one for me.

    One question on the groomsmen, and then a few for me: do any of you see any issue allowing the groomsmen to wear whatever style of tuxedo shirt they own? Fly front vs. pleated, etc.? My gut says it doesn't matter and I'd rather have everyone in well fitting clothing.

    For any of the groomsmen that don't own tuxedos, I intend to give them inexpensive options to buy, or point out some nicer rental places in St. Louis. The bulk of the groomsmen are young professionals that ought to own a tuxedo anyways, but I don't want to force them into buying anything against their will.

    For me, I already own an older Brooks Brothers one button peaked lapel tuxedo that I bought a few years back on eBay on a screaming deal. It was lightly worn and after some alterations was about 90% of what I wanted it to be. I was on a student budget at the time and 90% was more than good enough, but if there's ever an opportunity to get the "perfect" tuxedo, I imagine it's your wedding.

    Ever since I saw Tom Hanks in this tuxedo:

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    I've been pretty dead set on having a double breasted tuxedo for my wedding. While I love Hanks' shawl lapel, I prefer the cut, stylings, and lapel of Jon Hamm's DB:

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    Even if I think the fabric choice is too flashy for a wedding. Something about the sheen is off putting.

    Since I started getting serious about looking for a DB wedding tuxedo, I'm having a number of issues. Firstly, there don't seem to be terribly many designers or labels that make DB peaked jackets. A few I've found:

    http://www.ralphlauren.com/product/index.jsp?productId=24773046

    http://www.brooksbrothers.com/Doubl...dwvar_615K_Color=BLCK&contentpos=49&cgid=0235

    In both shots, I can't tell whether the fit is abnormal or the photography is. The Ralph Lauren jacket seems far too short, or perhaps the model's legs are just far too Long. The BB one looks very constricting and the model looks visibly uncomfortable, like he's wearing a straight jacket.

    Does anyone have any advice on where I should begin my search for what I'm seeking?
     


  10. MrDaniels

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    If you have no intention on the men having matching tuxedos, I cannot see why you would want them to have matching shirts. The only concern in that department is if someone showed up in an ivory short instead of a white one...that could stand out in the photos.
     


  11. Alex C

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    That's pretty much along the lines of what I was thinking. Just wanted some external verification.
     


  12. ImTheGroom

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    I agree with MrDaniels, entirely on that point. Also, there are a few threads that are specifically about Black Tie, with lots of people with various knowledge and perspectives. They may be able to help you find the Tuxedo you want. "State of Black Tie" is a good one, but I think there are two or three others, as well. If you don't care about the inevitable "didn't you search for this? GAH!" responses, you could also start a thread specifically about where to find DB dinner jackets. It seems you have a very firm handle on what you want, so you need help finding it, more so than advice on what to wear. This thread is more about the latter.
     


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    Looking great. I like the bow tie; way to rock it.
     


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    I'm probably going to keep them, but if I change my mind I'll let you know!
     


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    That said, unless you trust the groomsmen, I would be clear that you want them to wear a tuxedo shirt and not just a regular dress shirt, unless you don't care.
     


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