Life after university is depressing...

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  1. Reevolving

    Reevolving Senior member

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    I agree that post-college life is just so much better in every way. You have a career, an income, a trajectory you're working on. New hobbies, new skills. More travel, assets, maturity. As a man, 20s dating is better than college, and 30s dating is even better than 20s.

    You're just going through a transition. Try to live in a populated area with other young people. Are you in a big city? Time to break out of your sheltered shell.
     
  2. Matt

    Matt [email protected]

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    Dude this is not hard. Figure out what you like to do. Join a club based around that activity. Go to club meetings or whatever. Voila. You have friends that at least have on area of interest that you do.
    The reason you're depressed is because all you do is come home and do nothing. It's boring. It's not living. I'd be depressed as well.

    that sounds perilously like advice that I once gave you. Glad it sank in. That's how the world is supposed to work.
     
  3. enjoiii

    enjoiii Senior member

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    You sound depressing to be around, maybe that is why you can't make any friends.

    Can you not go out with people from your office? I would start drinking also, makes it much easier to meet people your age then being the guy that doesan't drink.
     
  4. West24

    West24 Senior member

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    if its that depressing, and the job isnt some magical one you some how scored, id really consider getting the hell out of edmonton. move to another city, mybe live with some roommates etc.
     
  5. Matt

    Matt [email protected]

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    I know how you feel but...Just listen to my song and the pain just melts away like lava.


    sick of this. stop it.
     
  6. West24

    West24 Senior member

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    sick of this. stop it.

    i know how you feel, and if youre sick of it, just listen to my song.

     
  7. kwilkinson

    kwilkinson Having a Ball

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    that sounds perilously like advice that I once gave you. Glad it sank in. That's how the world is supposed to work.

    I will never admit that I gained that advice from anything but personal experience and wisdom.


    Thanks, BTW
     
  8. leftover_salmon

    leftover_salmon Senior member

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    I am officially freaked out now that I've graduated. I'm at home for a bit and then moving to a new city where NONE of my friends from school will be (i.e. not NY). I'm not worried about meeting people there, but I'm worried that none of them will ever be as good friends with me as the people I met and lived with at college for the last four years, mainly because we'll all be working most of the time instead of having random days and nights of adventure. Hell, even when I think of adults, it seems as if most of their best friends are from college or earlier.

    Someone tell me this isn't the case.
     
  9. clubbyjones

    clubbyjones Senior member

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    Dude this is not hard. Figure out what you like to do. Join a club based around that activity. Go to club meetings or whatever. Voila. You have friends that at least have on area of interest that you do.
    The reason you're depressed is because all you do is come home and do nothing. It's boring. It's not living. I'd be depressed as well.


    This IS the solution and should be wisdom to every person who feels like the OP. You either trust and follow the advice or sit for years til you figure the exact same thing out on your own.


    It's not. When you start the friendship from scratch at this older age, you will become even better friends with them. Kinda common sense when you think about it; you know yourself better and can adequately realize who you relate and bond with the most based on personality and common interests. This will trump years of experience of growing up together, I promise.
     
  10. Fuuma

    Fuuma Franchouillard Modasse

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    I agree that post-college life is just so much better in every way. You have a career, an income, a trajectory you're working on. New hobbies, new skills. More travel, assets, maturity. As a man, 20s dating is better than college, and 30s dating is even better than 20s.
    You're just going through a transition. Try to live in a populated area with other young people. Are you in a big city? Time to break out of your sheltered shell.



    Like 100% of the times? You may think I am singling you out but the number of pronoucements you manage to make in a few short sentences is astounding.
     
  11. ZackyBoy

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    Fuck this... because of this thread I am staying for a MSc and PhD.
     
  12. oman

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    Like 100% of the times? You may think I am singling you out but the number of pronoucements you manage to make in a few short sentences is astounding.

    nothing wrong with being positive
     
  13. Fuuma

    Fuuma Franchouillard Modasse

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    nothing wrong with being positive

    Yes we can!!
     
  14. oman

    oman Senior member

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    are you saying you prefer posts like this:

    Fuck this... because of this thread I am staying for a MSc and PhD.
     
  15. Fuuma

    Fuuma Franchouillard Modasse

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    are you saying you prefer posts like this:

    I don't want to choose between Scylla and Charybdis. We're in a situation where there are other possibilities...
     

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