Nerd dating

I would venture a guess that you've eliminated more like 90% of the American female population... but NYC is not a bad place to be to find cultured intellectual women (at least in the US) There are a few in Boston too.

I imagine that if your friends share somewhat similar interests to you that they probably know some people who may as well, never hurts to ask if they know anyone who you may like.

 

i think you've narrowed down your options to about 2% of the population. being smart and being an intellectual are two different things. (i love smart women, but intellectuals bore me.)

good luck.

 

there should be an ivy league-type dating service there - they have them in most metropolitan areas.

or try local alumni clubs, they usually have a social calendar.

 

I've got to disagree with the assumption that professional women will be the ones interested in art, etc... From my experience, these same people are so focused on their niche that you can't have a meaningful conservation about anything else.

However, working class women who are barely surviving won't have time either to develop any appreciation for aescethics either.

Instead, just go to art museums and art festivals.

 

Im kind of feeling the same way as you. San Diego is really an awful area to meet intellectual women, though. I keep dating these attractive women whose personalities seem so unsubstantial and uncultured that it gets boring to play the same game over and over again.

Then again, I'm not interested in professionals. I just want people who are interested in life and art. I couldn't care if she was living on the street, to be honest.

 

I've got to disagree with the assumption that professional women will be the ones interested in art, etc... From my experience, these same people are so focused on their niche that you can't have a meaningful conservation about anything else.
Completely agree. Or, they are so intense about everything they do (tri-geeks and climbers are especially daunting - dated both types) that they are sort of scary. Try academics, especially middling ones (i.e. not at the top of their field) - who usually have a lot of other interests and are not completely focussed on grant proposals, research projects, etc..., and graduate students, especially in the liberal arts, who, trust me, manage to distract themselves with many, many hobbies. How do you think I got to read philosophy, work with a stylist, etc... during my time at Caltech?
I am behind you 100%, I have been hanging out with academic types recently, and they seem to be some of the most interesting, knowledgeable people that I've ever met. I would love to date a girl who had these characteristics.

 

I think all these generalizations are way too hard to make. Human beings are not so monolithic -- it's like telling you "only date black people, they know how to dance and have a good time." Instead, I submit that you will continue to have difficulties dating women until you stop calling yourself and viewing yourself as a "nerd". If you believe it, it will show. Be cognizant that just as you decided that she was nice, but not very interesting, she was likely making the same or similar decision about you. You have to offer up something attractive here if you want to catch a woman, hook, line, and sinker. Giving her a "nerd" isn't going to be very attractive bait. Work on yourself first. The women you would like will notice and come to you. My $0.02. Â

 

i always thought it was "hook, line, and sink her." well put vero.

 

Hmmm.. I think he was meaning he's looking for a nerd-type, and personally I see nothing wrong with this. I would hate to be dating someone who was concerned with not being a nerd. Basically, I think nowadays, at least for kids my age, if you aren't "cool" in it's most shallow definition (a.k.a. frat, stoner, surfer, whatever), then you're a nerd. So dating nerds isn't all that bad.

I think the whole point is that the coolest people in terms of intuitive personalities and general chill factor are what you may consider "nerds."

 

But some of THESE people are truly the nerds in life.

It's an attitudinal thing is all I'm saying...