most polite way to turn down a wedding invitation?

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  1. crazyquik

    crazyquik Senior member

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    I have two upcoming weddings on the same day, and have been sent 'Save the dates' for both. I need to turn down one of them, and I already know which one. What's the best way to do that? Before formal invites come out? After? In a written letter? Etc. I've never had this problem before [​IMG]
     
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    Uh, call and say you can't make it.
     
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    Or *once* you get a wedding invite that has an rsvp attached, RSVP.
     
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    one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.
     
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    one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

    +1

    Being genuinely sorry you can't make it to their wedding and giving them a nice gift is the best thing to do.
     
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    one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.
     
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    one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

    I like!
     
  8. crazyquik

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    Or *once* you get a wedding invite that has an rsvp attached, RSVP.

    That seems a bit impersonal.
     
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    That seems a bit impersonal.

    then call and say that you can't make it...
     
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    one of my best friends from home got married on the same day as my brother. I called him and said "dude, there are like four people in this city for whom i would fly back to be a part of their weddings, and two of them were dumb enough to choose the same day!" Sent my apologies and went and saw them the night before with a gift and my best wishes. I think I handled it well.

    LOL! But a nice gesture to see them the night before.
     
  11. IndianBoyz

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    Just explain your reason and don't go, make the correct decision according to your consciousness. It's not really that tough now, come on.
     
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    Call and tell them now. That way they can invite someone else....
     
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    Call and tell them now. That way they can invite someone else....
    This. Let them know right away that you can't make it. I did this last week for a wedding occurring in May.
     
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    Call and tell them you got invited to another wedding on the same day and already told the other person you would attend their wedding.
     
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    i can see how this can be a sticky situation especially if they are both friends. in matts case he was sorta lucky its his brother, noone can question him on that. i wouldnt want to be in that situation picking over 2 friends.
     

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