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Need tie advice for funeral

Chips

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I have a funeral to attend to today, and I already have the black suit picked out. I am wondering if this tie would be inappropriate. I can pick up a more somber black one, but I thought I'd seek out advice first.

Thanks in advance.

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The color is pretty accurate in the photo. It's a navy blue with the stripe.
 

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This is a funeral. You're not really meant to think so much about fashion.
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I would personally go for a black tie.
 

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I would choose a black one - however, judging by the funerals I have attended, the tie shown should be perfectly ok; I can hardly imagine that your outfit would not be considered appropriate anywhere in the western world.
 

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I think the tie in the pic is subdued enough to be fine; however, if you have a black tie, then I'd wear it.
 

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Thank you. I just went out and got one, just in case this one was not right. It doesn't have any bold stripes, but it does have a small dot pattern. About to leave, so I don't have time for a pic.

Thanks again.
 

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Although I love that tie Chips, being exactly the pattern of tie I regularly wear to work, I think you should wear a black.

Trivia note: of course if you were attending the funeral of a loved one in Sweden you would wear a white tie. In Sweden black ties at funerals are only worn by the church attendants, organists etc. and undertakers. A family member in a black tie at a funeral in Sweden is considered a great
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A funeral is as much a celebration of the life of the deceased as a sombre occasion. I would therefore wear something to reflect the character to the departed, subdued if a boring fellow/woman something brighter if laughter and gaiety were the norm is his/her life.
 

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Standard practice is pretty sombre dress including neckties. I tend to run towards mutted colours when I go funerals (thankfully have not had to go to one recently).

When I exit stage left, I am leaving instructions for attendees at my memorial service to wear something colourful.
 

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Go for a solid dark color. Remember, this is a funeral. The attention should be geared too the family of the deceased, not on yourself. Leave your vanity at home.
 

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Originally Posted by GBR
A funeral is as much a celebration of the life of the deceased as a sombre occasion. I would therefore wear something to reflect the character to the departed, subdued if a boring fellow/woman something brighter if laughter and gaiety were the norm is his/her life.
Funerals are a little more than just celebrating the life of the deceased. It's also a time to grieve and come to terms with a lost one; to realize that a death has occurred. As presence pointed out, the attention shouldn't be on you, but the family and close friends of the deceased, and most importantly towards the deceased his/herself. You want to be as conservative as you can, unless the "host" gives you the ok.
 

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Originally Posted by gopunk
Solid black or navy.



+ 1. Although I've noticed that at the last few funerals I've attended (too damn many lately) people don't seem to put much thought into what they wear to funerals thses days. I recently saw a pallbearer sporting a crimson pull over sweater.
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And the vast majority of mourners show up in some form of jeans.
 

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