most polite way to turn down a wedding invitation?

[crazyquik]

I have two upcoming weddings on the same day, and have been sent 'Save the dates' for both. I need to turn down one of them, and I already know which one. What's the best way to do that? Before formal invites come out? After? In a written letter? Etc. I've never had this problem before

 

[Joffrey]

Uh, call and say you can't make it.

 

[Krish the Fish]

Or *once* you get a wedding invite that has an rsvp attached, RSVP.

 

[Matt]

one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

 

[Nereis]

Originally Posted by Matt

one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

+1

Being genuinely sorry you can't make it to their wedding and giving them a nice gift is the best thing to do.

 

[HEARTLESS-531]

Classy

Originally Posted by Matt

one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

 

[Kiwi Man]

Originally Posted by Matt

one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

I like!

 

[crazyquik]

Originally Posted by Krish the Fish

Or *once* you get a wedding invite that has an rsvp attached, RSVP.

That seems a bit impersonal.

 

[ter1413]

Originally Posted by crazyquik

That seems a bit impersonal.

then call and say that you can't make it...

 

[dragon8]

Originally Posted by Matt

one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

LOL! But a nice gesture to see them the night before.

 

[IndianBoyz]

Just explain your reason and don't go, make the correct decision according to your consciousness. It's not really that tough now, come on.

 

[ter1413]

Call and tell them now. That way they can invite someone else....

 

[JayJay]

Originally Posted by ter1413

Call and tell them now. That way they can invite someone else....
This. Let them know right away that you can't make it. I did this last week for a wedding occurring in May.

 

[BP348]

Call and tell them you got invited to another wedding on the same day and already told the other person you would attend their wedding.

 

[West24]

i can see how this can be a sticky situation especially if they are both friends. in matts case he was sorta lucky its his brother, noone can question him on that. i wouldnt want to be in that situation picking over 2 friends.