Messed up and slept with a colleague...

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by Flambeur, Jan 17, 2010.

  1. fredfred

    fredfred Senior member

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    btw - when I was younger I thought the same as you. "No sex with co-workers" was the safer route. In retrospect... wrong answer. You spend so much time there, why not take advantage? (avoiding the obvious problems, of course).

    It's easier to meet women at work, since you already have an introduction.
     
  2. medtech_expat

    medtech_expat Senior member

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    So he should just leave it up to her interpretation if he continues to see her? We know that women always see things rationally. [​IMG] ... it's up to the OP to weigh the risks, but to act like there aren't any is just dumb.

    You misunderstood my point. By "the talk" I was referencing the inane "we work together, I have to be responsible, so that shouldn't happen again, yada yada." Of course there are risks - what adventure with the fairer sex doesn't involve it? (unless with your S.O., although some may debate even that.) I merely advised that he should ensure that both parties understand what the interaction involves (e.g. sex) and what it doesn't (e.g. relationship) - this is the antithesis to "leave it up to her interpretation." [​IMG]

    My own experiences have been limited to women who were even more career-oriented than myself, based in another country or higher up the ladder: I've found that this pre-selection criterion to be successful. YMMV.
     
  3. acidboy

    acidboy Senior member

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    Smalltimers' option: quit
    Bigtimers' option: hire an entirely new staff.


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    Bigtimer's option: sleep with two colleagues.
     
  4. NakedYoga

    NakedYoga Senior member

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    At your next big team/board meeting, have flowers delivered to her.
     
  5. shiftless_bum

    shiftless_bum Senior member

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    Here's a thought:

    Sit down with her and ask her what she thinks about the situation, instead of trying to tiptoe around whatever you (or the strangers on this board) think that she might be feeling.

    If you can both talk about it afterward, future tension will be minimized.


    This. For all you know she's having a similar internal debate "He's a hot piece of ass but what if it gets 'complicated'?" And yes, women can think this way too.

    A close colleague and I had a 6 month affair, we're still good pals and no harm done. The hardest part we had was keeping a straight face in the boss's office knowing we'd had sex on his desk the week before. In today's security intense environment, probably not the best idea though.
     
  6. Flambeur

    Flambeur Senior member

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    So ask me again in a couple months if this was a good decision...
     
  7. BrianVarick

    BrianVarick Senior member

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    I believe Ron Burgundy had the perfect response to this very same problem[​IMG]
     
  8. MetroStyles

    MetroStyles Senior member

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    Look at me I slept with a coworker. I'm so cool.
     
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    clee1982 Senior member

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    One reason why never I get trashed in office party...
     
  10. Flambeur

    Flambeur Senior member

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    Look at me I slept with a coworker. I'm so cool.

    Look dude, I just wanted to protect your good reputation. Sorry. I guess everyone already knows about us anyway. Might as well come out.
     
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    jobro Senior member

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    Use your upper hand advantage on her to step over her and gain a promotion.
     
  12. MetroStyles

    MetroStyles Senior member

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    Look dude, I just wanted to protect your good reputation. Sorry. I guess everyone already knows about us anyway. Might as well come out.

    I'm never sucking your needle dick at the gala again.
     
  13. heyshootme

    heyshootme New Member

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    I'm never sucking your needle dick at the gala again.

    HAHAHA
     

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