I'm going to apologize in advance for the long post... please read it. My older cousin's getting married next weekend, and I'm still not sure what to wear. He's always been the black-sheep of the family (he's the one who'd show up to xmas dinner in a spike covered leather jacket, with a bright green mohawk... kinda funny since he's now a lawyer), and just from talking with his fiancee and him, I know it won't be your traditional wedding. Â She is wearing a regular dress, rather then a wedding dress, and they refuse to play the typical wedding music at their reception [they mentioned that one set will be completely industrial (think Nine Inch Nails)]. Â As his fiancee put it, "we actually want people to have a good time..." For the reception I was thinking of this: Black & grey pants from Express (they're difficult to explain, they're denim and have a casual look to them, but are cut and styled like dress pants). Black leather belt from Kenneth Cole. Black ankle boots from Kenneth Cole. Dark grey, almost black velvet blazer. What shirt should I pair with this? Plain white dress shirt (with or without a black tie?)? More casual dress shirt from Kenneth Cole (black with black striping), and again with or without a tie? If I go with the tie, I was thinking of wearing it loose, with the top button of my shirt undone (kind of "spent the day in business meetings, now I'm meeting friends for drinks" look). Would it be sloppy to have the shirt untucked? I'm trying to decide between 1 outfit and 2 (there's a 3 hour break between the ceremony and the reception, so plenty of time to change). Â Would changing for the reception seem overdone? Â They're very low-key, and I wouldn't want to take any of the focus off them. Would the outfit listed above be appropriate for the ceremony?