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[Need Advice!] girl problems....

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by dontbam, Aug 10, 2006.

  1. Get Smart

    Get Smart Senior member

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    and if thats the case, its still a shame because i could have tapped it on the first night and would have been done with all this already

    you should always tap whenever the opportunity arises. otherwise if you never get to, and you knew you could have, it will always haunt you and bug you. I'm doubtful there's any merit in the "i want something more with her so that's why I didnt sleep with her" argument. It's an odd attempt at chivalry that isnt based on much logic or sense.
     
  2. lawyerdad

    lawyerdad Senior member

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    yea.. but thats the problem in the first place. Im not looking for someone to just sleep with and pull a one-nighter, im lookin for someone to really connect with and be in a happy relationship with..

    i havent had so much in common wit a girl before as i had wit her so its tough when all the signs point to danger

    So much in common? You're a flaky alcoholic with major self-esteem issues and no respect for the feelings of others?
    Dude, if you're looking for someone to "really connect" with, get the hell away from this one.
     
  3. dontbam

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    So much in common? You're a flaky alcoholic with major self-esteem issues and no respect for the feelings of others?
    Dude, if you're looking for someone to "really connect" with, get the hell away from this one.


    yea.. very true.. thanks. I think im just gonna keep the game goin with her for distraction while I really go look for someone else
     
  4. Rome

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    you should always tap whenever the opportunity arises. otherwise if you never get to, and you knew you could have, it will always haunt you and bug you. I'm doubtful there's any merit in the "i want something more with her so that's why I didnt sleep with her" argument. It's an odd attempt at chivalry that isnt based on much logic or sense.
    High Five to you Sir. I was reading this thread and it boggled my mind that no one had pointed this out before. Waitning to sleep with someone is a game you can only play when youre already sleeping with some one else. I also dont get where guys get the notion of waiting to sleep with someone because you think they are special. You shouldt want this broad at this point but if youre gonna chase it anyways then stop being polite and write about someone else in your blog.
     
  5. chicagobull

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    yea.. very true.. thanks. I think im just gonna keep the game goin with her for distraction while I really go look for someone else

    Don't give up on this one yet.. Girl's play mindgames, and this one doesn't sound all that different than other girls aged 19-23. Of course she is a lush, and of course she wants to go have fun, and of course she is trying to lead you on. That is part of the fun. Just keep your confidence, don't be a puppy dog, and be spontaneous. If you see her out partying with other guys, don't be awkward, and don't stay away and stare at her longingly.

    Plus, she is a cheerleader, and she has probably been getting attention from men since she was 10 years old. Just be yourself, but be just a little bit different from all the other losers who are trying to get with her.

    Bottomline, I think you have the right idea... stick this one out for another couple weeks, but don't put too much stock in it. You probably won't have the chance to date too many cheerleaders for the rest of your life, and cheerleaders are the holy grail.
     
  6. Rome

    Rome Senior member

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    Cheerleaders are the holy grail. Weird, I always thought triple jointed girls were the holy grail...
     
  7. rockket

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    Triple jointed cheerleaders.
     
  8. Joffrey

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    Thanks for the helpful replies.

    She called me last night and told me that she was sorry for bailin out on my because its been a hectic week for her and she invited me to go out and eat lunch with her sometime next week.

    I just told her that shes always too busy and if she really would do what she says, so I will just think about it and get back to her later.

    that should be ok right?



    Nah, you shouldnt have said as much. YOu should've remained noncomital (read dont display your emotions). YOur whole spiel about her not having the time and not sticking to her word sounds like a whiney dude with nothing other to do but wait on her call. Which may not be true but it smells like that. Like I said stop calling in her, next time she calls you dont pick up, then run into her somewhere and be like whatever. CHildish games but thats what this degenerates down to. You can still be interested in her but dont let her percieve that!! Anyway you could still be with her in the end but it'll take playing this game for some time (if she holds her interest), otherwise it wont amount to anything and you wont look like some tool she left in the dust
     
  9. imageWIS

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    wow. who the hell have YOU been dating?
    And not. And have and Fucking Florida chicks! Jon.
     
  10. malek

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    hahahahahahahahahahaa nice website for this topic [​IMG]

    Anyways, let's be serious.

    In this story we only have one point of vue.
    Maybe if the cheerleader was here to defend herself we would've heard something different!

    When you had your first night with her, you thought that this was the starting of a serious relationship. What if she was just trying to have fun, like when u saw her drunk in that bar with other men?

    Plus, u may have given her the impression of going too fast. And maybe she doesn't know if she wants to be with a guy, so she's hesitating. One day she wants to hang out with you and the other day she changes her mind...

    The best thing to do is to leave her alone. She has your phone number, she knows u have good intentions so if she needs u she will give u a call.
    Meanwhile, don't wait for her cuz she may not wait for you neither.

    Malek has spoken.

    Amen.[​IMG]
     
  11. rdawson808

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    yea.. but thats the problem in the first place. Im not looking for someone to just sleep with and pull a one-nighter, im lookin for someone to really connect with and be in a happy relationship with..

    i havent had so much in common wit a girl before as i had wit her so its tough when all the signs point to danger



    Good lord, man, run away. She does not want a relationship. If she did you'd be set.

    You are quite literally in the same situation that I was describing above--it will not work. No matter how perfect you think things could be with her (things in common, physical attraction, etc.) if she isn't into it--and she's clearly not as evidenced by her behavior so far and by what your friends have said--that's that.

    bob
     
  12. dontbam

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    well thanks for the input. Ill just wait it out like you guys said. She does call me like almost every night or so, so ill just talk to her occasionally and if she asks me to do anything, ill just go out wit her if im not busy.

    Ill see how things go in a few weeks or so, but in the mean time probably shouldnt devote to much time.
     
  13. acidboy

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    i'd advise against waiting it out, just leave it as it is- going further with a girl like that in all probability will give you more trouble than what its worth.
     
  14. The False Prophet

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    The problem with kids today (I'm 21 [​IMG]) is that they view relationships as a transaction, looking to get as much as they can in exchange for, often, the least input. That's what this girl seems to be doing. On the one hand, she deserves nothing better to be treated the same way.

    On the other, it's a trap that you can fall into which will get in the way of a more serious relationship.

    I've often debated with myself the merits of sleeping around while looking for the right one. I think it's a reasonable path to take (as long as you're not misleading girls into thinking it's any more) as it keeps you sane, and with a healthy perception of your own attractiveness, which will help you net the right girl in the long run. On the other hand, you can often get bogged down in it and end up missing real opportunities. Or worse, getting a reputation as the wrong kind of guy.

    It was very prescient of whichever movie star (Charlie Sheen I think) - himself easily capable of picking and choosing his women - to note that he paid prostitutes not to have sex with him, but to leave afterwards.

    I'm not advocating ladies of the night, just for the record. But just making the point that there's really no sex to be had gratis, without at least some emotional and social commitment.

    Best of luck,

    Eden
     
  15. dontbam

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    hey guys.. just an update

    i did keep my guard against her.. she would text me and stuff like that and i do respond juss to be respectful.. she wanted me too meet her at a bar, I told her maybe but i didnt show up and told her few days later i was occupied with something else (I believe she got quite upset).. We did go out this past weekend just cause i told her id take her out ...

    but of course she still plays those damned games i.e. tellin me she would call me after work but never call or tellin me to wait for her so she could hang out wit me but never showup/dissapear for the night or something stupid.

    Although I would like to ignore her.. it seems she always wants to get my attention somehow.. I think i still like her.. i guess.. but i could care less now i think

    So, I think im just gonna go up to her and tell her i like her. If she rejects me, meh oh well - ill give her some heartbreakin speech and make her feel miserable and walk away. If she likes me, well maybe something will actually happen or maybe ill get laid. Win win situation i think. Good plan?

    I dont really just wanna ignore it all cause im kinda pissed off of these games
     
  16. Get Smart

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    So, I think im just gonna go up to her and tell her i like her. If she rejects me, meh oh well - ill give her some heartbreakin speech and make her feel miserable and walk away. If she likes me, well maybe something will actually happen or maybe ill get laid. Win win situation i think. Good plan?

    No. You're walking down the path of destruction, failure, and endless nights whackin off to a memory. Hope your porno collection is good.

    I dont know why you just dont hang out with her at some point, get likkered up a bit, and make a move on her. If she is totally grossed out by that you can blame the cheap booze. If she is receptive, then you're good to go. I dont get this whole "give her an ultimatum" thing...were you raised to pee sitting down, because your actions as you indicate are very pussy, and girls dont like pussies unless they're bi..!!

    but keep us posted on what happens, I like stuff like this, helps replace the lack of quality teen drama like 90210 or Dawson's Creek in my life
     
  17. j

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    Snap!

    (+1)

    BTW, if not Jason's plan, then give her the let's just be friends speech (she will be very confused) and then date her friends. Not in a passive aggressive attempt to get her, she just undoubtedly has hot friends.
     
  18. dontbam

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    Well see i would do the get trashed idea, but she finds very drunk guys very unattractive (i.e. i will not get any if i do that).. like i said, she likes to play games so she will get drunk, get u drunk, flirt wit u like no other than ditch. It will end me wit a bad case of blueballs.

    Im 100% sure the only way in is by messin wit her emotions based on the long talks we had and my observations

    Friends speech will get me nothing. And her friends are either ugly, HIV-infested kinda slutty, or very hot but has a boyfriend

    but like i said ill keep u posted
     
  19. johnapril

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    Yeah…and they are fucking retards. Sorry if this offends anyone, but chicks our age (I’m 23, you guys are a bit younger…but not by much) are morons. I don’t mean in an intellectually sort of way, I mean when it comes to relationships. They just can’t seem to hold one together, it’s all a game of smoke and mirrors. If they like a person, they should go out with them, if not they end up losing them; seriously, their attitude is insanely masochistic. Sorry, rant over. Jon.
    I would agree with you on this if you are referring to American girls. But there is more to be learned. Involve and abuse yourself.
     
  20. poorsod

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    I agree with Getsmart. I think in order to really know if she wants you, you have to make a move. She herself probably doesn't know the answer because it is such an emotional reaction. But first you should try to stack the odds for yourself - if EtOH won't do it, you may have to try good old fashioned romance. [​IMG]
     

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