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Light grey suit . What shoes and socks to wear to a wedding?

Discussion in 'Classic Menswear' started by ramze, Jun 12, 2012.

  1. Beardman

    Beardman Member

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    On the sock question, I'm a simple guy with simple rules. My navy and mid-blue suits get Pantherella cotton ribbed socks in navy, my charcoal and grey suits of all shades get the same socks in mid-to-dark grey. (I can't handle patterns on my dress socks since I think they look garish, and anyway don't hold up to washing too well. And I hate the feel of wool on my feet and ankles, I don't care what's right for winter vs. summer and all that.)

    With a truly light grey suit, I'd consider wearing a light-to-mid grey sock. (On the other hand, I doubt I'd wear a truly light grey suit -- mid-grey is as light as I'd go.)

    As for shoes, I don't see any disrespect in wearing brown shoes, as long as they're dress shoes made of leather. Sneakers would be a problem. (Even black ones.) That is assuming the affair is in the US. Different rules in Britain and other Britishoid places. I travel to the UK often and am not brave enough to wear anything but black shoes there, especially in the City where the bankers roam. (Even though I've started to see a few brown shoes around -- maybe American expats or just IT people who are playing in their own league....)
     
  2. RDiaz

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    Yeah, it looks like she can't convince him because he firmly believes those loafers are "classic" and "stylish". I hope we can convince him to get at least a pair of Meermin cap toes, which are unexpensive [​IMG]
     
  3. fritzl

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    why?
     
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    So you'd wear black shoes with a seersucker suit? Cream linen? That's a good way to look like an idiot.

    You're talking about an artificial rule that's nowhere near universal, and in many contexts makes absolutely no sense. I have nothing against black shoes, unlike many here, but I'm going to ignore any absolutist pronouncement about what always must be the case and go with what actually makes sense for a given situation.

    Seersucker suits and white bucks are good enough for the US Senate (they used to be de rigor in summer, now with a/c they're more of a fun thing), they're good enough for me.
     
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    Do they have a cat? They could disappear, and the fiance could say the cat peed in them and she threw them out. She then has you take him shopping. You get him that pair of 5th avenues, and give him a nicer pair of brown loafers as a wedding present.
     
  6. fritzl

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    we can stop here...
     
  7. RDiaz

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    Lol!
    Perhaps having them mysteriously disappear is indeed a good idea [​IMG]
    AE's are hard to find and expensive around here, but I'll make sure he doesn't regret going shopping for a nice pair...
     
  8. sevenfoldtieguy

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    I will be attending a wedding this afternoon at 5pm in a place of worship. I will not be wearing black shoes. I will not be dressing to make a fashion statement. The wedding is not about me; rather, it is about the couple, more particularly the bride. I have enjoyed the back and forth of this thread. In my judgment, black shoes are mandatory for funerals, but not for weddings.
     
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  9. fritzl

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    oh well...
     
  10. Gdot

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    To each their own. Since the wedding is at 5pm I'd have to say the rules are 'flexible'.

    It would be interesting to hear back from you how many well dressed men you see at this event who are wearing brown shoes. Or just the proportion of brown to black.
     
  11. sevenfoldtieguy

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    At most American weddings - this one being no exception - ones finds broad styles of dress, with some in attendance being dressed entirely too casual for the gathering at hand. Moreover, this particular wedding was one I knew I knew would lean towards more casual as opposed to more formal. For those men at least reasonably well dressed, I would put the split at about 50/50.
     
  12. Beardman

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    I don't know how to answer that question. It's like asking why wearing a blue suit instead of a grey one would be disrespectful. It wouldn't be, that's all.
     
  13. Beardman

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    Oops, I was answering a question from Fritzl earlier in the thread asking why I said brown shoes were ok. Shoulda quoted his question in my answer..
     
  14. marcodalondra

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    I think even in the US there were better times when people followed some sort of etiquette:

    http://www.emilypost.com/everyday-m...ge/69-attire-guide-beach-casual-to-white-tie-

    The difference is that in Europe people still reference to the Debrett's and Donna Letizia texts.

    People on this forum, who should care about dressing well and appriopratelly, should definetely uphold those rules.

    So go for black shoes , As in any case, the op particular choice of model and colour does not go well with his suit ( as for early picture)
     
  15. buzzron

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    Black shoes hands down and dark socks.
     
  16. Beardman

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    The Emily Post link cited by Marco says:

    • Dark, business suit
    • matching vest (optional)
    • dress shirt
    • conservative tie
    • dressy leather shoes and dark dress socks

    So why insist on black shoes? All it says is "dressy leather shoes."

    Why not Allen Edmonds chocolate-brown leather cap-toe balmorals? Why not Alden color 8 (dark wine) cordovan bluchers? Heck, if you've got the money, why
    not John Lobb bespoke shoes like this (at $6,000+)? I think wearing perfectly fitting, beautifully crafted shoes like this will result in more (and probably better) dancing at the wedding reception! [​IMG]

    [​IMG]
     
  17. marcodalondra

    marcodalondra Senior member

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    You are taking it out of context. Dressy leather shoes, in a semi-formal environment means BLACK and if you read her original books, you would get to that conclusion, as brown drssy shoes would be considered "sporty" edit: Similar scenario at Royal Ascot. This year for the first time, they had to specify black shoes for the Royal Enclosure, as in recent years people started to wear "dressy" brown or other colours shoes...
     
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  18. SMatthews

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    I think black or dark brown shoes look good from some pictures I've seen online.
     
  19. Patrick30

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    It's crazy to me to see so many people on this board talk about weddings as if they are funerals. Most wedding aren't some uptight, conservative black tie affair. I've been to several weddings the past couple years and have a few more to attend this summer/fall. The weddings I've attened people dress up and dress in fun. You see men in shirts of teal, orange, red, green, purple . A dress shoes is a dress shoe weather black or brown. Oxford or blucher . I swear . Go online, look at people's pictures of weddings. The only people who wear this "strict" dress code are old men who've never adapted to changes in society
     

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