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Love triangles

Discussion in 'Social Life, Food & Drink, Travel' started by MetroStyles, Aug 24, 2008.

  1. bant

    bant Senior member

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    It doesn't matter whether or not it was an exclusive committed relationship. Makes no difference whatsoever. I don't know about how it works for you guys, but as a guy in his late 20s living in nyc i have many friends in committed serious relationships and just as many single buddies in "limbo" with various girls they casually see or quasi-relationships, etc. it is (and should be) an unspoken rule that if your friend is romantically involved with another person that you don't make a play for that person regardless of circumstances. shit happens and in this case hopefully it isn't a huge deal but its still not the right thing to do.
     
  2. BYucko

    BYucko Senior member

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    So a love triangle. You love your ex. Your ex loves your friend. Your friend loves....you?

    hooooooooooooomoooooooooooooooooooooooooo

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    All kidding aside, your friend should have talked to you first if he knew. End of story.
     
  3. Etienne

    Etienne Senior member

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    This isn't a logical exercise, it's human nature.
    Indeed it is and you are showing yourself in a poor light so far. What your friend did might not be very elegant, but it is not wrong. It is understandable that you be affected a little, but it is not understandable that you let it show or act on it (as in not seeing your friend anymore).
     
  4. MetroStyles

    MetroStyles Senior member

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    Indeed it is and you are showing yourself in a poor light so far. What your friend did might not be very elegant, but it is not wrong. It is understandable that you be affected a little, but it is not understandable that you let it show or act on it (as in not seeing your friend anymore).

    On the contrary, my dear Etienne, he is the one who showed himself in a poor light. I just choose not to associate with people like that. He wasn't my best friend, this won't change my life. But by all means, everyone marches to a different drummer, so please feel free to continue in the French tradition of getting screwed and turning the other cheek. Salut!
     
  5. kaxixi

    kaxixi Senior member

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    Metro, if he's your best friend, you'll probably want to find a way to get over this. There's no doubt in my mind that he's in the wrong, but people make mistakes--forgive it.
     
  6. MetroStyles

    MetroStyles Senior member

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    Metro, if he's your best friend, you'll probably want to find a way to get over this. There's no doubt in my mind that he's in the wrong, but people make mistakes--forgive it.

    Sorry if I misspoke earlier, but he is not my best friend. He is a good friend that I spend nights at bars with, but no one I would consider a brother. I probably have 10-15 friends closer to me than him. I probably should forgive him, but I guess I'm being stubborn.
     
  7. A Canuker

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    On the contrary, my dear Etienne, he is the one who showed himself in a poor light. I just choose not to associate with people like that. He wasn't my best friend, this won't change my life. But by all means, everyone marches to a different drummer, so please feel free to continue in the French tradition of getting screwed and turning the other cheek. Salut!

    Oh come on now this is just a pity story going now. I think you need to dust of that chip on your shoulder and stop slagging the forum members who are replying to your posting. You seem to be going from one side to the other, first its "I'm not hurt cause it doesn't matter, its not like I had any emotions for her" to "Well, we were in this non committed, quasi committed fuck buddy thing" to "He's a jerk who stole the love of my life, who can't measure up to me but still my ego is hurt".

    Sorry it happend, it tends to when you run in a circle which has people who sleep around. Best to next time keep it in your pants if it hurts this bad.
     
  8. redgrail

    redgrail Senior member

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    I guess I'm being stubborn.

    No, you're being childish. But that's your prerogative.
    He made an unclassy move, but you're really overreacting here.
     
  9. Lady Canuker

    Lady Canuker Senior member

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    Oh come on now this is just a pity story going now. I think you need to dust of that chip on your shoulder and stop slagging the forum members who are replying to your posting. You seem to be going from one side to the other, first its "I'm not hurt cause it doesn't matter, its not like I had any emotions for her" to "Well, we were in this non committed, quasi committed fuck buddy thing" to "He's a jerk who stole the love of my life, who can't measure up to me but still my ego is hurt".

    Sorry it happend, it tends to when you run in a circle which has people who sleep around. Best to next time keep it in your pants if it hurts this bad.


    +1 I am in complete agreement here.
     
  10. Fabienne

    Fabienne Senior member

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    Get the girl back, that'll make you feel better.
     
  11. MetroStyles

    MetroStyles Senior member

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    Thanks for all your advice. I have been childish in dealing with this. The issue is closed in my book and I will be moving on. My emotions just got the better of me. More than anything I think it was a blow to my ego, which caused an immature reaction. Apologies to anyone I insulted in the course of this thread.
     
  12. West24

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    apology accepted.
     
  13. acidboy

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    Post her pictures here. It'll make you feel better. [​IMG]
     

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