MEGA-Douche Roommate

[tiecollector]

First, from my experience, this guy sounds like only a slightly below average roommate for a single male.

Second, if you move in with him, at this point, I do not feel sorry for you at all.

Third, most people who are friends and live together do not remain friends.

Fourth, I had a roommate who would use my scrubby poof thing and there would be undigested pieces of lettuce in it. He refused to buy me a new one even though it only cost like $1.99. He also had his friends over and they got drunk and vomited all over a small bathroom rug. He refused to wash it and called me "Dad" when I asked him to after a month. We don't speak anymore.

All good though.

 

[Pantisocrat]

Has anyone tried community living? 3 guys, 3 girls, communal partners?

 

[KPO89]

I would be the one sounding like a douche if I told you to just stop posting on the internet about it if you aren't really willing to man-up...and I would be a douche. So lets try to be constructive:

I would have probably been more cool with this if he had asked first and told me which shirt he was interested in borrowing

Very Understandable. Have you communicated this to him? The majority of conflict that occurs between anyone is the result of lack of communication. You both have different thought processes and what he did could be completely OK to him because he honestly doesn't recognize it as having an effect on you. I find that most people don't do things because they think it will hurt/affect others but they do them out of ignorance.

we aren't high school girls

I can see how this is easy to cloak in masculinity but if this guy is doing what his "mother thinks is fair" about moving fees after he has received a signing bonus then he probably doesn't know how men should be acting.

Take the time to constructively criticize him to his face...otherwise you will be just pushing this inexperienced roommate on to someone else. If not for the sake of his lifestyle for the sake of this:

"Aldo has the best shoes"

 

[gam29]

#4 DECIDING ON A FLOOR PLAN

After finding an apartment that we both liked, he immediately starts telling me how we should lay out the floor plan before the lease was even signed. He begins the conversation as such. "So I've been thinking about how we should lay out the floor plan...I really want to make this place look nice, like a pimped out bachelow pad". He then proceeds to tell me that he wants to put up Soprano's posters in the living room. He tells me where and how all of my furniture should be laid out in the common space. I suggested to him that it may be a good idea for me to sell my couch since I have a very large sectional leather couch that takes up a lot of space, and perhaps downsize to something a little more compact. He said that he likes the couch and that it will be fine. He then tells me he wants to mount my LCD TV above the kitchen bar, and that I should get rid of the TV stand I have. I asked him why he wants me to get rid of it since it does not take up that much space. He says I should get rid of it because he wants to have a dining table because "eating at the kitchen bar is ghetto". I said that if he wants a kitchen table, then he can take care of researching whether a TV can be mounted above the bar in the first place, paying for the mount/installation, and be fully responsible should anything happen to the TV, wall, floor, etc as a result of the mounting (and potential falling) of the TV.

A side note about about where he wants to mount the TV: on the back side of the wall where he wants to mount the TV, we have a bunch of kitchen cabinets. The last thing I wanted was for him to drill through those while trying to mount the tv. He also had no clue whether or not there were any beams or places he could anchor the TV too in that part of the wall. You would think someone with an engineering degree from a good school would be able to figure out the basic essentials for how to mount a TV.

Back to the story now: He then tells me that he thinks it would be fair if I split the cost of the kitchen table and bar stools with him. I mean, seriously? I'm bringing my couch, TV, all my kitchen appliances/supplies, and miscellaneous electronics (video game consoles, wireless router, etc). His cheap ass can't buy a couple of bar stools and a table (which I don't even want) from Ikea?

Of course, to this day, the TV is happily sitting on the TV stand because he is too cheap and too lazy to research how to mount it. I also made him pay for the bar stools and table, which he paid <$150 combined for from Walmart because "Ikea was too expensive".

 

[Kuro]

So far this just reads like an episode of the Odd Couple. When does the MEGA-Douche part begin?

 

[akatsuki]

Not sure why this thread has gone on so long.

You are being his *****. So man up and kick his ass out.

 

[Gradstudent78]

Why are you still moving in with this guy?

 

[deadly7]

Originally Posted by akatsuki

Not sure why this thread has gone on so long.

You are being his *****. So man up and kick his ass out.

Originally Posted by Gradstudent78

Why are you still moving in with this guy?


Because he's a *****.

 

[w.o.e.is.me.]

i don't understand why, given the preliminary warning signs, you would go ahead and move in with someone like this...only to gripe about it later.

 

[deadly7]

Originally Posted by w.o.e.is.me.

i don't understand why, given the preliminary warning signs, you would go ahead and move in with someone like this...only to gripe about it later.

I'm feeling deja vu

Originally Posted by deadly7

That would require growing a pair of balls and acting like a guy. Instead, the OP will continue to live with him until he hates every aspect of his life and will cry about his roommate on SF.

 

[SladeDT]

Your buddy isn't going to change. Look for another roommate.

 

[Fuuma]

Originally Posted by RedLantern

I would rather live with the OP's roomate than the OP. OP's roomate sounds like a slob, but the OP is wound too tight for living.

Borderline clinical case.

 

[yjeezle]

Originally Posted by KPO89

Good friends typically don't make good roommates. To much expectations. I experienced this. We aren't friends anymore.

+1. I've had this happen before as well.