Official Wedding Attire Question/Answer/Picture Thread

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by unbelragazzo, Dec 31, 2012.

  1. Newcomer

    Newcomer Senior member

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    The burgundy and brightly colored shirt is a concern. It is one that really will mess up the whole thing. I have a couple different ideas. First, you could offer him the option of a "wardrobe change." For the wedding itself, keep it traditional, white or blue shirt. Then for the reception, allow him to do the burgundy shirt / tieless thing. I think he would probably be OK with that.

    And I think that you have the right idea. Women have their ways to make a man feel good. Take him shopping, and splurge a little bit on a shirt. Make it your treat. I think most guys are afraid of looking like they 'care,' or, even worse, looking like they care about how they dress and get called out on it. I think that there is more than enough room for some middle ground. Take the suit with you as well, so that he can actually see what he looks like. You know how women pick out a blouse, hold it up against them, try it on with something that is close to what they would wear with it, see how it works with their complexion, etc.? Men don't do that. Heck, I don't do that. If I see a pattern that I like, in colors I like, I buy the shirt. And sometimes... it sits in my closet because I realize I own NOTHING that it works with. That is what men do. So bring the suit, go to a nice men's store, and buy him something you both agree on. I think he will respect your veto power, the same way you will respect his veto power. You have to nudge guys into this sort of thing, not go whole hog.
     


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    What price range are you thinking for all of this? That would help with suggestions.

    For boots, I know I will catch some flack for suggesting this, but I think it is a reasonable compromise--check out RM Williams or Rider Boots. Both of them make great boots, and heck, they will be better work boots than the ones he currently owns.
     


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    Thanks, Newcomer. Those are great suggestions. I agree that bringing the suit along and nudging, rather than going whole hog, is the right way to go. The dress change option might work, too.

    I typically spend a fair amount on quality dress shoes for myself (classic black pumps, that sort of thing), and am totally willing to spend the same or more on him. Anything up to about the 600 dollar range would be fine, as he really does need them (we have a lot of other people's weddings coming up, for instance) and he would probably get use out of them for several years. He has only had really cheap dress shoes before, and I think would be more enthused about them if they were comfortable.
     
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  5. MrDaniels

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    If you are taking what you are wearing to the wedding seriously, then he needs to as well. If he does not have a lot of knowledge on this topic, he should let you dress him so that his outfit meshes with how you envision the wedding.
     


  6. culverwood

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    No flack from me they are good suggestions.
     


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    Ok, thanks. Blue then :)
     


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    Medium purple and mauve are the only acceptable colors for daytime weddings.
     


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    Umm? Is it for me?
    Several gentlemen just told me that most appropriate colors for winter wedding are mid-gray and blue [​IMG]
     
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    Quote:Medium purple and mauve what? Tie? Suit? Shirt?
    I guess it really doesn't matter, since whatever your answer, it is wrong anyway.
     


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    Rory -

    Read the opening post in this thread, and read the Styleforum 101 article linked to therein about groomsmen attire.

    Having your guys in matching suits, white shirts, matching shoes and matching ties is not something you'll find endorsed here, and doesn't sound all that casual. The colour and texture of those shoes is very "country" and at odds with the rest of the outfit you describe.

    In short - buy them each a different wedding tie, and ask them all to wear a navy suit and suitable shoes of their own choosing.
     


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    Sorry, i should have been a bit clearer, they are wearing their own suits, shoes etc, it was more for myself (the groom).
    Any thoughts on the Canali tie? Or any suggestions?

    cheers
     


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    Ah ok, sorry thought you were talking about groomsmen. I prefer the drake's tie of the two you posted. The nice thing about "wedding ties" as SF has defined them, is that by having white in them they are lighter in colour and somehow manage to be both smart and jolly at the same time. The canali one looks a little dark and sombre by comparison.

    I'd definitely rethink the shoes though - tan shoes with navy suit doesn't look good to my eye, and the countryness of the pebble grain could be at odds with the rest of your outfit (unless maybe it's quite a casual navy suit). Darker brown calf, or even suede in a really dark brown if you want to keep it casual, would be better. Or black.
     


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    Yeah, i am not 100% on the tan colour, Its quite hard as i am in Adelaide, Australia and have zero local options for footwear, so i cant try on anything decent to check. Thanks for your feedback though!
     


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