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Lasting longer in sex

Discussion in 'Health & Body' started by veggieman, Aug 30, 2006.

  1. GQgeek

    GQgeek Senior member

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    Zoloft is presecribed by physicians for this problem.

    You'll have to determine the appropriate dosage as it has varying effect from making last longer to having a hard time (no pun) finishing.

    ---This is the answer you seek from a medical standpoint.
    Also, changing one's position is also as previously stated however Zoloft (or other SSRI's) is your answer


    Serotonin for Premature Ejaculation

    Dapoxetine is a member of a class of drugs called selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors or SSRIs. This class of drugs includes several antidepressant medications such as Paxil or Zoloft that have also been used for the treatment of premature ejaculation. They work by increasing the amount of a chemical, serotonin, in the brain.

    Studies suggest that men with premature ejaculation have too-low serotonin levels. Dapoxetine has a potent, quick-acting effect on serotonin levels that makes it possible to explore its use as a premature ejaculation treatment.

    Also Dapoxetine when available.


    10 minutes isn't premature ejaculation. Pre-mature ejaculation is defined as ejaculating before penetration or shortly after (within a minute), not 10 minutes after. If this guy went on an SSRI, I can pretty much guarantee he wouldn't be able to finish. I've been on them before and after 30-40 minutes of supreme effort I still wouldn't be any closer. In fact, it's estimated that 30-50% of men taking it experience anorgasmia, ED, or both, which is definitely not a good thing. Some docs supplement with Wellbutrin, which helps in some cases, but there really isn't a solution that works for everyone.

    If the OP really wants to satisfy the girl, it's best to follow VM's advice. Either that or go for extended foreplay at the beginning and get her off, or at least get her close, before you start intercourse. That way she won't be disappointed when you finish in 10 minutes, which really isn't that bad compared to the average, especially among younger guys.
     
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    [​IMG]

    The Emperor Caligula directed many of his male entertainers, to constrict their copulatory organs with goat gut, sometimes for days at a time, in order for them to reach crescendoes, in unison. Splat.


    That sounds like something out of the joke "˜The Aristocrats'.

    Jon.
     
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    Holy shit. That's funny and horrible all at the same time.

    Jon.

    Another nominee for the Darwin awards.
     
  5. denimdestroyedmylife

    denimdestroyedmylife Senior member

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    The p0rn trick is to pull out and slap her area with your Senior Member, then once more into the breach. Good luck and... uh.
     
  6. Aristocrat

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    I would think of something like viagra or something like that, or as said, go down on her when you are about to cum...
     
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    The p0rn trick is to pull out and slap her area with your Senior Member, then once more into the breach.
    Har.[​IMG]
     
  8. Soph

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    10 minutes isn't premature ejaculation. Pre-mature ejaculation is defined as ejaculating before penetration or shortly after (within a minute), not 10 minutes after. If this guy went on an SSRI, I can pretty much guarantee he wouldn't be able to finish. I've been on them before and after 30-40 minutes of supreme effort I still wouldn't be any closer. In fact, it's estimated that 30-50% of men taking it experience anorgasmia, ED, or both, which is definitely not a good thing. Some docs supplement with Wellbutrin, which helps in some cases, but there really isn't a solution that works for everyone.

    If the OP really wants to satisfy the girl, it's best to follow VM's advice. Either that or go for extended foreplay at the beginning and get her off, or at least get her close, before you start intercourse. That way she won't be disappointed when you finish in 10 minutes, which really isn't that bad compared to the average, especially among younger guys.



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    I'll disagree that he won't be able to finish. You're correlating your own experience and trying to say / extropolate to all males. Sorry, that's poor man's logic/science.

    Its common sense that there is not a panacea for everyone. No offense.

    Its very dose related like any drug. You lower your dose, cut the pill in half. And please cite the study, the protocols, the patient type etc. so I can evaluate your citation of 30-40% etc. I would need multiple studies with dosage adjustments which you can't cite with that failure rate.

    10 minutes is longer than the average.

    1. I think a man should usually satisfy the woman first due to a few reasons, female sexual cycle, length of time to climax, her reception to intercourse goes much higher post climax usually, men's lack of drive after climax for foreplay etc. etc. USUALLY.
    2. You should lower your dose
    3. Any of the ED drugs could also be of benefit, there is some data to support this.
     
  9. mattjames

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    I can last for ages, always have. Even on my first time aged 14 I took ages to finish. When I was on SSRIs I would often not come at all. They make many men unable to even get aroused to begin with.
    Thicker condoms make things all numb and vague, so they might be a good idea.
     
  10. mrpologuy

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    Are you having sex with the same person or random people? If it is random people, it might not matter much how fast you are.
     
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    I find that the during the first 20 minutes it's really easy to cum but after that you become a little less sensitive and lets you last longer. I'd say to just pace yourself and don't tire yourself out or you'll never cum. Unless your girl is good at cowgirl style. She's a keeper.
     
  12. veggieman

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    Are you having sex with the same person or random people? If it is random people, it might not matter much how fast you are.
    well thats another long story... but basically i would still have sex with my ex girlfriend... till i found out that she had a Boyfriend. i thought it was pretty dirt bag that she would still let me hit it even tho she was going out with someone so i cut that off... but since then ive developed a network shall we say, of 3 girls who sporadically let me hit it. Its not so much for them its more for me… it does suck finishing so fast. But I don’t think I’m going to go to the doctor over this yet… considering I’m only 18… when I get into a serious relationship or married I’ll deff go to the doctor if the problem persists. thanks alot for the great responces!
     
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    Another nominee for the Darwin awards.

    Indeed.

    Jon.
     
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    I can last for ages, always have. Even on my first time aged 14 I took ages to finish. When I was on SSRIs I would often not come at all. They make many men unable to even get aroused to begin with.
    Thicker condoms make things all numb and vague, so they might be a good idea.


    maybe you don't like girls.
     
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    Its very dose related like any drug. You lower your dose, cut the pill in half. And please cite the study, the protocols, the patient type etc. so I can evaluate your citation of 30-40% etc. I would need multiple studies with dosage adjustments which you can't cite with that failure rate.



    I'm not sure these drugs are meant for extending ejaculation are they? They are meant for anxiety, depression, and can help with sexual compulsiveness because of the side effects of the drugs. Of course, anxiety could be a cause of premature ejaculation, and I'm being general, but the sexual side affects are side affects from the meds. I've never heard of them being prescribed for premature ejaculation unless the cause is secondary to anxiety.
     
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    maybe you don't like girls.

    That's a possibility. Have you tired to have sex with guys to see if you cum?

    Jon.
     
  17. GQgeek

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    I'll disagree that he won't be able to finish. You're correlating your own experience and trying to say / extropolate to all males. Sorry, that's poor man's logic/science.

    Its common sense that there is not a panacea for everyone. No offense.

    Its very dose related like any drug. You lower your dose, cut the pill in half. And please cite the study, the protocols, the patient type etc. so I can evaluate your citation of 30-40% etc. I would need multiple studies with dosage adjustments which you can't cite with that failure rate.

    10 minutes is longer than the average.

    1. I think a man should usually satisfy the woman first due to a few reasons, female sexual cycle, length of time to climax, her reception to intercourse goes much higher post climax usually, men's lack of drive after climax for foreplay etc. etc. USUALLY.
    2. You should lower your dose
    3. Any of the ED drugs could also be of benefit, there is some data to support this.


    Please don't lecture me about poor man's science when you obviously haven't done the research yourself. Initial estimates were that a relatively small number of patients (i think it was around 15%) would be affected by the sexual side-effects of SSRIs. Once they got out on to the market, psychiatrists realized that the number of people affected was a lot higher than originally estimated. Here's an excerpt from the abstract of a study that was published in the Journal of Clinical Psychiatry.

    "With regard to SSRIs, sexual dysfunction occurs in 50% or more of such patients, which is substantially higher than the rates reported in the Physicians' Desk Reference. The reason for this discrepancy is that patients will not spontaneously report sexual problems and must be questioned about such problems directly"

    Hirschfeld, RM. Management of sexual side effects of antidepressant therapy. Journal of Clinical Psychiatry 1999;60(Suppl 14):27-30


    SSRIs work very well for treating depression and my understanding is that most patients eventually find ways to deal with the effects, either by switching to a different SSRI, supplementing with various other drugs, decreasing dosage, etc. Some switch off them completely to something like Wellbutrin XR which is generally accepted to be less effective for treating depression but with less side effects. There's obviously no one solution for everybody because it's a complex problem.

    As for dosages, I think that should be left to doctors, but you're right, often times docs start off with too high of a dosage because the pharmaceutical companies have a habit of suggesting starting doses which are too high.

    Btw, if you agree that 10 minutes is longer than average, then why on earth would you suggest he take an SSRI?
     
  18. GQgeek

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    well thats another long story... but basically i would still have sex with my ex girlfriend... till i found out that she had a Boyfriend. i thought it was pretty dirt bag that she would still let me hit it even tho she was going out with someone so i cut that off...

    but since then ive developed a network shall we say, of 3 girls who sporadically let me hit it.

    Its not so much for them its more for me… it does suck finishing so fast. But I don’t think I’m going to go to the doctor over this yet… considering I’m only 18… when I get into a serious relationship or married I’ll deff go to the doctor if the problem persists.

    thanks alot for the great responces!


    Dude, it's really not a problem and there's no reason to see a doctor. 10 minutes is plenty long for 18. As you have more sex and get older, you'll last longer. Men like to brag about their sexual prowess but I have a lot of female friends that are completely unsatisfied because their boyfriends don't last long enough and it's a touchy subject to bring up. I'm sure their boyfriends all go around saying how much of a stud they are and how much their gf enjoys being pounded by them. It's a lie :p I don't know who you're measuring yourself against but I'd be a little bit sceptical if I were you.

    If these are casual hook-ups and the girls are sleeping with other guys, which is likely from the way you describe your situation, I'd advise against going down on them. The last thing you want is herpes or HPV. It's easy miss the symptons and get it anyway. Use fingers instead. Going down on random chicks is really asking for trouble.
     
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    I wish I had this problem and I'm being completely serious. I take way, way too long, often to the point of exhaustion, and I think I know why: I think about it too much. I'm very methodical. I think if you're lost in your own head and take a lot of the primality out of it you'll last longer. Might not be as fun, but it works for me (unfortunately). [​IMG]
     
  20. GQgeek

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    I wish I had this problem and I'm being completely serious. I take way, way too long, often to the point of exhaustion, and I think I know why: I think about it too much. I'm very methodical. I think if you're lost in your own head and take a lot of the primality out of it you'll last longer. Might not be as fun, but it works for me (unfortunately). [​IMG]

    I agree. I never understand these people that say they wanna have sex for hours at a time. If it's been 20 minutes (of actual intercourse) then it's time to finish. I'll generally get bored if it goes on much longer than that, which it has a couple of times. Besides, there's really no need to go longer if you build the girl up right in the first place.
     

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