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Looking Better = Treated Better

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by tokyocean, Dec 17, 2013.

  1. tokyocean

    tokyocean Senior member

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    Although we like to think that our workplaces and educational institutions look deeper for one's skills and inner qualities, it's unfortunately not always the case. We are often treated better if we happen to look better. I know this may be considered common sense or common knowledge by now, but what are your thoughts on this?
     


  2. acidboy

    acidboy Senior member

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    I get what the OPs saying, but ime I treat everyone the same way, with disdain.
    anyway- "looking better" is subjective... whats more important and what really works from what I observe is confidence in yourself = better treatment
     


  3. Svenn

    Svenn Senior member

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    The human experience isn't exclusively cognitive, and would certainly be quite bleak if it was, so I think it's perfectly legitimate, to an extent, to judge people based on their looks. While societies differ on specifics, a well-proportioned face generally correlates to good health and youthful attributes; but more importantly, it indicates the individual came from parents that had the means, resources, and good taste in that society to acquire a desirable mate to produce such spawn. We can rant all day how 'superficial' this is, but the fact is that humans invariably mate with others of the same attractiveness level, with very few exceptions; ...it's instinct.

    But it only goes so far. I would say an attractive person is treated better initially in interactions, but if for instance it's a man, then his personality and mental capacities are going to matter a hell of a lot more as the interaction continues. If it's a woman, she'll continue to be treated well regardless, but if she's an idiot then it's only going to be a shallow level of coddling.

    Bottom line is, as guys, we're stuck with our faces so it just comes down to clothing and grooming to try to slightly boost that first impression. All of which is dwarfed by the importance of being thoughtful, secure, patient, creative, etc...
     


  4. mensimageconsultant

    mensimageconsultant Senior member

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    Things generally don't level out over time. Two reasons are everything is filtered through previous interactions (e.g., halo effect) and most people don't get to see many others without their social masks.
     


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    Why is it unfortunate that we are often treated better if we happen to look better? Do you think that people have any more control over their native intelligence than their in born physical looks? People don't ask to be born stupid any more than they ask to be born ugly.

    I for one would rather work with attractive, well groomed people who care about their personal hygiene than ugly smelly slobs. And it would take a pretty big differential in competence to make me rather work with an ugly stinko in black square toed corrected grain shoes.
     


  6. Fang66

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    Bullshit, being hung like a donkey, or having a massive rack is what's more important and what really works from what I observe.
     


  7. Fang66

    Fang66 Senior member

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    FTFY
     


  8. FonDeeEn1854

    FonDeeEn1854 Active Member

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    As long as you have a great personality you should be good
     


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    JayJay Senior member

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    You're ugly, am I right?
     


  10. Distorbiant

    Distorbiant Senior member

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    You sure sound like a joy to work with.
     


  11. GreenFrog

    GreenFrog Senior member

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    I can verify that being good looking, tall, well-dressed, but most of all, polite when necessary AND unnecessary, has led to my being treated better in certain circumstances.

    It helps that I am a founding member of the Official StyleForvm Handsome Men's Club, too.

    JayJay can confirm.
     


  12. Distorbiant

    Distorbiant Senior member

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    Being white helps the most.
     


  13. Harold falcon

    Harold falcon Senior member

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    This thread needs to check its rich white cisgendered heteronormative privilege.
     


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    Fang66 Senior member

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    And you sound like an ugly stinko in black square toed corrected grain shoes.
     


  15. Distorbiant

    Distorbiant Senior member

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    You've spent almost 5 years masturbating to pictures of girls on styleforum. You have a history of homophobic comments.

    Worst of all, you don't even wash your hands after you piss.


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