Official Wedding Attire Question/Answer/Picture Thread

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by unbelragazzo, Dec 31, 2012.

  1. MrDaniels

    MrDaniels Senior member

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    The problem is that (especially around here) people are applying the standards of executive business dress to a wedding. They are apples and oranges. Suddenly it's become an abject horror to rent formalwear and have all the groomsmen match. Guess what? THAT IS WHAT HAPPENS AT MOST WEDDINGS!!! So instead of having all of the men easily get a pre-selected outfit we start trying to force a bunch of non-matching suits to try and look cohesive...and that is where we get into such things as trying to force guys to invest in new shoes. If every guy is wearing the same outfit, then it is fair and equitable...so your friend the engineer does not have to go out and purchase a grey suit, while your other friend the stockbroker already has three grey suits and six pairs of dress shoes to choose from.

    What has been happening with weddings has really floored me. So much etiquette goes out the window. A guy will wear a two-piece business suit for his ultra-formal cathedral wedding instead of the required formalwear because he "doesn't want to wear a rental." Etiquette is there for a reason, gentlemen.
     
  2. archibaldleach

    archibaldleach Senior member

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    Frankly, most rentals are not of the best quality and do not fit particularly well and on one of the most important days of one's life, one wants to look one's best. The idea that a wedding party should match is something we get from the rental industry and has no justification in the history of classic mens' clothing. These things have nothing to do with executive business dress and I don't think much of the advice around here is based on that either. If a wedding actually calls for a particular type of formalwear that one does not actually own, then I'd agree that renting is a lesser evil than being dressed incorrectly, but outside of the wedding party the odds of needing anything more than a suit are pretty minimal, and if you're the one getting married, you set the dress code. The idea that wearing a suit to a wedding in a church or cathedral is somehow improper is something tough to take seriously, at least in most parts of the United States, though I allow this may be different in other parts of the world. A suit IS ultra-formal to most people. I personally struggle to find 6 nights a year to wear a tuxedo and I live in a major U.S. city. As for a morning coat, I wore a rental once and it was not the end of the world, though I'd be surprised if I wore another anytime soon. I'd love to see traditional daytime and evening formalwear play a larger part in our daily lives as much as anyone, but in many parts of the world the idea that formalwear is required and a suit is improper is (sadly) not justifiable.
     
  3. MrDaniels

    MrDaniels Senior member

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    From what I can see, a wedding photo with six guys in matching mediocre formalwear looks better than six guys with mismatched, cheap suits.

    There actually are good rental places that will take good care of you and give you style and fit (hint: NOT Men's Wearhouse...)
     
  4. archibaldleach

    archibaldleach Senior member

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    Sure. If we're comparing crappy cheap mismatched suits to rented formal attire, I can see where you're coming from (though there's no reason one couldn't incorporate subtle variations that stay within the rules, e.g. shawl vs. peak lapel if this was an evening reception, etc.). If most of the wedding party already owns decent suits, then I think we're having a different discussion. It probably depends on one's location and social circles whether this is the case.
     
  5. Barbaracy

    Barbaracy New Member

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    HI all
    Thank you for this forum it helped a lot in our clothes planning for our wedding.
    We are getting married in couple of months in Greece and I got the dress (long bit off white) but we are very very confused with the suits selection. That's why we need your advice to make some decision.
    We were looking for suits and what came down to is:

    1) Canali suit for 810eur (1060 USD)

    and i know you wont like this but pls give it a look
    2) Massimo Duti "MTM" with Loro Piana Super 160s (or super 130s) fabric.
    MTM is not same service as i think is in other hi-end stores as they told me we will try existing suit and then make some alternations to the measurements. Save the measurements and then send them to Spain and have it back in 5 weeks. They have all Loro Piana gamma from super 110 to super 160
    The suit costs around 500eur (650USD)

    I never thought that Massimo Dutti will match Canali but i was very very surprised when i saw the materials they are using for this service

    Moreover i am not sure if Canali and Massimo Dutti are at least half canvased

    They are both black suits


    Thank you very much guys

    Barbara
     
  6. Veremund

    Veremund Senior member

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    Black is good for a nighttime wedding, not good for a daytime one.
     
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  7. marcodalondra

    marcodalondra Senior member

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    For whatever reason a lot of people in southern Italy get married in black wedding attire, often versions of a Prince Albert coat with matching trousers and waistcoat, and it may be similar in Greece. I would opt for the darkest , almost black grey, rather then pure black
     
  8. Barbaracy

    Barbaracy New Member

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    Thank you marcodalondra and becnal for your comments. It is night time wedding. I will ask him to look for darkest grey to see how it looks.

    But what is your pick on the two choices?. Which one to go for. Canali or Massimo Dutti (with Loro Piana super 160 or 130)?

    Thank you :)
     
  9. Banebt

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    I am not sure how the suit is done (half/full/none Canvassed ) for Massimo but it looks very interesting deal for that quality of fabrics. If it is half canvassed i would say go for it (Massimo) if not, i am not very competent to tell. I will wait for other more experienced members.

    I am interested to see their opinion too
     
  10. marcodalondra

    marcodalondra Senior member

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    I have a suit in Loro Piana Tasmania S120 that held up well after 10 years but had to replace the trousers due to moth damage and the matching colour/fabric was now only available as s130 and is already showing signs o wear, so would not go to S160 in any case. Loro Piana fabric S130 will cost close to 500 euro for a suit lenght itself without tailoring cost, so the price looks inviting, however I would be more concerned with the styling details. Can you post pictures?
     
  11. Barbaracy

    Barbaracy New Member

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    I will definitely post if he decides to go for it. And then It needs 5 weeks to be ready
    I will post whatever he buys.
    So your pick is Massimo with Loro Piana 130?
     
  12. marcodalondra

    marcodalondra Senior member

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    no, was just commenting on the fabric value. I have done a quick search on google images and came across some pictures of their styling: narrow lapels, too trendy cut for what I can see. I came across the blog mensflair.com where he talks about ordering one of those MTM suit. The guy has been ridiculed here and on other forum before but you may want to ask him or directly to the shop about construction (canvassed/half canvassed/fused)
     
  13. Veremund

    Veremund Senior member

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    Nighttime? Then it's the right time to wear a tuxedo! :D
     
  14. mountainstyle

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    I'm heading to a wedding in SoCal at the end of the month and wearing a blue linen suit. It's an outdoor wedding and more casual and I've got two questions.

    I'm going to buy a classic wedding tie, but the choice is between raw silk, linen, or regular woven silk. I'm not sure if the more textured fabrics help or hurt in conjunction with the linen suit and the white cotton shirt.

    As for shoes, if my new job comes through before the wedding, I will buy a quality pair of black oxfords which I know are the proper choice. If it doesn't then my options are AE medium brown monkstraps or AE walnut bluchers.
     
  15. RogerC

    RogerC Senior member

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    I'm not sure about the classic wedding tie with linen suit. It's quite a gap in formaility and might look incongruous. Perhaps you can play with texture? Raw silk? grenadine? Otherwise, consider a summery neat.
     

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