Lawyerdad help! I don't know what to do.

[tiger02]

OK, ****. Just, ****. I don't know how to handle this. Yeah, I'm admitting it. Last weekend I was back in the US, and met a girl. She was just...**** man, you know? I'm not usually like this and she's totally screwing me up. I don't want this, don't need this, there are plenty of Hungarian girls who are way hotter, not even close. But...****. And now I have an email from her, after thinking I would never hear from her again.

****. Someone help. Please. Ro...? Jesus can't even write "plan B's" name because more than a few people here probably know her. ****.

tom.

 

[Young Scrappy]

Pictures will help.

 

[LabelKing]

Inter-forum romances?

 

[Matt]

Originally Posted by LabelKing

Inter-forum romances?
Gee Tom, I knew you and globetrotter were close but.........

 

[tiger02]

Originally Posted by LabelKing

Inter-forum romances?
I try to stay away from romance in the workplace. She is working with some cut rate NYC clothing company far below forum acceptance. But, she's still hotter than Connie.

 

[lakewolf]

have tonight a foursome with 3 hungarian girls.... you'll have forgotten the other by tomorrow

 

[GQgeek]

Tom, have you learned nothing from my posts?

In all seriousness, what do you really expect to get out of it? Have you even thought about that? You're in Hungary and she's in NY. That's like, really far. ;p

 

[Saucemaster]

Man, I wish I knew how to help with this one, but honestly, whenever I've got to that point, it's been too late. I can't do anything but ride it out. That's not to say that's all you can do, but I've never been able to actually disengage my emotions once I've actually fallen for someone. The only advice I can give is don't dwell on her. Try to think about her as little as humanly possible (I know, easier said than done) and act like she's not on your mind even if she is, even when it's painfully clear to you that you're just acting. Eventually, feelings catch up to actions. It could take a while, though.

 

[whodini]

Originally Posted by Saucemaster

Man, I wish I knew how to help with this one, but honestly, whenever I've got to that point, it's been too late. I can't do anything but ride it out. That's not to say that's all you can do, but I've never been able to actually disengage my emotions once I've actually fallen for someone. The only advice I can give is don't dwell on her. Try to think about her as little as humanly possible (I know, easier said than done) and act like she's not on your mind even if she is, even when it's painfully clear to you that you're just acting. Eventually, feelings catch up to actions. It could take a while, though.

Is that what this is about? I glanced over just enough to read "plan B" and my face instinctively went for the "watching a guy get nailed in the crotch by a 2x4" look. I need to learn to read one of these days. My advice is heavy drinking and ego-boosting hookups.

 

[JetBlast]

Tiger,
I agree with the advice to think about her as little as possible and eventually she will slowly move away. It's been about 5 or 6 months since I broke up with the girl I loved and I am still finding it hard to adjust but it will come with time.

Just know that there are others in the same boat as you are.

JB

 

[Saucemaster]

Originally Posted by whodini

Is that what this is about?

I assumed that this was about Tom finding that he was having a hard time getting over a girl who lives in the States, while he's in Hungary for the foreseeable future with no desire to get tied down in a long-distance relationship that will limit his current options (which from conversations with him sound like they're quality) and inevitably be waaay more trouble than it turns out to be worth... but now I'm actually not sure. I might have jumped the gun.

More details, Tom?

 

[Kas]

The chance of this being your 'one special girl' is smaller than being hit by lightning. Thrice.

Even if she is 1 out of a million, there are 6000 people just like her.


This is what we call one-itis: the obsession over 1 woman, often paired with being overly friendly, trying to please her and in general sucking up to her. STOP. She is not a beautiful unique snowflake. Stop thinking about her!

This is easier said than done, after all:

'Don't think about a pink elephant. Don't think about a pink elephant chasing its tail in a tutu on a tricycle. Don't think about a pink elephant.'

What are you thinking about?


Solution: ******** with 10 other girls and see if she's still so special.

 

[GreyFlannelMan]

Originally Posted by JetBlast

Tiger,
I agree with the advice to think about her as little as possible and eventually she will slowly move away. It's been about 5 or 6 months since I broke up with the girl I loved and I am still finding it hard to adjust but it will come with time.

Just know that there are others in the same boat as you are.

JB

You're 15 years old for crying out loud! What are you doing posting advice on this subject? Watch more planes!

 

[whodini]

Originally Posted by Saucemaster

I assumed that this was about Tom finding that he was having a hard time getting over a girl who lives in the States, while he's in Hungary for the foreseeable future with no desire to get tied down in a long-distance relationship that will limit his current options (which from conversations with him sound like they're quality) and inevitably be waaay more trouble than it turns out to be worth... but now I'm actually not sure. I might have jumped the gun. More details, Tom?
Maybe I'm the one who jumped the gun. It's hard not to skim over an entry with more cursing than I like to hear from an ex-soldier in peace time. I don't know who Kas is but it sounds like he's on the right page from the book of Steve. Glad to meet another member. Where's Brian to chime in with a witty quote from "High Fidelity?" Thanks, GFM, for saying what the forum was thinking.

 

[offline100]

Sorry I'm not Brian, but here's a quote from High Fidelity: "I'm tired of the fantasy. Because it doesn't really exist."

You don't know this NY bird at all; you've just made up an idealized version of her in your head. And you'll never get to know the real her over email. If she's from NYC, she's probably seriously screwed up in the head anyway and just managed to hide it from you for one night. Of course she emailed you -- you're hot stuff, and she probably isn't.

Forget it; just pat yourself on the back for getting to whatever base you got to. You're a champ and you've got a lot of options right where you are. Don't spend your time on anything you can't get benefits from every day.