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moving and kids

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by thekunk07, Aug 28, 2010.

  1. thekunk07

    thekunk07 Senior member

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    how to deal? we are looking at houses 10 mins from our current house but different school district. kids are freaking. how do you deal? we/they have some of our best friends are right near by, so this is going to be a hard sell.
     
  2. Harold falcon

    Harold falcon Senior member

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    Dear kids,

    Mommy and Daddy have to move because we can't afford the adjustable rate mortgage on this giant house and need to downsize. I know it'll be tough leaving your good friends and having to make new friends with the poor kids on the other side of town, but ultimately it's a character building exercise and you'll thank me in 20 years. Also, poor teen girls are way easier than rich teen girls.

    Love,

    Mom and Dad
     
  3. thekunk07

    thekunk07 Senior member

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    ^except it's the opposite. will be moving to a town where we will be the white trash by comparison. the listed median income is 225k and i like to work on cars and spit.
     
  4. Harold falcon

    Harold falcon Senior member

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    Then sorry buddy, I have no advice for you. Maybe buy the kids ice cream and a puppy?
     
  5. thekunk07

    thekunk07 Senior member

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    ^the puppy might work.
     
  6. Rambo

    Rambo Senior member

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    Parents today. All worried about their kids feelings and shit.
     
  7. ysc

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    Tell them they will still see their friends and they will adjust to the rest. It's true if you are just moving 10 minutes away.
    I moved several times as a kid, and much further than 10 minutes down the road and beyond a couple of weeks it just stopped bothering me. I kept a few close friends from each move, even though they were countries away and I could only see them every couple of years, I am still friends with some of them now, it may seem a big deal to your kids now, but they will get over it fast.
     
  8. HRoi

    HRoi Senior member

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    wait, why are you moving 10 mins away? seems like you just listed all the reasons not to
     
  9. thekunk07

    thekunk07 Senior member

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    Much better high school, much larger homes without much increase in taxes
     
  10. tiecollector

    tiecollector Senior member

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    It's only 10 minutes, they'll adjust easily and quickly. Not like they can't see certain people if they want to. Character building, kids are going to have to toughen up. I grew up moving around, it sucks but you forget about the old school after a month or so.
     
  11. shellshock

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    we moved in 5th grade. i also changed schools in 5th grade but my best friend changed with me from private school to public so we survived that together. in 6th grade i went to a new school and i was scared but i managed. [​IMG]
     
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    spb_lady Senior member

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    it sucks but you forget about the old school after a month or so.

    try to explain it to a 10-year old girl now [​IMG]

    my parents moved a lot around the city, but i fighted for the right to go to MY SCHOOL, though it took me more then an hour to get there during last years. my younger sister changed school every time we moved... and yes, that sucks.
     
  13. acidboy

    acidboy Senior member

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    how old are yer kids, Kunk?
     
  14. Douglas

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    Haha your kids go to public school LOL.
     
  15. globetrotter

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    1. I did it pretty much every year, kids deal. one move isn't going to kill anybody

    2. see what you can do to help keep some of the best friendships going, while encouraging to meet new people and move on. my son has had his best friend move every year for the past 3 years, shit happens.


    good luck
     
  16. MrG

    MrG Senior member

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    Perhaps you could spin in as a positive thing? Something like "I know you're going to miss your old school and friends, but we're only going to be a few minutes away from your old friends. Plus, you get the chance to make new friends and go to a new school."

    Basically, instead of emphasizing what they're losing, emphasize what they have to gain.
     
  17. otc

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    How old are they? I am guessing they are pretty young to have that response with no obvious recourse...

    If they were 14 or so and only 10 minutes away, you could try to keep them enrolled in their current district and ferry them to school (or to a bus stop across the border) until they can drive themselves to school...or if it is really short, throw them on a bicycle.

    Much younger and (while I never moved after kindergarten) I would think they would be better off hating you for a while until they get used to it.

    How will schools work...have your schools started yet (even if not...you probably aren't moving before labor day)? Will they have to switch in the middle of the year? If you don't switch them in the middle of the year, will you have to ferry them to the old district? Then they might want you to keep doing it forever...
     
  18. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Senior member

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    Tell them to suck it up or they will grow up to be even bigger pussies than you are kunk.
     
  19. Thomas

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    Tell them they're moving to Armpit, OK and are never coming home again. Then tell them you're all only moving 10 minutes away. Relief settles in.
     
  20. JayJay

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    Tell them about the additional fun and space they'll have at the new house as well as the additional fun and resources they'll have at the new school. Of course kindly let them know it's not their decision.
     

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