Living with your GIRLFRIEND

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  1. SField

    SField Senior member

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    It depends upon the rules used to define a given relationship. Rules are best made before a marriage is entered ... not that they can't be later amended, added, or lost.

    Mine put it this way, "Darling, monogamy when it comes to sex is meaningless ... I only demand it socially. There will be no public appearances with someone else."


    So you don't mind if she sleeps with other people?
     
  2. jfclarky

    jfclarky Senior member

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    Pro: You're one step closer to marriage.
    Con: You're one step closer to marriage.


    After two years $20k later an 2.5k ring i'm getting married, these women are very expensive.
     
  3. LeadSmall3BetAllIN

    LeadSmall3BetAllIN Well-Known Member

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    Do you want to lead your second life in the basement or out? Your second persona is less likely to be discovered when she's where you put her, so all former advice given on convenience is quite false.
     
  4. impolyt_one

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    I tell bitches I have a credit score of 750, therefore I refuse to cohabitate with them. I need my own space so as to bask in my pimpin credit score.
     
  5. impolyt_one

    impolyt_one Senior member

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    <---- has lived with girlfriend for 2 years
     
  6. Redwoood

    Redwoood Senior member

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    If you need a plan B to fall back on, you're obviously not ready.
    If you want to cohabit in order to save money, you're probably not ready.
    The reason you move in with a romantic partner is because you want to spend as much time as possible with them. Because time spent together is better than time spent apart. And that's pretty much it.
     
  7. Wackadoodle

    Wackadoodle Well-Known Member

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    My GF and I moved in together our senior year of college, though more out of a fluke with housing than a genuine desire to live together. It probably wouldn't have worked out under most circumstances, but considering the shitstorm that was 2006-2007(her dad getting cancer, my brother committing suicide, all our other roommates being complete nutjobs) we could lean on each other and got through the year.

    We continued living together after graduation, but it was too much and we got our own places. We're still together (5 years now) and occasionally talk about cohabitating again, but it probably won't happen for another year or two and when it does, it'll need to be a decent-sized place. No more one-bedrooms.

    I guess what I took from it was; you can move in together, but moving out again isn't a step down in the relationship.
     
  8. vinouspleasure

    vinouspleasure Senior member

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    funniest thing I've read in a long time:
    I tell bitches I have a credit score of 750, therefore I refuse to cohabitate with them. I need my own space so as to bask in my pimpin credit score.
    wisest:
    The reason you move in with a romantic partner is because you want to spend as much time as possible with them. Because time spent together is better than time spent apart. And that's pretty much it.
    and saddest:
    I have, one of those, the greatest man alive fathers...
     
  9. Pilot

    Pilot Senior member

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    I tell bitches I have a credit score of 750, therefore I refuse to cohabitate with them. I need my own space so as to bask in my pimpin credit score.

    <---- has lived with girlfriend for 2 years

    Not true pimpin.
     
  10. impolyt_one

    impolyt_one Senior member

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    Well, my credit score is not 750 either, I think it's about 740. [​IMG] If in doubt about living together, check to see if she passes the no makeup test. (see thread a few lines below for reference)
     
  11. gomestar

    gomestar Super Yelper

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    ^^ : /

    I don;t agree with any of that nonsense. I hope you don't use that advice as your guiding principal.


    Do you think that craziness would have not happened had you never let her move into your house?

    +1
     
  12. otc

    otc Senior member

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    Seems to me like it would be a bad idea not to live with your girlfriend before you get married...what are we going to suggest next? Not having sex with the girl before marrying her? Not even meeting her before marrying her?

    I can see the virtue in not moving in with a girl who you don't think you are going to marry...but if you think you are going to end up with her, it seems like you might want to try it out *before* the wedding.
     
  13. jenlain

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    Have lived with my girlfriend for more than a year. I asked her to live with me when I moved to a new city. She lives in my home and I have not asked for a financial contribution from her (I prefer it this way, as there is no question about who owns the home in the event we break up).

    I could not imagine getting married with a woman that I have not lived with. I think it is critical to see how she operates everyday and determine whether the more mundane interactions of life together will be pleasant. Living together puts you in a bubble from which you cannot easily escape. Marriage will do the same thing and I think its important to see if you can handle this before taking the big step.
     
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    So you don't mind if she sleeps with other people?
    No. Nor do I want to know about it.
     
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    I tell bitches I have a credit score of 750, therefore I refuse to cohabitate with them. I need my own space so as to bask in my pimpin credit score.
    How on earth does living with someone ruin your credit score. Don't you maintain separate accounts? I don't even have a joint checking account with my wife ... after 30+ years.
     

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