Messed up and slept with a colleague...

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  1. hboogz

    hboogz Senior member

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    If you think she has the potential to be the "crazy-type" you need to talk and let her know what you want. either she is down for some more or she isn't, either way you can get back to work without any unnecessary tension (assuming there is any)
     


  2. thomazzz

    thomazzz Well-Known Member

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    Jesus, I can't wait for this to blow up.

    Which isn't to say that it won't, I've just never seen nor personally experienced an instance where it didn't eventually.

    But hey dude, enjoy yourself. When looking back on these little adventures you rarely end up regreting them.
     


  3. shawbecca

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    [​IMG] Gentlemen (?): Ya know, I just signed up on this site to get some wedding (NO, not MINE) etiquette info and I have to tell you, I'm trippin'...............I'm a widow (3 1/2 years) and haven't even begun to THINK about dating, so haven't put much thought into all the "trials and tribulations" of the bullshit that goes along with that game. Then, I come into this forum to find a guy who sleeps with a colleague, gets his jollies, is obviously STILL in lust (don't know many men that aren't 24/7) and is now concerned as to what to do about "it". Hmmmmm......let's see.......dontcha think a little honesty would go a very long way here? Now, think about it - you string her along to aid and abet your (what I affectionately call) "Third Leg Syndrome", then one day you decide enough is enough, or perhaps you meet a new little playgirl and no longer have any use for the colleague. Damn! dude! You're in BIG trouble now cuz ya gotta break it off and kick her to the curb ("Gee, sweetie, it's been real - gotta go!). This woman is gonna be pissed! and you know the old adage, "Hell hath no fury blah, blah, blah....."[​IMG] Take it from a woman who's been around the block a few times - tell her what you've told here - you like her, she's hot, wanna "play" but don't wanna "pay". Chances are she's looking for a husband but by being honest, you save a lot of heartache and grief for all concerned. And, ya never know - she just might like the casual set-up and be good with that. But, in the end, you'll respect each other in the morning!!! Good luck with that! Ciao!!!!!
     


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    spertia Senior member

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    Damn, look at Shawbecca breaking it down for you.
     


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    Damn, look at Shawbecca breaking it down for you.

    +1. Way to make an entrance.
     


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    [​IMG] Gentlemen (?): Ya know, I just signed up on this site to get some wedding (NO, not MINE) etiquette info and I have to tell you, I'm trippin'...............I'm a widow (3 1/2 years) and haven't even begun to THINK about dating, so haven't put much thought into all the "trials and tribulations" of the bullshit that goes along with that game. Then, I come into this forum to find a guy who sleeps with a colleague, gets his jollies, is obviously STILL in lust (don't know many men that aren't 24/7) and is now concerned as to what to do about "it". Hmmmmm......let's see.......dontcha think a little honesty would go a very long way here? Now, think about it - you string her along to aid and abet your (what I affectionately call) "Third Leg Syndrome", then one day you decide enough is enough, or perhaps you meet a new little playgirl and no longer have any use for the colleague. Damn! dude! You're in BIG trouble now cuz ya gotta break it off and kick her to the curb ("Gee, sweetie, it's been real - gotta go!). This woman is gonna be pissed! and you know the old adage, "Hell hath no fury blah, blah, blah....."[​IMG] Take it from a woman who's been around the block a few times - tell her what you've told here - you like her, she's hot, wanna "play" but don't wanna "pay". Chances are she's looking for a husband but by being honest, you save a lot of heartache and grief for all concerned. And, ya never know - she just might like the casual set-up and be good with that. But, in the end, you'll respect each other in the morning!!! Good luck with that! Ciao!!!!!
    wouldn't you just love to hear that read in a Selma Diamond voice?
     


  7. gomestar

    gomestar Super Yelper

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    [​IMG] Take it from a woman who's been around the block a few times

    paging Conne.

    Unless that's how shawbecca found StyleForvm.
     


  8. starcrash

    starcrash Senior member

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    Gentlemen (?): Ya know, I just signed up on this site

    Nice first poast, Chewbacca.
     


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    Nice first poast, Chewbacca.[/I]

    You're a douche.
     


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    [/color][/b] Nice first poast, Chewbacca.[/I]
    Don't be a dick. Especially as your long standing hardly qualifies you to be critical of someone's earlier postings. ~ Huntsman
     


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    [​IMG] ...I'm a widow (3 1/2 years) and haven't even begun to THINK about dating, so haven't put much thought into all the "trials and tribulations" of the bullshit that goes along with that game...

    You wouldn't, by any chance, own a liquor store, do you?
     


  12. Douglas

    Douglas Stupid ass member

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    Dilemma:

    a) ask for body pictures and suck up the timeout?

    or

    b) leave the sock puppet be.

    man, tough call.
     


  13. Flambeur

    Flambeur Senior member

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    lol... just be how you were to her before. That's what she liked about you and liked it enough to sleep with you in spite of the fact that you were a colleague. Lets face it...she got screwed (literally) and she knows that. She is the one with the anti-slut defense but you must have done something to let her know that its OK and that you can handle it.

    So dont change a thing. In fact the best advice is don't change on her. If it happens again let it. If not ...that should be fine with you too... let her make the call.


    [​IMG] Gentlemen (?): Ya know, I just signed up on this site to get some wedding (NO, not MINE) etiquette info and I have to tell you, I'm trippin'...............I'm a widow (3 1/2 years) and haven't even begun to THINK about dating, so haven't put much thought into all the "trials and tribulations" of the bullshit that goes along with that game. Then, I come into this forum to find a guy who sleeps with a colleague, gets his jollies, is obviously STILL in lust (don't know many men that aren't 24/7) and is now concerned as to what to do about "it". Hmmmmm......let's see.......dontcha think a little honesty would go a very long way here? Now, think about it - you string her along to aid and abet your (what I affectionately call) "Third Leg Syndrome", then one day you decide enough is enough, or perhaps you meet a new little playgirl and no longer have any use for the colleague. Damn! dude! You're in BIG trouble now cuz ya gotta break it off and kick her to the curb ("Gee, sweetie, it's been real - gotta go!). This woman is gonna be pissed! and you know the old adage, "Hell hath no fury blah, blah, blah....."[​IMG] Take it from a woman who's been around the block a few times - tell her what you've told here - you like her, she's hot, wanna "play" but don't wanna "pay". Chances are she's looking for a husband but by being honest, you save a lot of heartache and grief for all concerned. And, ya never know - she just might like the casual set-up and be good with that. But, in the end, you'll respect each other in the morning!!! Good luck with that! Ciao!!!!!

    Oh hey there noobs. I'm slightly creeped out but thanks for the advice.

    Mini-update for those still following my adventure: We've pretty much been at it every day now. Didn't get busted yet. The sex is absolutely mind blowing, I have to work hard to keep up with her sex drive.

    No complaints, she still might turn out to be crazy, but even then it would have been worth it.
     


  14. KitAkira

    KitAkira Wait! Wait! I gots an opinion!

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    This thread is useless without pics.....
     


  15. acidboy

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    This thread is useless without pics.....

    or vids
     


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