No, I am a good friend who is loyal and who will help them when they need it. I don't care what some HR jackass on the phone thinks of me, but I care about my friends. It's funny how you just automatically characterize the HR person as a "jackass." It's nice that you don't jump to conclusions about people. Stick it to the man! Selling someone out is not the same as not feeling comfortable giving a reference. In fact, the term sell out, as used here, often implies subterfuge, which is precisely what I'm advocating against.